| How to Have Good Manners Posted: 24 Jun 2020 05:00 PM PDT Good manners are an important thing to have since it shows that you're courteous to other people. Having good social etiquette can help you develop better relationships and make you more enjoyable to be around. If you're having a meal with others, then make sure you use good manners while you're eating to show that you're respectful. You also should maintain etiquette while you're online so you don't offend or overshare with others. [Edit]Having Good Conversational Etiquette - Use "please" and "thank you" when you're asking for something. Whenever you make a request or you need to ask for something, start by saying "please." That way, it doesn't sound like you're demanding the other person to do things for you. Once someone completes the task that you asked them to do, respond by saying "thank you" so the other person knows you're grateful for what they just did.[1]
- For example, you may say, "Can you please hand me that book?" Once they hand you the book, say, "Thank you."
- Say "thank you" whenever someone helps you in a small way, such as a person ringing you up at a store or a person taking your order at a restaurant.
- If someone says "thank you" to you, respond with "you're welcome" to stay polite.
- Introduce yourself by name when you meet someone for the first time. If you're getting together with someone and you haven't met before, introduce yourself by name and ask them what their name is. When they say their name, repeat it so you have a better chance at remembering it later on. Offer your hand for a handshake and use a firm grip, but not so firm that you hurt the other person.[2]
- For example, you can say, "Hi, my name is James. What's yours?"
- Different cultures and countries have different manners when it comes to introductions, so make sure you're familiar with the etiquette where you are.
- If you're with another person and you run into somebody you know, be sure to introduce them to one another if they haven't met before. For example, you may say, "Hi John, this is Melissa. Melissa, this is John."
- Listen to other people without interrupting them. When another person starts talking, make eye contact with them and pay attention to what they're saying so you can carry on the conversation. Avoid trying to talk over them or cutting them off since you'll come across as rude. Once the person is done speaking, respond to what they just said so they know you were listening to what they were telling you.[3]
- If you and another person start talking at the same time, stop and ask them to continue to show that you care about what they have to say.
- Avoid using bad language. Inappropriate language can come across as rude, especially when you use it in public conversation. Do your best to try and eliminate curse words from your vocabulary while you're talking with other people. Rather than saying the word, try to find a replacement or just pause during your conversation to recollect your thoughts and plan out what you're going to say.[4]
- For example, you may use the words "dang" or "darn" in place of harsher curse words.
- You may also find more descriptive adjectives in place of bad words. For example, instead of saying something is "f***ing great," you may say it was "amazing" instead.
[Edit]Showing Respect to Others - Offer to help other people to show that you're respectful and courteous. If you see someone in need of help, ask if there's anything you can do for them. If the request is reasonable and you can do it easily, take the time to assist the other person. This could be as simple as holding a door open for someone or helping someone carry a heavy item.[5]
- For example, you can approach the person and say, "Would you like any help carrying that?"
- Sometimes you may not need to ask to help someone. For example, you can hold a door open for someone who's coming in behind you or you may offer your seat on a bus to someone who needs to sit down.
- Respect other peoples' personal space. People often don't like to be touched when they aren't expecting it and it can make them feel uncomfortable. Be aware of how close you're standing or sitting next to other people and watch their face and body language to determine how they feel about it. If they don't look like they're comfortable around you, then give them more space and apologize to them.[6]
- If you accidentally bump into someone, say something like, "Excuse me, I'm sorry."
- Congratulate people on their accomplishments to be a good sport. Being a good sport shows that you're respectful and know how to acknowledge someone's success. If one of your friends wins something or gets a promotion, say something like "Congratulations!" or "That's great!" to them so they know you care about them.[7]
- Don't make someone else's success about you. For example, if someone won a game against you, don't say, "It's only because I made some bad plays." Instead, say something like, "You did a great job. You had a really good strategy."
- Write thank-you notes when someone gives you something. In addition to saying "thank you" in person, reach out within a few days with a thank-you note if they give you a gift or do something special for you. In your note, tell them how much you appreciate what they've done and let them know how it affects you. At the end of the note, use a closing such as "Warm regards" or "Best" before signing your name.[8]
- For example, you may write, "Dear Jane, Thank you for the journal you got me for my birthday. I can't wait to write in it and keep it with me every day. I really appreciate it! Best, John."
