| How to Handle Resentment Against Someone Posted: 22 Mar 2022 01:00 AM PDT There are a lot of reasons you might resent someone—they might have hurt you in the past, you might feel like they take advantage of you, or you might feel envious that they have some of the things you want in life. However, holding on to anger and resentment towards someone else can really start to eat away at you. Luckily, if you're willing to put in the work, you can start to process those feelings in a way that's healthier for you, and you may even find that you're able to accept the past and forgive the other person. [Edit]Accept and feel your emotions. - Allow yourself to feel your feelings instead of ignoring them. When you're dealing with negative emotions like anger, rejection, disappointment, jealousy, or hurt, give yourself permission to really feel them. Trying to push those feelings down will cause them to build up inside of you—and ultimately, that's what leads to feelings of resentment. When you let yourself experience those feelings, on the other hand, it's easier to release them afterward.[1]
- How would you label what you're feeling? Try to say it outloud. For instance, "I feel really upset/sad/angry about what he said."[2]
- Don't judge your feelings or worry about whether your feelings are "right" or "wrong"—just acknowledge that they're there, for now.[3]
- If you've been pushing your feelings down for a long time, don't be surprised if you find them coming to the surface when you start trying to get to the root of your resentment. Be compassionate with yourself throughout the process!
[Edit]Ask yourself what's behind your resentment. - What exactly made you feel this way and why? Sometimes the cause of your resentment might be obvious, like if the other person clearly hurt you in the past. Other times it's a little harder to figure out what's really bothering you—your resentment might have built up over a long period, or you might resent someone because they have something that you want. It's important to get down to the real issue before you can start to work through it.[4] Check out these questions to figure out where the resentment is coming from:
- When did these feelings of resentment start?
- Was there one event or several that caused you to feel this way?
- Are your feelings directed at one person, like your partner, or to several people, like your parents or family?
- If you find yourself resenting your partner because they never help with the dishes, the deeper issue might be that you feel overwhelmed and unappreciated.[5]
- Sometimes the other person might have inadvertently triggered an insecurity or a complex that you already had.[6] If you feel resentment towards your friend because of their great family, maybe you're struggling because your relationship with your parents is difficult.
[Edit]Make a plan of action for the future. - Sometimes, how you handle a situation can add to your resentment. For instance, you might feel like you should have spoken up for yourself if someone put you down or didn't support you. Instead of kicking yourself for what you didn't do, make a plan for how you can deal with situations like that in the future. Not only will this help you avoid more resentment later on, but taking a proactive approach might help you let go of some of the feelings you're holding onto now.[7]
- If you feel like you should have spoken up for yourself in the moment, practice how you can do that next time the person oversteps their bounds.
- If your resentful feelings are based on envy, work on coming to terms with what you feel is lacking in your life, and try to be happy for others instead of being jealous.[8]
[Edit]Stop your negative thoughts in their tracks. - Interrupt the thoughts when old situations replay in your head. Since resentment is usually based on past experiences, it's normal to find yourself thinking about old hurts over and over again. If you find that happening, remind yourself to focus on something else, like whatever is happening in the present or something you could do to avoid that situation in the future. It can be really tough to change your thinking patterns, especially in the moment, but keep trying—it gets easier with practice.[9]
- Try to distract yourself by getting involved in an activity when you notice those thoughts come up—try calling a friend, going for a walk, or working on a difficult puzzle.
[Edit]Write down your feelings. - Vent in a letter or a journal to express your resentment. Writing is a great way to organize your thoughts, and it can really help you get to the root of your resentment. Don't worry about getting things down in any perfect order—just jot down your thoughts as they come to you. Write about why you resent someone, how it's affecting you today, and any experiences in your past that make this particularly hurtful.[10]
- As you're writing, it can help to try to imagine the situation from the other person's perspective, as well—do you think they intended to hurt you, or do you think they're just insensitive? Or maybe you'll discover that they're not to blame at all, but something from your past is causing you to resent them anyway.[11]
[Edit]Talk to someone about how you're feeling. - Reach out to a trusted friend or family member. Open up about your resentment—talk about how it made you feel and why it's still bothering you. Not only will you feel better once you get your feelings off your chest, but talking it out might help you see the situation in a different light. The person you're talking to might be able to give you some valuable insight, as well.[12]
- For instance, you might realize while you're talking that you need to be more assertive in telling your partner your needs, or your friend might be able to help you brainstorm a solution for how to improve your career so you stop resenting your sister's success.
[Edit]Find healthy ways to release your emotions. - Dive into a hobby or activity that helps you feel better. While it's really important to let yourself feel your emotions, it's also helpful to let go of them after you do that. That way, they don't build up and turn into long-term resentment. Luckily, there are a lot of different ways you can get an emotional release. Everybody has different ways of coping, so don't worry if it takes a little trial and error to find what works for you. Here are a few ideas:[13]
- Exercise: walk, run, go for a hike, or play a sport you enjoy
- Physical relaxation: intentional breathing, yoga, or progressive relaxation
- Prayer or meditation
- Social activism (especially if your resentment is on a broader scale)
[Edit]Talk to the person if there's something they can change. - Be clear and direct when you make your request. If the other person is doing something that you'd like them to stop, or not doing something that you wish they would, it may help if you tell them. Use "I" statements to talk about your feelings, then end with a clear, specific statement about what you'd like from them in the future.[14]
- If your partner is spending more time with their friends than with you, you might say, "I feel lonely and I miss feeling like a priority. I'd really like to set aside one night a week that's just for us."
