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How to Improve Prostate Health

Posted: 21 Aug 2016 05:00 PM PDT

The prostate is a small gland found in men, near their bladders. Many men experience prostate problems, and as they get older it is important to watch for signs of prostate cancer. According to the American Cancer Society, one in every seven men is diagnosed with prostate cancer in his lifetime and it is the second leading cause of cancer death among men in the United States. In 2015, 27,540 deaths were projected to occur due to prostate cancer.[1] However, there are a number of preventive measures that a man can take to reduce his risk of developing prostate cancer, including important dietary and lifestyle changes and becoming aware of his family history.

EditSteps

EditMaking Dietary Changes

  1. Eat whole grains and more fruits and vegetables. Choose whole-grain bread and pasta over white bread and pasta. Make sure to get at least five servings of fruits and vegetables every single day. Include produce high in lycopene, a powerful antioxidant, such as red peppers and tomatoes. Lycopene is what makes fruit and vegetables red, and has been proven as a cancer-fighting ingredient. In general, the deeper and brighter the color of your produce, the better.[2]
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    • There are currently no guidelines as the amount of lycopene you should try to get each day. However, research indicates that for lycopene to make any difference, you would need to eat lycopene-foods all day to get the amounts needed.[3]
    • Cruciferous vegetables such as broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, bok choy and kale are also good defenses against the development of cancer. Some controlled studies have found a link between increased ingestion of cruciferous vegetables and reduced risk of prostate cancer, although the evidence is merely associative at this point.[4]
  2. Be more selective in your consumption of protein. Cut back on how much red meat you eat, including beef, pork, lamb and goat. It's also a good idea to limit your consumption of processed meats, like sandwich meat and hot dogs.[5]
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    • Instead of red meat, eat fish with high levels of omega-3 acids, including salmon and tuna. These foods will help your prostate as well as your heart and immune system. The research about the relationship between dietary fish intake and prostate cancer prevention is largely based on correlative data and namely, the fact that the Japanese have so few cases of prostate cancer and eat large amounts of fish. Whether there is a causal relationship is still being debated.[6]
    • Beans, skinless poultry, and eggs are also healthy options for protein.
  3. Increase the amount of soy in your diet. The properties of soy, which is found in many vegetarian dishes, fight cancer. Sources of soy include tofu, soy nuts, soy flour and soy powders. Swapping cow's milk for soy milk in your cereal or coffee is one way to get more soy into your diet.[7]
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    • Note that recent research has found soy beans and some other specific products, such as tofu, to be preventive in prostate cancer. However, this cannot be extrapolated to all soy products, including milk. There are also no current anecdotal or evidence-based guidelines on the amount of soy you should try to incorporate into your diet.[8]
  4. Limit your alcohol, caffeine, and sugar intake. Though you don't need to entirely cut out caffeine from your diet, try to limit how much you ingest. For example, limit yourself to one to two 4-ounce cups of coffee per day. The same goes for alcohol; try to view it as a treat and stick to a couple of small glasses a week.[9]
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    • Avoid sugary (sometimes also caffeinated) drinks like sodas and fruit juices. These have nearly zero nutritional benefit.
  5. Limit your salt intake. The best way to cut back on how much sodium you consume is to eat fresh produce, dairy, and meats and avoid packaged, canned, and frozen foods. Salt is often used as a preservative and is thus present in large amounts in pre-packaged foods.[10]
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    • When shopping, stick to the outer perimeter of the grocery store as much as possible. This is where most of the fresh food is located, while cartons, cans, and other packages tend to be isolated in the center aisles.
    • Take the time to read and compare food labels. Most food labels are now required to state how much sodium is in a product and what percentage it makes up of your daily recommended intake of sodium.
    • The American Heart Association recommends that Americans consume less than 1,500 milligrams of sodium per day.[11]
  6. Keep good fats and get rid of bad fats. Limit your consumption of saturated fats from animal and dairy products and instead switch to healthy fats, like olive oil, nuts, and avocados. Animal products high in fat, such as meat, butter, and lard, have been associated with an increase risk of prostate cancer.[12][13]
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    • Avoid fast food and most processed foods. These often contain partially hydrogenated fats (trans fats), which are extremely unhealthy.


