| How to Remove Facial Hair Permanently Posted: 16 Mar 2018 05:00 PM PDT If you have unwanted hair on your face, you've probably dreamed of getting rid of it forever. You may have tried other treatments, including creams or laser hair removal, only to be disappointed when you discovered they are not permanent. The only FDA-approved treatment for permanent hair removal is electrolysis, which uses shortwave radio frequencies to destroy the hair follicle.[1] Even with electrolysis, some hair regrowth may occur after a few years. If you're interested in trying electrolysis, research and consult with different electrologists and be sure to protect your skin before and after treatment. EditChoosing an Electrologist - Search online to find electrologists in your area. An electrologist is a person who has gone through special training to perform the electrolysis procedure. Research different electrologists in your area and make a list of the ones you think are most qualified. Try to find at least 3-4 electrologists to start with.[2]
- Look for electrologists with at least 5 years of experience in the field, with positive reviews on their business page and social media and a professional-looking website.
- Many cosmetic surgeons and dermatologists offer electrolysis in their offices, so you might want to start by searching for these.
- Ask your family and friends for recommendations.
- Read online reviews to get a good idea of an electrologist's previous work.[3]
- Check the credentials of the electrologists on your list. In many states, electrologists must be licensed or certified in order to practice. If you live in a state with these requirements, make sure that the electrologist's license is on display when you visit the office. If your state doesn't require licensure, choose an electrologist who has obtained certification from an accredited electrology school.[4]
- Even if your electrologist is licensed, check to see if they are registered with a professional organization, such as the American Electrology Association (AEA) in the U.S. This indicates a commitment to ongoing education in their field.
- Do not undergo a procedure from someone who is not certified.
- Attend several consultations before you make a decision. Write down any questions you have before your consultations and make sure you feel that they have been answered fully. Be sure to ask whether the electrologist uses needle electrolysis, as this is the only kind approved by the FDA and American Medical Association (AMA).[5]
- Some of the questions you might ask could include the length of each session, how many sessions the electrologist estimates you will need, and the cost of each session. You may also want to ask about how the procedure will feel and how long the clinic has been in business.[6]
- Make sure you talk to the electrologist about the results you hope to achieve. Show them where unwanted hair on your face is located, as this might affect the final results.[7]
- Ask about sanitary procedures. Since electrolysis leaves your skin vulnerable to infection, ask the electrologist what procedures the clinic practices to protect its patients. Do they wear gloves? Do they use proper sterilization procedures, such as wiping down all equipment with sanitizer or using individual needles for each client?[8]
- Look around while you're in the office. Ask yourself if the office and exam rooms seem neat and clean. Do the technicians and staff seem to be practicing sanitary methods? Check to see if the technician washes their hands before examining your skin. Most importantly, ask yourself if you feel comfortable. If the answer is no, keep looking.[9]
EditPreparing for Electrolysis - Be prepared for several sessions. Each individual treatment session may take only a few minutes or up to an hour, depending on how many individual follicles must be treated, but electrolysis often requires 10-12 treatments over a period of several months for desired results to be achieved. The appointments should be scheduled no closer than 1-2 weeks apart so that your skin has time to recover.[10]
- Do not shave or pluck the hair on your face for 3 days prior to treatment. The technician has to be able to grab the hair with a pair of tweezers in order for the electrolysis treatment to be effective. Refrain from shaving or tweezing before your appointment as you prepare for electrolysis.[11]
- Drink 8 glasses of water the day before your appointment. Dehydrated skin is more difficult to treat with electrolysis, so make sure you drink a full 8 glasses of water the day before your appointment. Hydration will help your skin to heal more quickly, as well, so keep hydrating after treatment.[12]
- Avoid caffeinated drinks the day of your appointment as they can increase your skin's sensitivity.[13]
- Wash your face with a gentle cleanser prior to treatment. Electrolysis can leave your skin vulnerable to infection as you recover, so it's important to make sure to thoroughly wash your face before treatment. Use a gentle cleanser and a light moisturizer.[14]
- Avoid harsh skin care treatments prior to electrolysis. Chemical peels, waxes, and other facial treatments can leave your skin feeling sensitive. This can lead to an uncomfortable reaction to the electrolysis treatment, so avoid these treatments for about a week prior your first treatment. Since your followup appointments will probably only be 1-2 weeks apart, wait until you have finished electrolysis completely before resuming these treatments.[15]
- Take deep breaths and listen to music to stay calm. To stay calm during the procedure, take deep breaths and focus on the results you hope to achieve. You can also bring headphones and listen to your favorite music.