- You might also need to work on speaking more assertively when someone isn't respecting your boundaries, like if your boss is undermining you at work.[15]
- If the person starts treating you better after the conversation, you'll probably be able to let go of some of your resentment. If they don't, it may be a sign that you'd be better off keeping your distance from them in the future.
[Edit]Have realistic expectations about the other person. - Try to see them as they are, instead of who you want them to be. It's normal to have certain expectations of the people in our lives. Unfortunately, though, people don't always live up to those expectations, and that can lead to resentment. If you find that happening, you might need to shift how you see the other person—ask yourself whether you have an idea of how you want them to be in your head, instead of just accepting them for who they actually are.[16]
- Instead of being disappointed that your partner didn't buy you a gift for your anniversary, remind yourself of other ways they show you that they care. For instance, maybe they always make sure your laundry is ready for work, or maybe they're always there when you need someone to talk to.
- It may also help to tell the person directly what you'd like, but be patient—it can take time for someone to change, if it happens at all.
[Edit]Forgive the other person if they've done something to hurt you. - This can be really hard, but you can do it. Holding on to grudges prevents you from healing and growing, so your resentment is just going to build over time. On the other hand, forgiveness allows you to release your resentment and any other negative feelings you've been holding onto. It's not always easy, but softening your heart toward the other person and letting go of that resentment is the only way that you can fully heal.[17]
- Do something symbolic to mark the act of forgiveness, like writing the person a letter and tearing it up. You might also look at the person and think or say, "I forgive you."
- Forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to keep the other person in your life—it's okay to let toxic relationships go if the other person isn't willing to change.
[Edit]See a mental health professional if you need more help. - Talk to a therapist if you can't let go and forgive. There's a saying that's popular in 12-step programs: "Holding a resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die." If you don't deal with that poison, it can lead you to become progressively more irritable, anxious, and depressed. It can even start to affect your other relationships. A licensed mental health professional can help you learn techniques to deal with these emotions so you can start to move on.[18]
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| How to Get Used to Waking up Early for School Posted: 21 Mar 2022 05:00 PM PDT One of the best things about summer break can be sleeping late in the mornings (unless you're an early bird). This can become a problem, however, when fall rolls around and you have to get back into your early-morning routine. This transition is difficult because your body has natural circadian rhythms that can be disrupted when your schedule changes.[1] The good news is that your body's "clock" can be reset, along with your alarm, so that you can arrive at school on time and well-rested! [Edit]Readjusting Your Sleep Schedule Before School Starts - Determine how much sleep you need. Over the summer, you most likely got into the habit of sleeping in and staying up late. To prepare for rising earlier for school, you will need to reset your internal, or circadian, clock to make the adjustment back to school easier.[2]
- While everyone is a little different, the rule of the thumb is that those between 5-9 years old need 10-11 hours of sleep per night, and those between 10-18 years old need 8½-9½ hours of sleep per night.[3]
- Set a bedtime. Calculate what time you will need to go to sleep in order to get up and out the door on time in the morning. For example, say school starts at 8 a.m., and you need to leave the house by 7:30 a.m. Let's also say it takes you an hour to eat breakfast and to get ready. If you need 9 hours of sleep, then you will need to get up at 6:30 a.m. and be asleep by 9:30 p.m.
- Depending upon how quickly you fall asleep, you may need to go to bed earlier than the time you calculated. If it takes you a ½ hour to fall asleep, and you've determined you need to be asleep at 9:30 p.m., then you should be in bed at 9 p.m.
- Reset your internal clock. Move your bedtime back by 15 minutes per day every 3-4 days. Wake up 15 minutes earlier on these days, too. Do this every day of the week, including on the weekends, until you're falling asleep at your decided-upon bedtime, or at 9:30 p.m. in the example above.[4]
- Depending upon how late you've been staying up, this method may take several weeks to accomplish to get to your desired bedtime, so plan ahead.
- If you don't plan ahead, you'll need to speed up the process. Try moving your bedtime back by 1-2 hours every 1-2 days and waking up 1-2 hours early on these days, too. It could be rough going at first but likely less so than making the change in one day, especially on the first day of school when you might already be nervous and have trouble sleeping.
- Stick to the plan on weekends, or the one, if you've only given yourself a week to complete the process. If you don't stay on your sleep schedule during the weekend, it throws off your circadian rhythm, making Monday morning a literal drag.[5]
[Edit]Re-establishing Your School Morning Routine - Eat your breakfast early. Summertime doesn't just throw your sleep off-kilter. Your whole daily schedule changes, which can be pretty fun and relaxing, but also difficult to kick to the curb when it ends. When you wake up, eat your breakfast at the same time as you will when you wake up for school.