EditMaking Other Lifestyle Changes

  1. Take supplements. Cancer research has emphasized the importance of getting your nutrients from food instead of vitamin supplements whenever possible.[14] However, there may be cases where a supplement is a better option for you. Be sure to discuss any supplements you are taking or thinking about taking with your physician.
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    • Take zinc supplements. Most men do not get enough zinc in their diets, and supplements can help keep your prostate healthy. Research has demonstrated that zinc deficiencies can lead to enlarged prostates and that zinc plays a role in the progression of prostate cells to malignancy. You can take 50 to 100 (or even up to 200) milligrams of zinc per day in tablet form to reduce an enlarged prostate.[15]
    • Try taking saw palmetto berry, made from the berries of the Saw Palmetto plant. This supplement has received mixed reviews from users and the medical field, so talk to your doctor before you try it. Some research has suggested that it may assist in the cytotoxicity (cell death) of human prostate cancer cells.[16]
    • Note that some research has suggested that taking certain supplements, such as vitamin E, or folic acid (a B vitamin) may even increase your risk of prostate cancer. Other studies has demonstrated that taking many (i.e., more than 7) supplements, even those marked for prostate cancer, may increase the risk of developing advanced prostate cancer.[17]
  2. Don't smoke. Although the relationship of prostate cancer and smoking has been long debated, tobacco use is believed to cause oxidative damage via free radicals to the body's cells, thus making the link between cancer and smoking plausible. In a meta-analysis of 24 studies, researchers found that cigarette smoking was in fact a risk for prostate cancer.[18][19]
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  3. Maintain a healthy weight. If you are overweight, get yourself on a diet and exercise plan that will get you into a healthy range. Whether someone is overweight or obese is determined by using the body mass index (BMI), an indicator of body fatness. BMI is a person's weight in kilograms (kg) divided by the square of the person's height in meters (m). A BMI of 25-29.9 is considered overweight, while a BMI greater than 30 is considered obese.[20]
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    • Reduce the number of calories you intake and increase the amount of exercise you do. This is the secret to weight loss.[21]
    • Watch portion sizes and make a concerted effort to eat slowly, savor and chew your food and stop eating when you are full. Remember that you just need to feel satiated, not stuffed to the brim.[22]
  4. Exercise regularly. Regular activity is not only good for reducing your risk of certain types of cancers, but also other potential health problems, including depression, heart disease and stroke. Though a causal relationship between exercise to prostate health remains unconfirmed, the studies that have been conducted to date suggest that exercise is beneficial in keeping your prostate healthy. [23][24]
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    • You should aim for 30 minutes of moderate to intense exercise several days a week. However, even low to moderate exercising, like brisk walking, is beneficial for prostate health. If you're new to exercising, start slowly by walking to work, using the stairs instead of the elevator and going on nightly walks. Build up to more intense workouts involving aerobic exercise, like cycling, swimming, or running.[25]
  5. Perform Kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are performed by contracting the muscles of your pelvic floor (as if you were attempting to stop the flow of urine), holding them for a brief period, and then releasing them. Doing these exercises regularly will help strengthen and tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor. You can do Kegel exercises anywhere because they don't require any special equipment!
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    • Tighten the muscles around your scrotum and anus for a few seconds, then release. Do this exercise in 10 repetitions three to four times a day to improve your prostate health. Try to build up to 10-second holds.
    • You can also do Kegel exercises by lying on your back with your pelvis in the air and clenching your buttocks. Hold for 30 seconds, then release. Do this for five minute intervals three times a day.
  6. Ejaculate often. Although for a long time, researchers believed that frequent ejaculation during sex, masturbation, or even a dream increased men's risk of developing prostate cancer, newer research is suggesting in fact, that frequent ejaculation may actually protect the prostate. Researchers suggest that ejaculation may help to flush out carcinogens in the prostate glands as well as help fluids in the prostate turn over more quickly to reduce cancer risk. In addition, regular ejaculation may also help to reduce psychological tension, which can slow the growth of cancer cells.[26]
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    • That said, this research is still in its early stages and researchers have said that it's too soon to yet make a formal recommendation on men's sexual habits. It's unclear, for example, how often a man should ejaculate to see these benefits. These researchers do suspect, however, that ejaculation frequency accompanies other indicators of a healthy lifestyle, including a healthy diet and regular exercise.[27]