- During the procedure, the electrologist will insert a very thin needle into the hair root, then remove the hair using tweezers. This process takes about 15 seconds per hair follicle. You may be given a topical numbing cream, or you can take an over-the-counter pain reliever prior to your appointment if you are concerned about discomfort.[16]
EditCaring for Your Skin after Treatment - Moisturize your skin after your appointment. The best way to treat your skin after electrolysis is to behave as though you have a mild sunburn. Use a lightweight lotion to make sure your skin gets plenty of moisture. This will help it to heal faster, help prevent scabbing and will relieve discomfort.[17]
- Do not touch or scratch your skin after treatment. Electrolysis leaves the hair follicle exposed for a short time after treatment. Touching or scratching your face can transfer bacteria to your vulnerable skin, leading to breakouts and infection. Try not to touch your face for the first 1-2 days after treatment. If you do need to touch your face, wash your hands first.[18]
- If scabs form, allow them to fall off naturally. Picking at them can lead to scarring.[19]
- Do not wear makeup for 1-2 days after electrolysis. If makeup gets into the hair follicle while it is healing, it can lead to irritation and possibly infection. Translucent powder is okay, but avoid all other forms of makeup for a day or two so your skin can heal.[20]
- Wear a hat and SPF 15 sunscreen if you will be in the sun. Make sure to protect your face from exposure to UVA and UVB rays after you undergo electrolysis. Sun exposure on recently treated skin can lead to a form of discoloration known as hyperpigmentation. You should always wear sunscreen with an SPF of at least 15 when you will be out in the sun, but it's especially important for the first 1-2 days after electrolysis,[21]
- Avoid strenuous exercise for 1-2 days. Sweating shortly after electrolysis can cause skin irritation and clogged pores, which can lead to an infection. Take a day or two off from the gym after your electrolysis treatment to ensure you get the best results.[22]
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| How to Say Happy St. Patrick's Day in Gaelic Posted: 16 Mar 2018 09:00 AM PDT A common way of wishing someone "Happy St. Patrick's Day" in the native Irish language is "Lá fhéile Pádraig sona dhuit!" If you want to sound like a well-versed Irishman or Irishwoman, though, there are a few other sayings and terms related to the festival that you should know. Here are a few worth reviewing. EditWishing Others a Happy St. Patrick's Day - Tell someone "Lá fhéile Pádraig sona dhuit!" This is a very basic, straightforward way of wishing anyone you meet a happy St. Patrick's Day.
- The expression means "Happy St. Patrick's Day to you!"
- Lá fhéile Pádraig means "St. Patrick's Day." Note that you could also shorten this to "Lá 'le Pádraig" in this saying and any other. The meaning is the same, but native Irish speakers often use the latter as a way of shortening the term to something more natural and casual.
- Sona means "happy" in English.
- Dhuit means "to you," when the "you" being referred to is singular.
- Pronounce the exclamation as lah leh PAH-drig SUN-uh gwitch.
- Wish "Lá fhéile Pádraig sona dhaoibh!" to a crowd. This sentiment adapts the basic way of wishing someone a happy St. Patrick's Day to a plural form. Use this version when you are talking to two or more people.
- The expression means "Happy St. Patrick's Day to you!"
- Lá fhéile Pádraig means "St. Patrick's Day." Note that you could also shorten this to "Lá 'le Pádraig" in this saying and any other. The meaning is the same, but native Irish speakers often use the latter as a way of shortening the term to something more natural and casual.
- Sona means "happy" in English.
- The use of dhaoibh also means "to you," but this Irish term is used in instances in which "you" refers to multiple people being spoken to.
- Pronounce this Irish greeting as lah leh PAH-drig SUN-uh YEE-uv.
- Exclaim "Beannachtaí na Féile Pádraig dhuit!" to one person. This phrase is a slightly more traditional and more religious way to wish an individual person a happy St. Patrick's Day.
- This expression means "St. Patrick's Day blessings to you!"
- Fhéile Pádraig means "St. Patrick's Day." Note that you could also shorten this to "'le Pádraig" in this saying and any other. The meaning is the same, but native Irish speakers often use the latter as a way of shortening the term to something more natural and casual.
- Beannachtaí na means "blessings."
- Dhuit means "to you," when the "you" being referred to is singular.
- This Irish sentiment should be pronounced as BAN-ukh-tee nuh FAY-leh PAH-drig gwitch.
- Offer "Beannachtaí na Féile Pádraig oraibh!" when speaking to multiple people. Use this version of the phrase for a more traditional and slightly more religious way to wish two or more people a happy St. Patrick's Day.
- This expression means "St. Patrick's Day blessings to you!"
- Fhéile Pádraig means "St. Patrick's Day." Note that you could also shorten this to "'le Pádraig" in this saying and any other. The meaning is the same, but native Irish speakers often use the latter as a way of shortening the term to something more natural and casual.
- Beannachtaí na means "blessings."
- The use of oraibh means "to you" when the "you" refers to multiple people.
- You should pronounce this statement as BAN-ukh-tee nuh FAY-leh PAH-drig ur-iv.