- Studies have shown that breakfast helps wake you up and gives you more energy. Eating in the morning provides your body with glucose, the source of energy for your whole body, so it's not surprising if you often feel lethargic when you first awaken. And why breakfast will help pep you up – you are, after all, breaking your overnight fast.
- Research also shows that eating carbohydrate-rich cereals improves your mood, which can only help in gearing up for school.
- Get ready as you would for school. After you wake up, proceed as if you are going to school. If you normally eat first, do that. If you normally take a shower first, do that. The point is to reform habits, so when school starts you won't be quite so startled when the alarm starts ringing in your ear and the act of getting out of bed won't feel quite so drudging.
- Make sure you finish the job. For instance, if you normally style your hair and wear makeup to school, do your hair and makeup during this period of readjustment, too.
- Also work toward getting it all done in the same amount of time that you have allotted for getting ready once school starts. If you get in the habit now, you won't feel so rushed later.
- Leave the house. If you're able, leave the house at the same time that you would for school. This will push you to stick to your schedule, and it will get you back into the habit of doing something outside of the home in the morning. Here are some suggestions:
- You could go to the library. This could serve the dual purpose of also helping you freshen up on your Algebra, for instance, or catch up on your summer reading.
- Go to a friend's house who is also re-establishing his/her morning routine. Together you can set off for the day to go to the park, see a movie, go the mall and so forth.
- Sign up for a morning class in your community. Many local art centers, YMCAs, churches and parks departments offer a variety of classes throughout the summer for students to take during breaks.
[Edit]Reinstituting Your School Evening Routine - Eat dinner at the right time. Over the summer, your eating schedule may have gotten a little wild. So start eating at the time you plan to once you're back in school.
- If you've been consuming a lot of fast food during those lazy summer nights, get back to eating nutritious, well-balanced meals. Healthy foods aren't just better for your body. They also boost brain power.[6]
- To determine what time you will be eating dinner, you'll need to sit down and figure out your evening schedule, looking at things like a) after-school activities, b) how much homework you think you'll have, c) how much time you'll spend preparing for bed, d) how much free time you'd like, e) what time you need to go to bed and f) what the rest of your household's schedule looks like.
- Read in the evenings. Reading at night (reading in general if you haven't for awhile) will get those brain circuits flowing again. This will make studying easier, and it will get you back into the mode of doing homework at night.
- You could also work on things like Sudoku puzzles, crossword puzzles, children's workbooks, flash cards – anything to kick-start returning to an evening routine that includes studying and homework.
- Try to get your schedule and do activities related to your schedule, like finding online Geometry problems. It will actually be more like homework than reading and puzzles, and will also improve your grades for school.
- Prepare for bed. You may have gotten out of the habit of taking that nightly shower or bath, if you take it at night, or even brushing your teeth. Now's the time to start doing these things again regularly. And, as with your morning routine, do them at the same time you plan to do them once school starts.
- This is also a good time to get back into the habit of or create the habit of laying out your clothes for the morning. Doing this will make you feel less rushed in the morning and less stressed overall, especially if you are very particular about what you wear.
- Sticking to a regular routine at night will help you sleep better, because your body will understand that you're preparing for bed.[7]
- Go to sleep on time. Once you have reset your clock, continue going to sleep at the time you've set for yourself, even on the weekends. Resisting all temptations to break your new sleep schedule will be rewarded soon enough.
[Edit]Getting a Good Night's Rest - Power down before bedtime. Winding down in the evening is equivalent to telling your body that it's time to call it quits for the day. You can't expect it to go from 100 to 0 simply by getting in bed and pulling up the covers. So spend about 30-45 minutes slowly shutting down your brain and body.
- You might do this by taking a hot shower or bath. When you get out, your core body temperature drops, which is a signal to your brain to produce melatonin, your body's natural sleep hormone.[8][9]
- You might also include a routine like stretching or meditating before bed.[10]
- Other ways to prepare for sleep are by putting away the electronic gadgets and gaming systems and, instead, reading a book, or listening to classical or relaxing music.
- Stay away from caffeine before bed. Caffeine is a stimulant, and while most people associate it with coffee, it's also in tea, chocolate, soda and some pain relievers. Sleep experts recommend avoiding these things for 6 hours before going to sleep.
- This may seem like a really long time, but that's how long it takes for caffeine to leave your bloodstream.[11]
- Avoid rigorous exercise before bed. When you exercise vigorously, your body temperature goes up, and it takes several hours for it to drop to normal levels again. Because lower body temperature is needed for better sleep, don't exercise for 3-4 hours before going to sleep.[12]
- On the flip side, exercising regularly promotes good sleep. The precise mechanism between regular exercise and sleep is still uncertain, but numerous studies on various populations have shown that it works.[13]
- Break electronic insomnia. Turn off the TV, and put away your cell phones, computers and tablets once you're in bed. They not only prevent you from winding down because you're so busy clicking, scrolling, typing, chatting and so forth, but they also trick your body into thinking it's daytime and, therefore, not time to go to bed.
- Here's how it works. These devices emit a type of blue light that mimics natural light, thereby suppressing melatonin levels. When this occurs, your brain tells your body it's not time to sleep; it disrupts your circadian rhythm.[14][15]
- TVs also emit this light, but the problem is amplified with cell phones, laptops and tablets because they are closer to your face.