EditTaking Medical Precautions

  1. Be aware of your family history. Having immediate male family members (such as a father or brother) with prostate cancer significantly increase your risk of developing it yourself. In fact, the risk is more than doubled! It's essential that you notify your doctor of any family history of prostate cancer so you can work together to build a comprehensive preventive program.[28]
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    • Note that the risk is high for men with a brother diagnosed with prostate cancer than a father. In addition, the risk is increased for those men who have multiple relatives with prostate cancer, especially if those relatives were diagnosed at a young age (e.g., before 40).[29]
    • Ask your doctor to test to see if you have mutations of the BRCA1 or BRCA2 genes, which may increase your chances of prostate cancer.[30][31]
  2. Know the symptoms of a potential prostate problem. These include erectile dysfunction, blood in your urine, pain when you urinate or have sex, pain in the hips or low back, or always feeling like you need to urinate.[32]
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    • However, prostate cancer is often asymptomatic, at least until it has spread to affect other parts of the body, such as the bones. Patients diagnosed with prostate cancer rarely report the above symptoms of incontinence, blood in the urine, impotence, etc.
  3. See your doctor regularly. The American Cancer Society recommends getting screened for prostate cancer beginning at age 50 (or age 45 if you have any risk factors for prostate cancer). Screening involves the prostate-specific antigen (PSA) blood test. PSA is a substance made by both the normal and cancer the cells in your prostate that is found in a small amount in the blood. Most men have PSA levels of 4 nanograms per milliliter (ng/mL) of blood, and the higher the PSA leve, the higher the chance of cancer. The gap between screenings depends on the results of this test. Men who have a PSA of less than 2.5 ng/mL need retesting every 2 years, whereas men with higher PSA levels should be tested annually.[33]
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    • A digital rectal exam (DRE) may also be included in the screening. In this exam, a clinician will feel for a nodule on the back side of the prostate.[34]
    • Neither the PSA nor the DRE is conclusive. You will likely need a biopsy to diagnose prostate cancer.[35]
    • At present, the American Cancer Society recommends that men should make an informed decision about prostate screening after detailed discussion with their primary care physicians. Screening can help locate cancers early, but there is no conclusive research as to whether screening actually saves lives. That said, catching the cancer earlier increases the chance that it can be treated successfully.[36]

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EditWarnings

  • Make sure you do not ignore prostate problems. If an enlarged prostate is not corrected, it can lead to more serious problems including urinary tract infections, kidney and bladder stones and other problems with your kidneys and bladder.
  • If you are a veteran who was exposed to Agent Orange, you are at high risk for aggressive prostate cancer.[37]

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How to Make Guacamole

Posted: 21 Aug 2016 09:00 AM PDT

Guacamole is a popular Mexican avocado salad or dip that's quite easy to make. The base of most any guacamole is mashed or chunked avocado. Mix in onions, cilantro, chilies, seasonings and serve it with tortilla chips. This is a basic guacamole formula, but don't be afraid to mix in other things to make it your own.