[Edit]Practicing Table Manners - Keep any devices off the table so you don't get distracted. Avoid setting your phone or tablet on the table while you're eating with other people since it distracts you from the conversation. Set your phone to silent or vibrate, and keep it in a pocket or bag throughout your meal. Don't answer it unless there's an emergency.[9]
- If you need to respond to a text or take a phone call, excuse yourself from the table first by saying something like, "Excuse me, I need to take this. I'll be right back."
- Wait until everyone else has been served before you start eating. Don't start eating immediately as you sit down since it's rude to start if people don't have their food. Instead, patiently wait in your seat while everyone else serves themselves or gets served before you take your first bite. That way, you can all enjoy your food at the same time and experience your meal together.[10]
- This goes for eating at home or at a restaurant.
- Hold your utensils properly. Hold your fork and knife like you're holding a pencil rather than holding them in your fist. When you need to cut something, hold the knife in your right hand and your fork in your left. Once you cut your food, you can either use your fork in your left hand or set your knife down so you can use your fork with your right hand.[11]
- Be sure to use the proper silverware for your meal. If you have multiple knives and forks, use the outermost ones first before using the others for additional courses.
- Don't chew with your mouth open. Chewing with your mouth open or talking while you're eating is usually considered rude since no one wants to see the food in your mouth. Take small bites of your food and chew them completely with your mouth closed before swallowing or speaking. If someone is talking to you while you're eating, wait until you've swallowed your food to respond to them.[12]
- Cut your food into smaller pieces so your mouth isn't too full and so you can chew your food easier.
- Ask someone else at the table to pass things to you. Avoid reaching across the table since you can get in other people's way and it would be considered rude. Address the person closest to the thing you want on the table and ask them to pass it to you. Once you receive the item you want, be sure to thank them to show that you're polite.[13]
- For example, you may say, "Julia, could you please pass me the butter?"
- If there's no room on the table in front of you to put the item down, ask the person if they could put it back for you. For example, you may say, "Can you please set the bowl back down for me? Thank you."
- Avoid putting your elbows on the table while you're eating. You may keep your elbows on the table before and after your meal as well as between courses while you're talking. Once you have your food, keep your hand in your lap when you aren't using it so you aren't resting your elbows or arms on the edge of the table.[14]
- Cover your mouth if you need to get something out of your teeth. If you get something stuck in your teeth, cover your mouth with either your napkin or your hand so other people can't see. Try to be discrete while picking anything out of your teeth so you don't draw attention to yourself. Once you get the food out of your teeth, put it on the side of your plate or wrap it in your napkin.[15]
- If you aren't able to get the food out of your teeth within a few seconds, excuse yourself from the table so you can go to the bathroom.
- Excuse yourself from the table if you need to get up. If at any point during the meal you need to go to the bathroom, check your phone, or leave, say "excuse me" before standing up so others know you need to go somewhere. You don't need to give the reason why you're leaving as long as you come back and sit down again.[16]
- For example, you may say, "Excuse me, I'll be right back," when you get up from the table.
[Edit]Being Respectful Online - Don't say negative or offensive things on social media. Before you post anything online, take a few minutes to consider if it's something you would say in person or to someone's face. If it's not something you would share, then avoid posting it on your profile since it could come across as negative or offensive to other people who see it.[17]
- Try writing out angry or negative posts in a different document rather than on social media sites. That way, you can come back to them later and determine if it's something you really need to post.
- Talk directly to people rather than posting an angry or offensive status about them. That way, you can work through the problem privately so you don't post anything publicly.
- Avoid posting or tagging pictures of other people without their permission. It may seem funny to post an unflattering picture of a friend and tagging them in it, but it could hurt their feelings if it appears on their profile. Talk to the person directly before posting anything to make sure it's okay with them. Send them the picture you want to post so they know what to expect. If they ask you not to post it, respect their decision and don't share it.[18]
- Tagged photos usually show up prominently on someone's social media account, so other people could see the photo and judge the person you tagged for it.
- Think about if you would want your friend to post a picture of you in a similar situation. If you wouldn't want the picture of you posted online, then chances are your friend wouldn't want the photo posted either.
- Don't overshare personal information on your social media accounts. Oversharing can be writing posts with private information or just posting too many things throughout the day. Think about if you want the information you're sharing online to be publicly available before you post it.[19]
- Social media sites like Twitter are more acceptable for posting multiple times throughout the day as opposed to sites like Facebook or Linkedin.
- Never post personal information like addresses, phone numbers, or passwords online since you could get hacked or scammed.