EditProposing a St. Patrick's Day Toast - Toast "Sláinte!" In essence, this phrase has the same effect as toasting "cheers!" in English.
- Translated more literally, this term means "health" in English.
- Pronounce this term as slawn-cheh.
- Offer "Sláinte is táinte!" in toast, instead. If you want to make a more emphatic toast, bump things up a notch by using this phrase.
- This toast, translated literally, means "health and wealth!"
- Sláinte means "health," is means "and," and táinte means "wealth."
- You should pronounce this traditional Irish toast as slawn-cheh iss toin-cheh.
- Exclaim "Éire go Brách!" Propose a toast using this phrase to show your Irish pride.
- This translates into "Ireland forever!"
- Éire means "Ireland," and go Brách translates into "forever."
- Pronounce this expression as Ay-reh guh brawkh.
EditRelated Irish Terms and Phrases - Ask someone, "Cá mbeidh tú ag fliuchadh na seamróige?"[1] If you plan to go out for drinks later in celebration and want to meet up with someone there, this phrase can be used to ask that person where you should meet.
- This phrase translates into, "Where will you be wetting the shamrock?" To "wet the shamrock" means to "go for a drink."
- Cá means "where," mbeidh means "will," tú means "you," ag means "be" or "by," fliuchadh means "wetting," na means "the," and seamróige means "shamrock."
- This phrase is pronounced as Caw meg too egg flyuh-ka nah sham-roh-ih-geh.
- Proclaim, "Tabhair póg dom, táim Éireannach!" If you're feeling especially festive on St. Patrick's Day, use this phrase and try your luck.
- Translated directly, the saying means, "Kiss me, I'm Irish!"
- Tabhair means "give," póg means "kiss," and dom means "me."
- The term táim means "I" and Éireannach means "Irish."
- This expression should be pronounced as Tower pogue dum, toim Aye-ron-okh.
- In celebration, request, "Píonta Guinness, le do thoil." If you are out celebrating at a traditional Irish pub on St. Patrick's Day, use this phrase to order a popular Irish beverage.
- This sentence means "A pint of Guinness, please."
- Pionta refers to "pint" and Guinness refers to "Guinness."
- The phrase "le do thoil" is an Irish way to say "please."
- Pronounce this request as Pyun-tah Guinness, leh duh huh-il.
- Ask for "uisce beatha" or "beoir" instead. When you want to order a drink in celebration of this festive event, these are a couple of other options for you to consider.
- The term uisce beatha means "whiskey."
- The term beoir means "beer."
- Pronounce "uisce beatha" as ish-keh byah-ha.
- Pronounce "beoir" as byoh-ir.
- Talk about "Seamróg." These are well-known symbols of Ireland.
- The word shamrock comes from the Irish word "seamróg" which means "little clover" or "young clover" in the Irish language.
- Pronounce this Irish word as sham-rogue.
- Know about "Ádh na nÉireannach."[2] This phrase will likely come up a lot in St. Patrick's Day conversation amongst speakers of the Irish language.
- When you use this phrase, you are talking about "the luck of the Irish."
- Ádh na means "luck of," and nÉireannach means "Irish."
- This phrase should be pronounced as Awe nah Nay-ron-okh.
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| How to Live with a Narcissist Posted: 16 Mar 2018 01:00 AM PDT Being around a narcissist can be both intoxicating and frustrating. This person has a cocky, no-holds-barred attitude that attracts you to them. At the same time, their infatuation with themself leaves little or no room for you— unless it directly benefits them, of course. It's totally understandable if your relationship with this person makes you really confused. If you want to keep the narcissist in your life around, you will need some coping tricks up your sleeve. Set firm boundaries, learn how to navigate the landmines of communication and take good care of yourself to manage life with a narcissist. EditSetting Boundaries - Identify your boundaries. If you want to live with them, you can't realistically micromanage everything the narcissist does or says. You also can't just let them treat you however they please. So, where's your middle ground? Figure out what narcissistic behavior you can't tolerate.[1]
- For example, you may be able to tolerate them dominating conversations, but you are not able to accept when they insult you.
- Narcissists are infamous for walking over people and abusing their goodwill, so you need to know your limits.
- Make a list of the things your narcissist does that cross the line. Once you've identified your boundaries, make a list of the situations in which the narcissist tends to violate them. By writing this out, you will know which contexts you need to be wary of.[2]
- For instance, the narcissist may be more likely to manipulate you in front of a group.
- Noticing this pattern can help you learn which scenarios to be on guard against. It also helps you figure out how to phrase your boundaries.
- Voice your boundaries with confidence. Now that you know what you can not tolerate, communicate those boundaries when the offensive behavior happens. You might say, "I can see that you're angry, but I will not tolerate insults. If you continue to insult me, I will leave."[3]
- State your boundaries with confidence, lifting your chin, making eye contact, and keeping your voice strong and steady. That way, the narcissist knows you're serious.