- Darken your room. Turn off all lights while you sleep. Your circadian rhythm, or inner clock, is largely regulated by exposure to light and dark, with melatonin secreted in darkness and suppressed in light. Since melatonin induces sleep, the darker your room the better.[16][17]
- You might also want to dim the lights during those 30-45 minutes that you are powering down before bedtime as a cue to your brain that it's almost time to go to sleep.
- If you live with a roommate or there are lights that you just can't avoid, try wearing an eye mask to block out the light.
- Go to sleep the same time each night. Make sure you stick to your bedtime each night of the week even on weekends. While it will be tempting to stay up late on the weekends, doing so will really throw a wrench in your internal clock and make Monday mornings rather unpleasant.
[Edit]Waking Up Early for School - Eat dinner 2-3 hours before bedtime. It's significantly easier to wake up early if you've slept well the night before. Eating a lot late at night, though, can make sleep difficult because food takes time to digest. Spicy, garlic-flavored and highly acidic and fatty foods are especially troublesome because they frequently cause heartburn if you lie down too soon after eating them.[18]
- Conversely, hunger can also disrupt sleep. So if you find yourself really hungry before bed, stick to snacking on things like oatmeal, bananas, cereal and milk, yogurt, raw veggies or some popcorn.[19]
- Prep for the next day. One of the reasons so many people hate waking up early is because of that rushed feeling they have when trying to hurriedly get ready and out the door on time. To help avoid some of this, choose and lay out your clothes the night before, prepare your lunch, pack up your homework and books in your satchel or book bag and make sure you have any forms signed that you need for school.
- Lay out your clothes, shoes and accessories where you will put them on – whether that be in the bathroom after you shower or in your bedroom.
- Have your backpack, gym clothes and musical instrument, if you have one, by the door, ready to go.
- Eat a healthy breakfast. Continue with your returning-to-school schedule and eat a hearty breakfast. It will increase your glucose level, get your juices flowing and set a good tone for the rest of your day.
- Make hitting snooze hard. Most of us have done it, probably more times in a row than we'd care to admit. But hitting snooze only makes getting up harder and your mornings ultimately more rushed. So move your alarm – further than arm's reach.
- If you have an extremely hard time waking up, consider putting it across the room so you have to get out of bed to turn it off.[20]
- Use more than one alarm. Purchase and then put more than one alarm clock in different places around your room. You might set them to go off at the same time, or you might opt to have them go off at different times, but no more than 2-3 minutes apart. Otherwise, you're apt to get back in bed after turning off the first.
- Buy different types of alarms, so the buzzers sound differently and have different volume levels.
- You could also use your cell phone as long as it has an alarm and is loud enough. Some even allow you to download annoying alarm tones, which might be frustrating but ultimately effective.
- Utilize light to your waking advantage. Since your internal clock responds to light as its wake-up call, you can use it to help awaken yourself even if the sun has yet to rise. And there are some pretty neat gadgets out there that can help.
- For example, there are a number of alarm clocks that help wake you up by slowly increasing light, as if the sun were rising, thus tricking your body to respond and say, "Okay, it's time to get up."[21] Science has even demonstrated they do, indeed, help rouse people from sleep more easily and quickly, even though the light is artificial.
- There are also lamps you can put by your bed that slowly turn on, simulating the sunrise. Some even offer the opposite effect, simulating a sunset for help in going to sleep.
- Ultimately, however, natural light is the best way to go. It's certainly what our ancestors relied on prior to Edison.[22] Allowing natural light into your room by leaving the blinds or curtains open when you go to sleep is the best jolt to your rhythmic system. Yet because this is often not possible when getting up early enough for school, natural light simulators are nice alternatives.
- Have a cool glass of water on your nightstand to drink as soon as you wake up. It will kick start your metabolism and help you feel more alert.
- Ask your family or a friend for help in waking you up early for school. Perhaps a friend might give you a call in the morning, or your mom might tickle your feet to get you going.
- Alarms are only good if you remember to set them!
- Try shower gels with lemon or peppermint essential oils to give you a boost.
- Remind yourself of the reasons getting up early are important to you. Is it because you don't like to feel rushed? Don't like to be tardy? Like to look pretty? Want to do well in school?
- If you find that something in your routine isn't working, or if you want to add something, thing about how you can change it and work to do so!
- Reward yourself for consistently waking up early. This can also be a great motivator for getting up on time.
- Set the alarm for 15 minutes earlier so you can wake up but get used to it for a while without being late.
- Set more than one alarm, so if you don't get up when the first alarm rings you'll have another one set five minutes later.
- If your phone has an alarm and lets you name your alarms, you could name one "stretch" to remind you to stretch in the morning.
- When you get up and turn your alarm off, don't get back to bed. Try making it a rule that once you are out of bed, you can't go back in.