- Write your posts in regular sentence case rather than in capital letters. Using capital letters online usually comes across like you're yelling at the people reading your posts. When you write your posts, only use capital letters when you're starting a sentence, including a proper name, or abbreviating a phrase. That way, people will read your posts in a regular tone of voice.[20]
- For example, "PLEASE READ MY NEW POST!" reads much more aggressive than, "Please read my new post!"
- Don't send unsolicited messages or pictures to someone. It may be tempting to send messages or pictures to people you don't know, but it can make them feel uncomfortable if they don't want them. Use the same conversational manners as you would if you were speaking in real life so you don't come across as rude. If you don't know the person, introduce yourself and wait for a response. If they don't respond, don't spam them with more messages since they may just not want to talk.[21]
- Check your social media settings so you can limit who sends you things if you're worried about receiving unsolicited messages.
- Treat other people how you want to be treated so you stay respectful and friendly.
- Read etiquette guides or books to learn more about how to behave properly in various social settings.
[Edit]Warnings - Never post personal information online.
- Different countries have different manners and etiquette, so be sure to check what's rude or acceptable in your area.
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| How to Keep Apple Headphones from Falling Out Posted: 24 Jun 2020 09:00 AM PDT Apple brand accessories tend to be expensive, so it can be really frustrating when your AirPods or wired earbuds fall out of your ears while you're on the go. Thankfully, there are few easy tricks and accessories that may help you keep your headphones safe and sound the next time you go out and about. [Edit]Using AirPods - Twist your AirPods after you put them in so they stay in your ears. Place your AirPods in your ears as you normally do. Before going out, rotate both earbuds upwards and outwards, so the stems stick out at a 30-degree angle from your head. Keep your AirPods at an angle so they won't be as likely to slip and fall out.[1]
- This isn't a miracle solution, but it might be worth a try if you don't want to buy extra accessories.
- Stick waterproof tape to your AirPods for extra support. Take a hole puncher and cut out 4 circles from a section of medical waterproof tape. Arrange a tape circle above and below the black dot and dash on the top of each AirPod. You can keep these tape circles on for as long as you'd like![2]
- Your AirPods will still fit in the charging case with the tape attached.
- Cover your AirPods with silicone skins as a precaution. Slip a skin over the section of the AirPod that goes in your ear, then wear them as you normally would. Some brands of silicone covers are too thick to fit in the charging case, while others are thin enough to fit.[3]
- You can find silicone skins online, or in an electronics store. They're usually available for under $20.
- Add silicone tips to the end of your AirPods that stay more firmly in your ears. Slide a silicone tip onto the thin, narrow section of the AirPod that goes in your ear. Put it in your ear as you normally would, and you don't have to worry about it slipping out as much![4]
- Silicone tips are easy to find online or in most electronics stores.
- These tips make your AirPods look and function like regular earbuds.
- Attach grips to your AirPods that go around your ears to keep them in place. Slide a silicone ear grip cover over the stem of your AirPods. Fasten the grip around your ear, then stick your AirPods into your ears. Unfortunately, these ear grips won't fit in your charging case, so you'll need to take them off when you're done using your AirPods.[5]
- You can find these accessories online or at an electronics store. Some brands sell them for under $15.
- Use silicone ear hooks to provide extra support from the inside. Shop online or in an electronics store for ear hooks, which are small, silicone hooks that attach to the rounded portion of your AirPods. Attach these hooks whenever you're about to go out and about.[6]
- You'll need to take these off in order to charge your AirPods.
[Edit]Dealing with Wired Earbuds - Loop the wire around your ear and put the earbud in from behind. Take 1 of your headphones and loop it around the back of your ear. From a downwards angle, insert the earbud into your ear so it's more likely to stay put. Repeat this process with your other earbud so your headphones aren't as likely to fall out.[7]
- Cover your ears with a hat to hold the earbuds in place. Wear your Apple headphones as you normally would, then slip on a comfortable beanie overtop. Check that the hat is completely covering your ears and headphones, then go about the rest of your day as usual![8]
- This may not be a great option for exercising, but it works well if you're just walking around with your headphones in.
- Tuck your earbuds under your shirt so they aren't as likely to fall out. Slip your headphones beneath your shirt, then pull the earbuds out from the collar. Place the earbuds in your ears as usual, and continue listening to your favorite music or broadcast.[9]
- If your headphones fall out while they're tucked under your shirt, you're more likely to notice it.