- Enforce consequences as needed. Narcissists will cross every line you make, so it's important that you actually follow through with consequences. If you've said you'll end the conversation, disengage. If you've threatened to leave, do so.[4]
- Setting consequences doesn't have to be the end of the relationship, you can tell the narcissist "I'll be happy to continue talking when you are able to communicate without insults."
- Keep in mind that enforcing consequences may not cause the narcissist to change their behavior.
- Expect pushback, but stand firm. More than likely, the narcissist will still test your boundaries, no matter how strongly you set them. Stand firm despite any pushback.[5]
- For example, the narcissist may insult you anyway just to see if you will actually do anything about it. If this happens, you must enforce the consequences to show them you mean what you say.
- If you waiver on setting boundaries, the narcissist won't respect you.
- Know how to identify a narcissist. True narcissists think highly of themselves, but they are also entitled. They believe they deserve attention and admiration and may not care who they hurt to get it. They cannot tolerate criticism, but may regularly belittle or demean others to make themselves look better,[6]
- Being a little self-obsessed or high in confidence is common, but these traits are different from full-blown narcissism.
- Pay attention to who they spend their time with. Narcissists tend to be in relationships with people who won't speak up and stand up for themselves.
EditHaving Pleasant Interactions - Don't expect an apology. The bottom line about the narcissist is they care only about themselves. No offense, but they're not really concerned about you. If they've offended you, nurse your wounds elsewhere— they won't be apologizing.[7]
- For example, if the narcissist in your life lied to you about something, they probably won't own up to the behavior. They are more likely to recall saying things differently or blame you in some way.
- You'll save yourself trouble by not expecting the narcissist to accept blame for any wrongdoing.
- Dust off your negotiation skills. The narcissist doesn't have to always get their way. Identify where your power lies with the narcissist and use it in negotiations.[8]
- For example, if your narcissistic brother wants money in exchange for yard work, be sure the work gets done in advance before the cash changes hands. Otherwise, the narcissist is unlikely to follow through with their end of the bargain.
- Make what you want seem like what they want. Narcissists concentrate almost entirely on advancing themselves. So, if you want the narcissist to do something for you, it's best to frame it in terms of what's in it for them.[9]
- For instance, say, "Hey, Sally, it'd be great if you could help out with the charity dinner. I know volunteer hours will look good on your resume."
- Use "we" language. Get on the same team with the narcissist in your life by changing the way you speak. Rather than saying "you" or "me," say "we" to bring about a feeling of cooperation.[10]
- For example, instead of "I need to figure out a solution," say "We need to figure out a solution, Dave."
- Making this small change to your language will improve interactions with the narcissist by making it seem like you are on the same side.
- See bad behavior as being about them, not you. At the core of the narcissistic personality is a deep need to feel worthy. Recognize that when your narcissistic loved one acts out, it's not about you. These behaviors are driven by their innate insecurities. Try not to take them personally.[11]
- For example, if your narcissistic partner cheats, it doesn't mean you did anything wrong. They likely saw an opportunity and took it without considering the consequences. It wasn't done specifically to hurt you.
- If you must, try repeating something to yourself like, "Narcissism is about them, not me."
EditCaring for Yourself - Confide in empathetic people who can offer their support. Being around a narcissist can really drain you of energy, so be sure to spend time with positive people who are able to pour love and attention back into you. Spend time with people who have empathy and are able to focus on you and your needs.[12]
- When you need someone to talk to, reach out to loved ones and share what's going on. Talk to people who are willing to listen to your side of things and give support as needed.
- Try to carve out time for supportive people weekly, so that you can get the attention and nurturing that the narcissist does not give.
- Acknowledge your best traits when you need a self-esteem boost. The narcissist's extreme self-esteem can be a blow to your own confidence. Counter any dips to your self-esteem by identifying your strengths.[13]
- Make a list of all your best character traits. Read the list aloud whenever you need an extra lift to your confidence.
- Make your list even more empowering by reading each trait after saying, "I am." For example, you might say, "I am kind" or "I am a great listener."
- Set aside time for self-care to manage stress. Life with a narcissist often means pouring time, affection, and resources into them nearly 24/7. However, to continue the relationship, you'll have to pour some back into you. Build a self-care routine that helps refill your cup.[14]
- Visit the spa or try self-massage. Go to lunch with friends. Journal your feelings, listen to music, or take a warm bath.
- Talk to a counselor or join a support group. If you need extra support to live with a narcissist, consider talking to others who understand your experience. Attend a local support group for people with loved ones with narcissistic personality or consult with a therapist who has experience with narcissism.[15]
- Contact a local mental health clinic to find support groups or counselors in your community.
- Work with your counselor and support group and ask yourself if it's worth living with someone who only cares about their own needs.
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