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| How to Make Cheese Quesadillas Posted: 21 Mar 2022 09:00 AM PDT This simple dish is nonetheless mouthwatering -- a crispy, crunchy tortilla filled with globs of gooey melted cheese. Like most simple pleasures, it is easy to make but difficult to master. With just a little patience and prep work, you can make perfect cheese quesadillas every time. [Edit]Ingredients - Grated cheese (2 cups for 4-5 quesadillas)
- Whole wheat or white tortillas (corn tortillas tend to fall apart)
- Butter or cooking oil
[Edit]Grated Cheese Quesadilla - Grate your cheese ahead of time -- roughly 2 tablespoons per quesadilla. You can use whatever cheese you want, though the classic choice would be a Mexican queso. Feel free to mix and match the cheeses depending on what you have one hand, as well:
- Queso
- Cheddar
- Monterrey Jack
- Pepper Jack
- Mozzarella
- Fontina
- Colby
- Put your frying pan on the stove on medium-high. Quesadillas need to be cooked slowly enough that the cheese melts, but fast enough that the outsides crisp and brown quickly. Medium will pull this off perfectly.
- Lightly grease the pan with a pat of butter or vegetable oil. Keep it light as you can, a teaspoon of oil and just a touch of butter-- tortillas are very absorbent, and will get soggy if there is too much liquid. Don't use olive oil, as it has a strong flavor that doesn't usually mesh well with the cheese.
- For a deliciously rich quesadilla, spread butter on the bottom side of your tortilla.
- Fill one-half of the tortilla with roughly 2 tablespoons of cheese. Fold the tortilla in half and add your cheese on just one side. While a ton of cheese is always delicious, over-stuffing the quesadilla will prevent it all from melting and holding its shape. For a typical tortilla, two tablespoons of filling -- whether just cheese or cheese and meat, will perfectly fill the quesadilla.[1]
- If you buttered one side of the tortilla, you want to keep this as the outside. Fill the other side.
- Fold the tortilla over the cheese and add to the hot pan. You'll know the pan is hot enough when the oil just starts to let off some smoke. Don't worry if the tortilla starts to unfold, simply press it back down into the cheese as best you can while it cooks.
- Flip after the bottom is golden-brown, usually 3-4 minutes. Use a flat, thin spatula to lift the tortilla and check that it is cooked, then, working quickly, flip it to the other side. This is the time to make sure it is nicely folded over, as the cheese will melt and hold it all together as the second side cooks.
- Remove and serve once both sides of the tortilla are crisp and golden and the cheese is melted. This is all the cooking you'll need to do, and they usually take roughly 5-7 minutes total to cook. When done, add a little more oil to the pan if you plan to cook more than one. Serve quesadillas hot.
- If the cheese is melting but the tortilla is not crisp yet, turn up the heat a bit and use less butter or oil next time.
- If the side is blackened but the cheese inside is still cool, lower the heat for the next few.[2]
[Edit]Using Alternative Cooking Methods - Cook your quesadillas in the microwave for quick, near instant cooking. This simple snack is often easiest with two tortillas. Simply top one of them with cheese, like it was a pizza, and then lay another tortilla on top. Cook in the microwave for 30-45 second bursts until all the cheese is melted.
- You can only really melt the cheese here, you can't get a nice crispy color brown.
- Broil the quesadillas in the to make quick quesadillas in the oven. They will usually not have the same crunchy-gooey texture of a stovetop quesadilla, but they come close. This is also a great way to make multiple quesadillas at once. Start the oven on high and make your quesadillas on a foil-lined baking sheet. Then, as the oven is still heating, put the quesadillas in the oven. Flip them roughly halfway through, and cook until they outsides are browned and the cheese inside is melted.
- If the outsides are browned before the cheese melts, turn the heat down and cover them all with a sheet of foil. This prevents burning while still applying heat.
- Brush the tortillas with oil or melted butter beforehand for a more golden-brown crust.
- Grill the quesadillas on high heat for an outdoor cooking solution. Simply get the grill nice and hot, using medium-high burners, and clean off the grates. Spray the grill with a non-stick cooking spray and lay the quesadillas directly over the heat. Flip them quickly, after 1-2 minutes or when you see the cheese melting. Keep flipping until the sides are crisp to your liking.
- You can wrap the quesadillas in foil for a less messy grill. This is especially useful if you believe the filling is going to drip out easily. Do not, however, let the quesadillas cool in the foil, or they will get soggy with steam and moisture.
[Edit]Adding New Fillings - Mix in any of the following filling ideas with 1-1/2 cup shredded cheese and add like normal. All of the following ingredients can be added, mixed, and matched to make incredible quesadillas. You simply need to mix it all up with the cheese and then add the scoops of the filling mixture before cooking -- no other work needed!
- Remember that you can mix and match cheeses, as well.
- A little extra cheese never hurt anyone. Feel free to play with the ratios to find your perfect quesadilla.
- Add already cooked meats or beans to the mixture to make a killer entree. The most common addition to quesadillas is a protein of some sort -- either shredded chicken or pork, steak, or beans. Add at least one cup of bite-sized meats or beans to your cheese and enjoy. For meats, be sure to add a light seasoning, such as half a packet of taco seasoning, to get a little extra flavor.
- Black or pinto beans
- Chopped or shredded chicken
- Mexican pulled pork
- Thinly sliced flank or skirt steak.
