| How to Change Your Background in Microsoft Teams Posted: 18 Nov 2021 12:00 AM PST Microsoft Teams is a great tool for online video meetings, especially during the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic. Sometimes, you need your camera on - but someone is standing close by, your room is a mess, or you just don't want others to see your house. In such situations, you can use a virtual background to help hide your surroundings. Read this wikiHow to learn how to do this. - Join your meeting with your camera off. There's an option to switch your camera on as you join the meeting, but if there is a glitch, the virtual background might take some time to show up, which can reveal your surroundings. It's better to join the meeting first before turning your video on.
- Click . On the panel that's on top of your Microsoft Teams tab, you'll find three dots next to the "Raise your hand/Reactions" option. Click the dots. It will open a dropdown menu.
- Click on "Apply background effects". This will open a sub-page at the side of your meeting tab.
- Click the background that you'd like to use. Teams will have a few default backgrounds. Take a look at your options and choose the one that you'd like.
- Click on . Preview your video to make sure the background is the right one. Others in the meeting won't be able to see what you've previewed.
- Turn your video on. Make sure that you've clicked "Apply and turn on video" as your background will not be seen if you just click on the camera icon.
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| How to Regain Independence in a Relationship Posted: 17 Nov 2021 04:00 PM PST Sharing your life with someone you love is great. You have a constant partner in crime, you support each other through highs and lows, and you share responsibilities. Being somewhat codependent is part of any long-term relationship, but it's important to have your own independence, too. If you feel like you've become fully dependent on your partner, rather than just receiving support from them, try some of these tips to regain your independence and strike a better balance between living your own life and sharing it with your partner. [Edit]Create more boundaries. - Be honest with yourself about how codependent you want to be. Signs of too much codependence can include fears of abandonment, an obsessive need for approval from your partner, and low self-esteem. If you feel like you're too codependent, sit down with your partner and discuss it. If you live together, schedule time to be apart. If you don't live together, pick some days of the week that you want to be just for you.[1]
- For example, maybe you've only been seeing your partner for a few months now, but you're spending every night together. If it feels like too much, try setting a limit of spending weekends and 1 night during the week together every week.
- Or, if you live together, you could decide on 1-2 hours a night to spend time in separate rooms and decompress from the day.
- Having boundaries also helps prevent resentment in a relationship, which can really help make it last!
[Edit]Spend more time alone. - Being able to spend time alone helps you feel more independent. It also gives you time to relax and connect with yourself.[2] Take some time to just be by yourself at home and think, reflect, read, journal, or whatever else makes you feel good. Or, go out and do something that you love by yourself.[3]
- For example, you could go for a run by yourself through a nearby park every day to get some quality time alone with yourself and your thoughts.
- Or, you could sit in a sunny corner of your home with a good book and a cup of tea for 1 hour a day to unwind by yourself.
[Edit]Do separate social activities. - This gives you time to switch yourself off from relationship mode. Go out for dinner with friends once a week without your partner. Or, meet up with friends from work for happy hour on Fridays before you go see your significant other.[4]
- You can also spend time with family on your own. For example, if you have siblings that live nearby, go over to their house once a week to catch up and spend some quality family time without your partner.</ref>[5]
[Edit]Maintain personal projects. - Do something you love that's only for you. Personal projects can be hobbies, learning a new skill, or launching an entrepreneurial pursuit. If you stopped doing something you're passionate about at some point during your relationship, pick it back up again and make time in your schedule to do that by yourself.[6]
- For example, maybe you used to paint in your free time, but you gradually stopped doing it when your significant other came into your life. Take up painting again and make time to do it in the evenings or on weekends.
- Encourage your partner to pursue their own personal projects, too. That way you can both share the cool things you're working on with each other and create an encouraging, supportive environment to do them in.[7]
[Edit]Set personal goals. - Having your own goals to work towards is crucial to being your own person. These could be financial, fitness, educational, professional, or travel goals. Share your goals with your partner, but don't rely on them for support to accomplish them.[8]
- A good romantic partner should encourage you to pursue all your goals. If your partner is not supportive of you having your own personal goals, you might want to reevaluate the healthiness of your relationship.
[Edit]Prioritize your needs. - It's easy to overlook yourself when you're in a serious relationship. Personal needs can be mental, physical, emotional, social, and spiritual. Identify your needs and find ways to meet them independently of your partner.[9]
- For example, if you're feeling out of shape, sign up for some aerobics classes or join a gym to get back on track with your fitness goals.
- Or, if you are feeling lonely, make time to call your family and friends every day.
- Looking after your partner's needs is great, but don't let it get in the way of yours.