- Tie a knot above the microphone section of your earbuds. Find the small, white, microphone portion along 1 of your Apple headphone wires. Take both sections of your earbuds and tie them in a knot above this white component. Place both earbuds in your ears, then go about listening to your music as you normally do.[10]
- Don't worry about damaging your earbuds—this knot is pretty easy to undo and will help keep your earbuds from slipping out.
- Hold your phone or secure it in an armband. Slide your phone into an armband compartment, then check that it's closed. Secure the band with Velcro around your arm to hold your phone or music playing device in place.[11]
- When you leave your phone in your pocket, it can weigh down your headphones and cause your earbuds to pop out. An armband takes away some of this pressure.
- Some armbands have a compartment where you can hide away some of your headphone wire.
- You can find an armband online or in a variety of stores for less than $20.
- If you have a tendency to lose or drop your Apple headphones or AirPods, you may want to switch to a cheaper set of headphones instead.[12]
- You can buy accessory cords that hold your AirPods together, which can make it easier to keep track of them while they're not charging.[13]
[Edit]Things You'll Need [Edit]Using AirPods - Waterproof tape
- Silicone skins
- Connecting cord
- Silicone tips
- Ear grips
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| How to Fight Summer Depression Posted: 24 Jun 2020 01:00 AM PDT Though summertime is often a time of fun and excitement for many people, the summer blues are common to many others, as well. You may have difficulty coping with the heat, body issues, or perhaps memories of past summers that you can't seem to forget. In any case, if you assess the causes, work to beat the depression, and focus on enjoying your summer, you can fight the summer blues. [Edit]Assessing the Causes - Assess potential causes. Many people suffer from sadness or depression during certain seasons of the year, particularly winter or summer. If you are suffering from depression, recognize that you are not alone and begin to consider the roots of your feelings. Consider if the following issues could be at the root of the problem:[1]
- Body issues—many begin to experience depression out of fear or anxiety of having to wear shorts or bathing suits during these months.
- Financial issues—financial pressures can be more intensive in the summer when most are going on vacations, which are typically costly.
- Heat—changes in weather can be at the root of your problem. The heat in many sectors of the world can be so intense that it can significantly lower your quality of life.
- Loneliness—such as from seeing people around you go out and do things with other people.
- Journal your thoughts. Though thinking about these issues is a helpful first step in understanding the issue, you can take it a bit further by writing out your thoughts in a journal or a diary. Many people process their thoughts better when they are on paper; this will also give you the opportunity to revisit your thoughts later to see if your mood and depression have improved or worsened.
- Write out thoughts like "I feel like I am the only person who feels sadness during the summer and like I can't share these thoughts with others. But the heat really affects me and makes me want to avoid the world."
- Talk to someone you trust. Though you may feel like this depression is unique only to you, know that others may be undergoing a similar issue or may be willing to listen even if they are not. Take some time to discuss your feelings with a friend, family member, or other confidant. Be open and honest with them. They may be able to help you or find ways for you to overcome your depression. Let them know what they can do to help you, such as spending time with you, and then you can return the favor to them sometime.
- You might say something like "Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something. I know that most people love it but I tend to get a little blue during the summer. Do you ever feel like that?"
- Even if they say no, you can say "I was just wondering. It's just that I have some body issues and the summer is so beach and pool focused that I find it hard to cope with sometimes."
- Develop a plan to address the problem. Fighting summertime depression can be multi-pronged. Perhaps it's the heat and financial issues that are troubling you. Carve out ways to address these issues so that you can make it through the summer as happy as possible and overcome this depression.
 - If your issues are financial, make a plan to save in the months approaching the summer. Consider getting a part time job if there are certain things that you must pay for, like summer daycare. Cut out any unnecessary spending and consult a financial advisor. They can provide you with advice on how to have more financial stability in general.
- If you have body issues, work on being more body positive. There are body positive blogs out there as well as a body positive community. Know that nobody is perfect; we all have our individual hangups and problem areas. If it is bothering you at other times of the year, consider exercise and having a healthy diet. Seek out a professional such as a personal trainer to help keep you accountable.
- If you have issues with the heat, try to stay indoors as much as possible. Wear light and airy clothing. Stay away from dark clothes. Keep your hair up or cut it short during the summer. Wear open toed shoes. Find enjoyable affordable indoor activities to enjoy during the summer, such as bowling, going to the movies, and visiting museums.
- Consider talking to a professional. Sometimes, the blues may be too hard for you to handle alone, and that is okay. Many professionals are trained to address SAD in others, so make a few calls to professionals in the area to see if they are trained to discuss this.[2]
- Remember that seeking help is never a bad thing; therapy has benefited millions of people.