EditIngredients

EditMain Ingredients

  • 2 ripe avocados
  • ¼ onion, diced
  • 1 serrano or jalapeno pepper, minced
  • ½ teaspoon salt
  • 1-2 tablespoons fresh cilantro, chopped
  • 1 ½ teaspoons lime juice

EditOptional Ingredients

  • ½ tomato, chopped
  • 1 small garlic clove, finely chopped

EditSteps

EditMaking Traditional Guacamole

  1. Start by dicing your onion. Avocados oxidize quickly. Cutting them at the absolute last moment ensures that they stay fresh and green. Start by cutting an onion in half. Halve again until you have one quarter. Dice the onion with a sharp knife. Set aside in a small bowl.
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    • If you want onion with a less acidic bite, wash your diced onion under cold water in a colander and drain. Water will help remove some of the sulfuric acid in onions (the same sulfuric acid that makes you cry when you cut an onion).
  2. Mince the pepper. Mince your serrano or jalapeno pepper and combine in the same bowl with the onion.
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    • If you want less spicy guacamole, remove the seeds and veins from the pepper before you mince it. Seeds and veins are especially hot.
  3. Chop about 2 tablespoons of fresh cilantro. Bunch the cilantro together with one hand. Carefully chop it with a sharp knife and combine with onions and peppers.
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    • If you want, feel free to cut the cilantro stem along with the leaf. Unlike parsley, which has a fibrous and unappetizing stem, cilantro stems are pleasing additions to guacamole.
  4. Mince one small garlic clove (optional). Guacamole doesn't need garlic, but many consider garlic an essential ingredient. If you do plan to use garlic in your recipe, mince a small clove and combine in bowl with onions, peppers, and cilantro.
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  5. Thoroughly combine onions, peppers, and cilantro. In order to get the best possible flavor, consider spending some extra time mashing the onions, cilantro, and serrano chili pepper with a fork so that they release their oils. This isn't absolutely essential if you're in a hurry, but it makes a big difference in the end.
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    • If you happen to have a mortar and pestle (or traditional molcajete), now's the time to gently grind the onion, pepper, and cilantro together.
  6. Slice the avocados in half and remove the pit. Take a sharp knife and slice the avocados in half lengthwise. Pull the seed out from the avocado half and make sure no seed bits remain in your avocado.
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    • It's better to use an avocado that's too soft than too hard. Since this is the main ingredient in guacamole, it's important to choose nice avocados whose flavors will highlight your dish.
    • It might help to twist the avocado halves as you're pulling them apart.
  7. Cube the avocados. Cut a grid-like pattern in the avocado halves. Don't cut through the skin.
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  8. Scoop the avocados into the bowl with the remaining ingredients. Take a spoon and scoop the cubed avocados from the peel into the bowl with your onions, peppers, and cilantro.
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  9. Use your spoon to combine the avocado with the rest of the ingredients. If you like chunkier guacamole, use your spoon to gently break up the avocados until the onions, peppers, and cilantro are evenly distributed but the avocado isn't completely smooth. If you like smoother guacamole, mash the avocados until the avocado is creamy.
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    • If you'd like to, add lime to your guacamole while you break up the avocados.
    • Be sure to salt your guacamole, too. Sea salt adds a nice crunch to guacamole that table salt doesn't give.
  10. Introduce ripe, diced tomatoes into the guacamole (optional). If you have less-ripe tomatoes, combine them before you break up the avocados. If you have ripe tomatoes, introduce them now; ripe tomatoes are delicate and are worth highlighting.
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EditSpicing up your Guacamole

  1. Add sweetness with diced mango or pomegranate seeds. Fresh mango adds a tangy sweetness to your rich guacamole. If you enjoy sweet flavors in your dips, try out a Mayan salsa called xec. Pomegranate seeds make your guacamole visually appealing as well as slightly sweet.
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  2. Add a smoky element to your guacamole with roasted tomatillos or pumpkin seeds. Roasted tomatillos or toasted pumpkin seeds give your guacamole a whole new depth of flavor.
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  3. Play around with other unique additions. Don't be afraid to make your own additions. It's hard to mess up guacamole and easy to create your own unique version. Drizzle olive oil on top. Include the zest of a lime or Meyer lemon. Try adding a small amount of grated queso fresco cheese.
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  4. Garnish the guacamole. Sprinkle cilantro over the top and serve immediately. Other options for garnish include:
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    • Thinly sliced radish
    • Oven-roasted corn
    • Chips or tortillas arranged around the side of the guacamole bowl

EditTips

  • For a firmer, less watery guacamole, remove the seeds from the tomato before adding it to the mix.
  • The guacamole will oxidize when in contact with open air. [1] To avoid this, use the guacamole immediately or cover it with plastic wrap before serving.
  • To check if your avocados are ripe, squeeze them gently. If they give a little and are a bit soft, they are good to use. [2]
  • To tone down a spicy guacamole, add a dollop of sour cream or cottage cheese.