- Crumbled bacon
- Pre-cook some vegetables to bring out a wonderfully rounded, vegetarian dish. Meat eaters aren't the only ones who get something more than cheese. The following veggies are perfect if you simply brown them in some oil, then toss with the cheese after they're cooked.
- Mushrooms
- Onions (well-caramelized)
- Squash
- Zucchini
- Leeks
- Bell peppers
- Poblano peppers (roasted)
- Add fresh chopped vegetables that can handle the heat. Lettuce and other greens will tend to wilt unappealingly under the heat. You want to add only the vegetables that can hold their flavor and texture under the heat of cooking, such as:
- Diced yellow onion
- Jalapeno peppers
- Fresh green peppers
- Sliced avocado
- Chopped garlic
- Add a spice blend to the cheese to kick up the flavor. Feel free to get creative, as you can really customize the flavor of your quesadilla with just a few pinches of spice. While most of these are for a Mexican-inspired dish, you can even try out a set of Italian spices if you're using cheeses like Mozzarella or Fontina:
- Cracked red pepper
- Garlic powder
- Paprika
- Cayenne Pepper
- Chili Powder
- Oregano
- Dried onions
- Basil, rosemary, thyme
- Avoid seafood and vegetables that are best served cold. Fresh tomatoes are incredible on top of a quesadilla, but they lose some of their punch and flavor when cooked in a pile of cheese. Seafood, as well, tends to drown out in cheese, leading to bland bites of food where there should be much more flavor (the only exception is cooked shrimp) Keep these ingredients out of the heat and you'll be much faster:
- Seafood
- Greens (though a thick layer of spinach can work)
- Tomatoes
- Cabbage
- Uncooked meats
- Make sure you evenly spread the cheese!
- Don't use cooking oil or spray! It could damage the quesadilla!
[Edit]Things You'll Need - Frying pan
- Plate
- Stove
- Hands
- Spatula
- Pizza cutter or knife
- Spoon
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| How to Cope with Having a Bad Day at Work Posted: 21 Mar 2022 01:00 AM PDT Bad days at work can slow you down and make you feel overwhelmed, but it doesn't mean every day that comes after will be exactly the same. This too shall pass. Sometimes the gloomiest days lead to something brighter on the other side. Here's a guide to bouncing back when your day at the office just didn't go as planned. [Edit]Engage in physical activity. - Any kind of exercise is a great reset. Getting your body moving releases chemicals in your brain called endorphins, which improve your overall mood and disrupt the negative thinking that can happen after a bad day.[1]
- Do some yoga at home or, if you feel up to being around other people, sign up for a dance class. Find what you enjoy, and make it a part of your daily or weekly routine.
- If you're still at work, get up from your desk and do some light stretching by touching your toes, reaching your arms above your head, and leaning from side to side.
[Edit]Go outside. - Go for a walk around your neighborhood. Fresh air can do wonders. You've worked so hard! You deserve a break. This can also be helpful during a bad day before the workday is even done. Stepping outside for just 15 minutes can help you recenter yourself.[2]
- If your day isn't quite finished at the office, consider walking to a local cafe for some coffee.
[Edit]Disconnect from your devices. - Focus on establishing a healthy work-life balance. It can be hard to ignore email or text notifications at the end of a workday, especially if you left feeling like things didn't go the way you wanted them to. But all of your messages will be there tomorrow. For now, it's best to unplug, power down, and take some time to relax.[3]
- Pick a movie or TV show to watch or curl up with a good book.
- If possible, turn off your phone as you wind down for the night. A minute staring at a screen can easily turn into an hour, so it's best to avoid temptation.
[Edit]Meditate. - Take time to quiet your racing thoughts. After a bad day at work, you may feel sort of scattered and overwhelmed, and finding ways to distract yourself temporarily may only make you feel more swamped. Meditation allows you to refocus, settle down, and connect with what you're truly feeling.[4]
- Set a timer on your phone for about 5-10 minutes. Take a seat in a quiet, comfortable place, close your eyes, and focus on your breathing.
- Notice any sensations in your body, starting from the top of your head down to your feet. Maybe you have a tension headache or feel knots in your stomach. As you exhale, imagine your breath spreading to those places in your body.[5]
- Try a guided meditation if you feel uncomfortable beginning on your own. You can find helpful ones online to get you started.
[Edit]Talk to your family or friends. - Give someone a call on your commute home or invite a friend over. Sometimes it feels good to vent to someone who just wants to listen. And if you're not ready to talk about how you're feeling just yet and just want their company, that's totally okay, too.[6]
- Try not to bottle everything inside. You may feel like it's the best and most efficient way to keep things moving, but in the long run, it'll leave you feeling burnt out and unhappy.
- If you're still at work and can't get into too much detail, chat with your favorite coworker, who you know will cheer you up. This might even turn your day around!
[Edit]Declutter your workspace. - This is especially important if you work from home. Your disorganized space may prevent you from properly winding down at night. But it's also important to tidy up your cubicle or office before you leave in the evening so you can begin clear-headed and focused the following morning.[7]
- Set aside 5-10 minutes at the end of each day to quickly recycle any stray papers, collect any dishes, and prepare your workspace for a new day.