[Edit]Fighting the Depression - Get on a schedule. Sometimes, depression can arise because during the summer, there may be less or more to do than in the other months. Setting up a schedule for yourself can help alleviate either some of the lapses you have in time or some of the more overwhelming aspects of your schedule.[3]
- Try to fill your schedule with fun activities if you feel that you don't have enough to do. Don't wait to do this. Do it ahead of time so you will have plenty of activities lined up.
- Take some unnecessary tasks off of your plate if you are feeling overwhelmed and work on prioritizing tasks or activities.
- Replace the triggers. Often times, people suffer from SAD because some negative experience or experiences occurred during that particular season in their life in the past. Though these issues may be difficult to get over, you should take some time to think about them, journal them out, and talk to others or a professional. In addition, work to create new memories during the summer to replace this old and bad ones.[4]
- Do fun things with friends or take a memorable trip. If you are dealing with the anniversary of losing a loved one, then see if one of these activities can commemorate them in some way.
- Reflect on the positive memories that you have had in past summers.
- Sleep. Sometimes, people begin to feel depressed because they stop sleeping regularly and enough. You may feel that you have so much to do or so many things on your mind that it is affecting your sleep pattern. However, you should remember that you cannot be at your best unless you have gotten a sufficient amount of sleep. The recommended amount per night is eight hours.[5]
- Commit to going to sleep at the same time each night to assure that you are sleeping enough. Create a routine for yourself to help train your brain to know when to sleep. If insomnia goes on for a long time, then talk to your doctor about treatment options.
- Make a sleep schedule even for the weekends. You don't want to sleep your entire day away or throw off your schedule for the weekdays.
- Exercise. Exercise is a great home remedy to address depression and other mental and physical health concerns. Consider joining a gym or doing some simple exercises around your home. You can YouTube some basic workouts and watch them on your computer, phone, or TV.[6]
- Consider asking a friend to workout with you.
- You can also walk around the neighborhood if it is not too hot for you.
- Say no sometimes. You may have commitments, but remember that it's okay to say no. For instance, if you typically always host a cookout at the beginning of the summer, recognize that it is okay not to this year. See if another friend or family member will do it instead and offer to help out.[7]
- Make tweaks to your home and diet. Enjoy fresh fruits and vegetables that are best during the summer, like strawberries. Consider getting darker blinds if the sunlight bothers you or if you are looking for solutions to the heat.[8]
- Practice yoga and meditation. Yoga and meditation are great ways to relax and destress. Go to a yoga studio or take classes at your local gym. You can also find yoga videos online. Meditation is also a way to cope and to recenter yourself to positivity. Meditate on mantras or quotes that are salient to you.[9]
- Do yoga with a friend.
- A mantra you might meditate on is "I will be happy. I will be positive."
[Edit]Enjoying your Summer - Don't beat yourself up. You may be feeling frustrated with yourself for being depressed or for not having more 'get up and go', but remember that beating yourself up will only make you feel worse. Work to forgive yourself for this depression and also recognize that it is not your fault. Try your best to enjoy your summer, but also make time to take care of yourself.[10]
- Plan something fun. Perhaps your depression is rooted in feeling that you don't have anything fun to do during the summer. Plan a vacation with friends or even set up a few movie nights if you want to be more cost effective.[11]
- Many cities offer free and fun events downtown during the summer. See what your city offers and make plans to go.
- Hang out with friends. Spending time with friends is a great way to overcome the summertime blues. Keep in touch with your friends during the summer by calling and texting them regularly and making plans with them to hang out.[12]
- Accept their offers to hang out and resist the urge to stay home alone feeling blue.
- Consider joining a community where you can meet people and make friends, such as a church or other spiritual group or special interest group in your community.
- Continue your hobbies. One sign or depression is when a person stops doing the things that they typically enjoy. Push back against the urge to quit or be reclusive; continue to do the things that you love so that depression doesn't overpower you. Take breaks when necessary but don't lose sight of the things that make you 'you.'[13]
- If you enjoy certain sports that are typically played outside, see if you can find ways to do that inside, instead. For instance, there are quite a few indoor soccer arenas.
- Be open to new activities as well. If people invite you to join them in activities, then say yes.
- Beat the heat. If you feel that your depression is associated with the debilitating heat that often comes with the summertime, work to stay indoors when you can and stay cool when you cannot. Make plans to hang out with your friends that will be indoors like going to the mall or to the movies. Stay in the shade when outdoors.[14]
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