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How to Deal With People Who Always Complain

Posted: 21 Aug 2016 01:00 AM PDT

Dealing with people who often complain can be tough. It is annoying and can even be mentally and emotionally draining. Maybe you have a friend or family member who is always complaining. Or it might be someone you work with who brings negativity to your day. No matter who is complaining, there are steps you can take to deal constructively with the situation.

EditSteps

EditDealing With Complaining Friends and Family

  1. Change the subject. It can be draining to listen to complaints. It can also make the conversation socially awkward. The next time a friend starts complaining, shift the focus.[1]
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    • Maybe your aunt complains about your uncle's busy work schedule. Try saying, "I understand you've been busy, too. Tell me all about your new book club!"
    • When you redirect the conversation, you are demonstrating that you would like to talk about something else. Just make sure to change the subject to something more neutral.
    • Avoid potentially negative topics. For example, if you have a friend who constantly complains about work, don't bring up the subject. Instead, talk about a book you both recently finished.
  2. Set boundaries. Maybe your friends constantly use you as a sounding board. If people regularly complain to you, that means they see you as someone who can be trusted. But it can also be emotionally exhausting for you.[2]
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    • Let your friends know that you need to set some boundaries. Try saying, "Sara, I'm always here for you. But sometimes I'd like to talk about my own life when I'm with you."
    • Maybe your friend has problems that make you uncomfortable. Don't be afraid to make that clear.
    • For example, maybe your friend regularly complains about her disappointing sex life. Try saying, "Sheryl, would you mind if we change the subject? That kind of personal detail makes me uncomfortable."
  3. Promote "I" statements. It is important to explain to your friends and family that it hurts you when they complain all of the time. You can use "I" statements to express your feelings and you can also ask the person who is complaining to rephrase his or her feelings using "I" statements.[3]
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    • An "I" statement focuses on the feelings or ideas of the person talking, rather than the person who it listening. Promoting "I" statements in your interactions with others may help you to feel less stressed by the complaints that you hear.
    • When you live with someone who is constantly complaining, it can make you feel like he or she is blaming you for everything that is wrong in the house. Instead of stating, "I'm sick of hearing you complaining," state, "It feels like I'm getting blamed for everything that is wrong in the house."
    • You might also consider saying something like, "Always listening to the negative is very frustrating for me" instead of "You are such an awful complainer!"
    • You can also ask others to rephrase their complaints using "I" statements. For example, ask your sister to say, "I feel like our holiday gatherings are very stressful" instead of saying, "Christmas at your house is horrible!"
    • Try to use "I" statements yourself whenever you are communicating with someone who often complains. This will help you to demonstrate how useful "I" statements can be.
  4. Deal with an elderly person who complains often. Elderly people can offer up a lot of complaints. Your family gatherings might suffer if you count an aging family member who complains to your relatives. There are ways that you can learn to deal with this specific situation.[4]
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    • Take a minute to listen. Elderly people are often lonely and just want someone to talk to. Change the topic to something cheerful and enjoy a chat.
    • Offer to help. Many elderly people find themselves unable to cope with life's daily challenges.
    • If your grandmother complains about traffic, offer a solution. Tell her you'll be happy to pick up some groceries for her so that she has to spend less time in the car.
  5. Cope with a complaining child. If you have kids, you've probably heard more complaints than you ever imagined. Pre-teens and teens in particular often complain a lot. You can choose how to respond to complaints made by a child.[5]
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    • Try brainstorming. If your teen complains of boredom, ask him to list some things he would like to do. This will help him learn to find his own solutions.
    • Be patient. Remember that kids are going through a lot of changes.
    • Many times, the complaints of a child are based on anxiety, or even tiredness. Take care to locate the root of the problem.
    • Be non-judgmental. Try not to criticize your child for complaining. For example, if your child complains that dinner is "gross", try saying, "It's unfortunate that you feel that way." If complaining does not earn your child a lot of attention, then he or she will be more likely to find positive things to say.
  6. Spend time in groups. When you are in a social situation, it can be awkward to listen to someone who constantly complains. If you have friends or family members who seem to enjoy whining, it can take the fun out of many situations. Try to avoid spending alone time with someone who complains a lot if it bothers you.[6]
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    • People are less likely to complain if there are several people around. You don't have to avoid having a coffee date with your complaining cousin. Just ask others to join you.
    • The next time your cousin asks you for coffee, just say, "That sounds great, but I already have plans with a couple of friends. You don't mind if they join us, do you?"
    • You will feel less pressure to respond to the complaints if you are in a group. If your friend complains that she hates the pizza that's being served, you don't even have to respond if there are others sitting close by. Just allow other group members to carry on the conversation.