[Edit]Make a to-do list for tomorrow. - What's bothering you today might just be what's looming over tomorrow. Organize your tasks into manageable chunks, instead of complex, long-term projects. For instance, if you have a presentation to work on, start your list by writing an outline, then making any slides or visual aids, and finally, writing any notes you may need. If you can make a plan, set goals, and organize your day ahead of time, the work may not feel as intimidating.[8]
- Start a bullet journal, which is a personalized series of lists. This can help you set short-term goals and track things that may also improve your overall wellbeing, like exercise, water intake, and other passion projects.
[Edit]Spend time doing something you enjoy. - This is often an essential part of self-care that's overlooked. But there's more to life than work. Try to remind yourself of activities that make you feel at peace, like taking photos, doing your skincare routine, or listening to music. Then spend at least an hour after work doing only that.[9]
- You can also find a completely new hobby, like painting or learning a new instrument, to feed your creative side and combat the sluggish effects of burnout.
- If you're still at work, take a mini-break to do a quick crossword on your phone or read a chapter of your book.
[Edit]Ask yourself what you can do differently tomorrow. - This is all about being proactive. Consider what made today especially bad and think about what you can do to avoid the same mistakes or obstacles tomorrow. This is often easier said than done, but you may not even realize when you're falling into the same old patterns. It just happens sometimes, and then we feel stuck. So, taking time to pause and reflect can be really helpful.[10]
- Consider: Are there other tasks you can take on tomorrow? Is it possible for you to work on a new project or collaborate with your colleagues on the one I'm working on now?
[Edit]Get a good night's rest. - A full 8 hours is ideal, but this is different for everyone. Generally, if you find that you're regularly waking up feeling tired and pushing through fatigue throughout the day, then you're probably not getting enough rest. Your body needs time to recharge on both good days and bad days, so make sleep a priority.[11]
- Try to stick to a schedule where you're falling asleep and waking up around the same time each day. You'll have a more restful sleep at night, which means a boost in energy during the day.[12]
[Edit]Evaluate what you learned. - There's always a lesson on the other side of a bad day. It may not be obvious at first, but it's often the worst experiences that teach you the most about yourself, your work ethic, and what you ultimately want and need out of this job.[13]
- Ask yourself: What happened? What can I do better next time? How can I ask for help so days like these don't happen in the future? How can I make the most of this?[14]
- Journal these lessons to track your growth. In a few months, you'll be able to look back and see how far you've come.
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| How to Make a Coke Float Posted: 20 Mar 2022 05:00 PM PDT Are you looking for a delicious dessert that's quick and easy to make? Soda floats have been a classic dessert for several years. Combine cola and vanilla ice cream to make the perfect coke float, or add some exciting variations. Enjoy a coke float the next time you want to treat yourself, or serve them up at parties with these creative recipes. [Edit]Ingredients [Edit]Classic Coke Float - Vanilla ice cream
- Coca Cola
[Edit]Sweet and Savory Coke Float - 1 Quart cream
- 1 Cup sugar
- 6 Egg yolks
- 1 Teaspoon vanilla extract
- 1 Teaspoon salt
- 1 Pound sliced bacon
- 2 Liters cola
- Ice cream machine
[Edit]Coke Float Cocktail - 1 1/2 Ounces whipped cream vodka
- 1/4 Teaspoon pure vanilla extract
- 2 Tablespoons heavy whipping cream
- 1 Cup cola
- Ice
[Edit]Making a Classic Coke Float - Fill a glass 3/4 with cola. Set the glass on small plates so you can catch the overflow from the fizz. Pour the soda slowly to keep it from overflowing.
- For best results, start with chilled soda.
- You can also chill your glass by setting it in the freezer for about 10 minutes beforehand.
- Pouring the soda first and then adding the ice cream will result in a small amount of foam. If you prefer a float with more foam, add the ice cream to the cup before the soda.
- Add the ice cream. Slowly add one scoop of vanilla ice cream into each glass. If you have more room, and you prefer more ice cream, add another scoop.
- For best results, make sure your ice cream is very cold. If it gets too hard to scoop, you can leave it on the counter for a few minutes to soften.
- If the ice cream sticks, use a spoon to push it off the scooper into the cup.
- Top off your float. Drizzle a small amount of cola on top of the ice cream. This will turn to foam. Keep pouring until your glass is full.
- Tilt your glass slightly and pour the cola slowly to reduce foam.
- Fill your cup until the coke is just higher than the ice cream.
- Mix it up (optional). Let your float sit a while. Give it about 5-10 minutes for the ice cream to melt but not too long, or it won't be cold enough.
- Stir until it reaches a consistency somewhere between "ice cream soup" and a milkshake. Add cola to thin it or ice cream to thicken it as you desire.
- Serve. Dip a spoon in your cup and top it off with a straw. Eat your float slowly, starting with the cold frozen foam on top, scooping ice cream and cola together with your spoon. Use the straw to sip the remainder of creamy cola left in the glass.
[Edit]Making a Sweet and Savory Coke Float - Cook the bacon. Yes, bacon! Line strips of bacon on an oven pan and place into a preheated oven (350 degrees) until crispy (about 10 minutes). Use 1-pound of sliced bacon.