[Edit]Practice being assertive. - Develop your ability to tell your partner what you want or don't want. The next time your partner asks you to tag along for an errand or a social activity that you don't feel like going to, practice saying no. Or, practice making it more clear to your partner when you really want to do certain activities or when certain things are really important to you.[10]
- For example, if your partner always chooses the restaurants you eat at on Friday nights, start picking the restaurant once or twice a month.
- Or, if you always say yes to watching football with your partner, but you really don't care for the sport, explain to them that you'd rather let them go do that with their friends and use the time to do something by yourself.
[Edit]Keep your finances separate if you want. - Financial independence can be a big part of feeling independent. If you're serious about being in a long-term relationship with your partner, sit down and talk about finance with them. Make it clear that it's important for you to maintain your own bank accounts and be financially independent from them in order for you to feel good about yourself and your relationship.[11]
- It's totally okay if you want to make a joint bank account that you both put money into for things like vacations or home expenses! However, you may still want to keep the majority of the money you need for living and personal expenses separate to feel more independent.
[Edit]Take a solo vacation. - Traveling alone is a great way to connect with yourself. Instead of waiting for you and your partner's schedules to align to take a vacation together, book one for yourself! Go on that backpacking trip across Europe you've been dreaming of or head to an all-inclusive beach resort for some pampering and relaxation.[12]
- Being apart while you're on vacation also gives you and your partner time to miss each other. The romance is bound to feel more intense when you get back!
[Edit]Work with a therapist if you're struggling. - If you think you might have codependency issues, a therapist can help. Find a therapist who specializes in relationships. Talk with them about how you're feeling and try to discover where your lack of independence is stemming from. They can help you come up with additional strategies for becoming more independent in your relationship.[13]
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| How to Do TikTok Transitions Posted: 17 Nov 2021 08:00 AM PST This wikiHow teaches you how to create transitions between your video clips in the TikTok app on your Android, iPhone, or iPad. You can use TikTok's built-in transition effects or come up with your own ideas while filming. [Edit]Using Transition Effects - Open TikTok on your phone or tablet. Look for a black icon with a white symbol that resembles a "d" or musical note on your home screen, or search for TikTok in the app menu.
- Select or record a video.
- If you want to record a new video (or set of videos), select the video length at the bottom (60 or 15), and then tap and hold the large red circle to record. When you're finished recording, lift your finger. You can record multiple segments this way by lifting your finger every time you want to pause recording.
- If you want to upload a video from your phone or tablet instead, tap Upload at the bottom-right, select the video(s), make any necessary edits, and then tap Next.
- Tap the red circle with the checkmark when you're finished recording. If you uploaded a video you can skip this step. This is only necessary if you recorded your video in TikTok.
- Tap . It's the timer icon in the bottom-left area of the screen. A menu with several effects will appear.
- Tap the tab. Now you'll see several transitions in small circles at the bottom of the screen.
- Select the spot in the video to add the transition. On the video timeline, tap and drag the white marker to your desired spot.
- You can also tap the video to start playing, then tap again to stop in the desired spot.
- Tap a transition effect to insert it. on the effect to add it. A colored square will appear over that spot in the timeline where the transition will appear.
- For a more dramatic transition, tap the transition effect twice to double it.
- You can add multiple transitions to one video—they don't even have to be the same one.
- Tap the play button to watch the video. If you don't like the transition, tap the curved arrow below the video to undo it, and then try something else.
- Tap when you're finished. It's at the top-right corner.
- Add effects and other details. You can add additional details to your video, including:
- Tap Sounds to add music or sound effects.
- Tap Aa to add text.
- Tap Stickers to add images and emoji.
- Tap 'Filters to use color and lighting effects.
- Tap Voice effects apply funny vocal effects to your video.
- Tap Voiceover to record your voice over the video.
- Tap the button. It's at the bottom-right corner.
- Type a description and tap . You can enter a description and adjust your settings here if you'd like. Once you tap Post, your video will be ready for viewing on TikTok.
[Edit]Using Shooting Techniques to Create Your Own Transitions - Open TikTok on your phone or tablet. Look for a black icon with a white symbol that resembles a "d" or musical note on your home screen, or search for TikTok in the app menu.
- Plan your transition. In order to create your own transition, you will need to stitch 2 or more videos together—the transition will go in between videos. Some ideas for transitions:
- Look for transitions that other users have tried, either in the TikTok app or another internet resource, such as YouTube.
- Think about how you are ending and starting each video. You will start your transition at the end of the first video, stop recording, then resume the transition when starting to record the next video.
- For instance, to do a spinning transition, twirl your phone around at the end of your first video, and stop recording. Twirl your phone again as soon as you start recording the next video.
- Start recording your first video segment. Tap and hold the large red button to start recording.
- Perform your transition at the end of the video. Right before you release the record button to stop recording, act out the transition you planned.