- You can also cook your bacon in a frying pan.
- Try this experimental cola float for a fun twist.[1]
- Mix your bacon with 1 quart cream. Once the bacon is cooked, lift each piece into a medium bowl and pour your cream on top of it. Seal and refrigerate overnight. Avoid pouring all of the bacon grease over the cream.
- Mix the sweets. In a medium bowl, add 6 egg yolks, 1 cup sugar (you can also use honey), 1 teaspoon salt and 1 teaspoon vanilla extract. Whisk until smooth.
- If you desire a stronger vanilla flavor, add 2 teaspoons of vanilla extract.
- Add it all together. Remove your cream and bacon mixture from the refrigerator and heat it in a pan on the stove until softened. Add the yolk mixture one cup at the time.
- Don't pour the yolk mixture into the pan all at once. Scoop it in one cup at a time and mix in-between. This way, the eggs won't curdle.
- Slowly stir until your mixture has a custard texture.
- Let it cool. Remove the pan from heat and strain the custard mixture. Cool on the counter or in the fridge until room temperature or cooler.
- Mix your ice cream. Add your custard to your ice cream machine and spin to the manufacture's instructions.
- Once thickened, place your ice cream into the freezer to set.
- For best results, let your ice cream harden in the freezer overnight.
- Fill a glass 3/4 with cola. Set the glass on small plates so you can catch the overflow from the fizz. Pour the soda slowly so keep from overflowing.
- For best results, start with chilled soda.
- Pouring the soda first and then adding the ice cream will result in a small amount of foam. If you prefer a float with more foam, add the ice cream to the cup before the soda.
- You can also chill your glass by setting it in the freezer for about 10 minutes beforehand.
- Add the ice cream. Slowly add one scoop of vanilla ice cream into each glass. If you have more room, and you prefer more ice cream, add another scoop.
- For best results, make sure your ice cream is very cold. If it gets too hard to scoop, you can leave it on the counter for a few minutes to soften.
- If the ice cream sticks, use a spoon to push it off the scooper unto the cup.
- Top off your float. Drizzle a small amount of cola on top of the ice cream. This will turn to foam. Keep pouring until your glass is full.
- Tilt your glass slightly and pour the cola slowly to reduce foam, or add the ice cream first and pour the soda quicker for more foam.
- Fill your cup into the cola is just higher than the ice cream.
- Mix it up (optional). Let your float sit a while. Give it about 5-10 minutes for the ice cream to melt but not too long, or it won't be cold enough.
- Stir until it reaches a consistency somewhere between "ice cream soup" and a milkshake. Add cola to thin it or ice cream to thicken it as you desire.
- Serve. Dip a spoon in your cup and top it off with a straw. Eat your float slowly, starting with the cold frozen foam on top, scooping ice cream and cola together with your spoon. Use the straw to sip the remainder of creamy cola left in the glass.
[Edit]Making a Coke Float Cocktail - Fill a tall glass with ice. You can chill your glass in the freezer for about 10 minutes if you prefer. When the cola and the whipping cream combine, they form a reaction to foam up just like a traditional cola and ice cream float.[2]
- This is a fun drink to serve at parties with friends.
- Remember to always drink responsibly!
- Add your cream. Pour 2 tablespoons heavy whipping cream, 1 1/2 ounces of whipped cream flavored vodka, and 1/4 teaspoon vanilla extract over the ice. Pour slowly and one at a time.
- If you prefer more of a vanilla tasting float, use 1/2 teaspoon of vanilla extract.
- Make your float stronger or weaker by adding more or less vodka.
- Add the cola. Carefully pour the cola over the mixture. This will cause a bit of foam. Stir well.
- You can also add a scoop of vanilla ice cream to make your float creamier.
- If you desire more foam, drip a scoop of ice cream into your cup over the ice, and add the cola on top.
- Enjoy! Top it off with a straw and stir frequently to keep it well mixed. Always drink responsibly.
[Edit]Experimenting with Extras and Variations - Try different flavors of ice cream. Vanilla has been a classic for years. But, that doesn't mean you can't change it up. Try your float with rocky-road, cookie dough, or any ice cream you like!
- You can get as creative as you want! You can even use more than one flavor in your float.
- Try different sodas! Root beer has been a classic float flavor for years. You can also try fruity sodas like key lime or strawberry.
- You can make a float with virtually any kind of carbonated water, so if you are trying to avoid soda, try sparkling fruit juice!
- Try mixing fruity soda with fruit ice cream or sherbert.
- Add a topping or garnish! Try topping your float off with a dash of whipped cream, a cherry, or some powdered cinnamon or sugar.
- Challenge your friends to a game of Ultimate float. Mix in different flavors of ice cream and soda to create the best ice cream float!
- Pouring the soda first and then adding the ice cream will result in a small amount of foam. If you prefer a float with more foam, add the ice cream to the cup before the soda.
[Edit]Warnings - If you pour the soda too fast, the foam will shoot out and overflow, creating a big mess.
[Edit]Things You'll Need - Tall glasses
- Spoons
- Straws
- Ice cream Mixer (optional)
- Frying pan (optional)
- Baking sheet (optional)
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