- Start recording the next video segment. Tap and hold the record button, then perform the transition coming in. Continue to record the video, then release the button to stop.
- Keep adding videos until you are done or have reached the app's time limit.
- Tap the red circle with the checkmark. Now you'll see a preview of your video.
- If you don't like the transitions, tap the back arrow at the upper-left corner to return to the recording screen. You can delete the last segment by tapping the back-arrow with an X at the bottom—to delete multiple segments, keep tapping the that icon until you're back at the first segment you're happy with. Then, re-record the segments as need.
- Add effects (optional) and tap . If you want to add additional effects to your video, you can do so if you'd like.
- Tap to share the video.
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| How to Deal with High Conflict Personalities Posted: 17 Nov 2021 12:00 AM PST Some people can be difficult to deal with, others can be a nightmare. High-conflict people (HCPs) thrive on conflict, and unfortunately, your normal, natural defensive responses to aggressive behavior can actually make things even worse. However, there are things you can do to effectively deal with HCPs. We've put together a helpful list of things you can try to make dealing with any HCPs in your life a little easier. [Edit]Stay calm when they start to get agitated. - Control your body language and tone of voice. You can recognize the signs that they're getting worked up. They'll start raising their voice or get aggressive. You can't control their behavior, but you can control yours. Keep your emotions out of it and avoid the temptation to shout back or insult them back. It'll only make them angrier.[1]
[Edit]Let them tell their dramatic story. - Pay brief attention and then tell them have to do something. If they approach you already upset about something, allow them to talk about whatever it is that's got them worked up. When they're finished, tell them that you have something that you need to do so you can leave the conversation without making them feel like you're ignoring them.[2]
- You could say something like, "I'm sorry to hear that happened, but I need to finish this project I'm working on."
[Edit]Respond direct hostility with brief responses. - Keep it brief, informative, friendly, and firm (BIFF). If they start attacking you directly, don't give in to the urge to respond in kind. Instead, use short responses that are firm but friendly so they don't have any extra fuel to feed their emotional fire.[3]
- For example, if they approach you saying something like, "I can't believe you would do something like that! Are you stupid? What is wrong with you?" You could respond with something like, "No, I'm not. I wasn't trained on how to do that."
[Edit]Focus on the future instead of past mistakes. - Talk about what you can do now, not what you did before. People with HCP are often preoccupied with perceived insults or events from the past. Redirect their angry energy by focusing on what you can do right now and in the future. Force them to address a current problem or task rather than discussing what happened in the past.[4]
- For instance, you could say something like, "That may have been true in the past, but right now we need to choose one of these two options."
[Edit]Try not to be emotionally threatening. - Maintain a calm composure and keep your emotions in check. If you fight fire with fire, you're going to get burned, especially if you're dealing with someone with HCP. Always stay calm and cool as a cucumber. Remember that they can't control you and anything you try to say back to them will only make them more aggressive.[5]
[Edit]Don't try to give them insight into themselves. - You can't make an HCP person understand what they're doing is wrong. You may feel tempted to try to explain how their behavior isn't acceptable, but unfortunately, that isn't an effective strategy for people with HCP. All you can do is control your own reactions and use strategies to redirect their negative energy.[6]
[Edit]Explain the consequences of their behavior. - Set limits by calmly telling them what their actions will cause. Instead of trying to tell them that their behavior is unacceptable (which it is), give them concrete examples of the possible consequences of their actions. Even though they're overly aggressive, they'll likely be able to appreciate that they can get themselves in trouble and will avoid behavior that can cause it.[7]
- For instance, you could say something like, "Listen, John, if they hear you say that, you're going to lose the contract."
[Edit]Avoid giving negative feedback. - Communicate that you want to help them in a positive way. If there's a problem with something or if they made a mistake, try not to tell them how wrong they are. Instead, try to redirect their focus to a solution with a positive guiding hand.[8]
- Instead of saying, "You didn't do the reports right," you could say, "Look, you want to have the costs up in front so it's easier for the client to see."
[Edit]Don't take their attacks personally. - Normal defensive reactions will only make things worse. Sometimes people with HCP can resort to direct personal attacks. Remember that they can't control your reactions, only you can do that. Keep in mind that they're not behaving rationally, and avoid the urge to fight back with insults or personal attacks.[9]
[Edit]Never tell them they have a personality disorder. - Even if they do, it'll only set them off even further. Keep a calm and cool head whenever they're having one of their emotional episodes. Use your brief, friendly responses to get through it.[10]
- Keep in mind that your reactions can fuel their outbursts. Try to stay as calm and unemotional as you can and they may give up on trying to get a rise out of you.
[Edit]Warnings - If you feel unsafe or are concerned that they might physically harm you, contact the authorities.
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