EditCoping With Negative Co-workers

  1. Show empathy. Dealing with a complaining co-worker is a frustrating situation. Not only is it awkward, it can also make you less productive. If you regularly cope with complaining colleagues, take steps to handle the situation constructively. [7]
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    • Try to be kind. Sometimes people just need to vent.
    • If your co-worker regularly complains of overwork, try saying, "I'm in the same boat. Maybe we could take turns going on caffeine runs for each other."
    • You can also try complimenting the complainer. Try saying, "Wow, you have been putting in a lot of hours. At least it paid off. I heard your presentation was fantastic." This puts a more positive spin on the situation.
  2. Offer to help. Remember that complaints are sometimes legitimate. It is possible that the complainer has a real problem. If you can, try to offer your assistance.[8]
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    • For example, maybe someone in your office constantly complains about the frigid temperature. If you agree, try suggesting that the two of you talk to your boss about the situation together.
    • Maybe your colleague feels that she is being treated unfairly by your boss. Try saying, "Have you considered talking to HR about the situation?"
    • By offering advice, you are showing that you heard the complaint. You are also demonstrating that the problem can be fixed. Hopefully, the person who is complaining will heed your words.
  3. Ask questions. You might find yourself tuning out every time to talk to someone who regularly complains. But try listening. You might find that by asking questions and participating in the conversation, you can make your interactions more positive.[9]
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    • Start with a simple question. Try saying, "What do you think you can do to solve the problem?"
    • That puts the responsibility of finding a solution on them, not you. But it also indicates that you are listening.
    • If the person says they don't know what to do, try asking more questions. You could say, "Why don't you spend some time thinking about it? How about we talk again next week if the problem is still happening?"
    • Make an effort to understand the situation. If the person who is complaining says vague things like, "I hate it here", you can try saying, "Why?"
    • This response is non-committal, but will allow you to determine if the complaint is valid. Then you can decide whether to devote more of your attention to the situation.
  4. Be honest. It can be fun to socialize with your co-workers. Maybe you have a group from your office who regularly gets together for happy hour. But if someone who often complains tags along, that can ruin the whole evening.[10]
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    • Kindly but firmly voice your opinion. Try saying something like, "I really don't feel like discussing work after hours."
    • You can also try gently taking the person aside. You can say, "I know it's helpful to vent, but maybe we could save the work problems for work, ok?"
    • You can also simply turn to someone else and start a different conversation. Others will likely follow your lead and talk about more pleasant topics.
    • Using "I" statements, explain your point of view. You can say, "I feel stressed when you talk about how unhappy you are at work."
  5. Take control of the conversation. Your might feel anxious every time a negative co-worker approaches you. Instead of inwardly rolling your eyes, take control of the situation. You can choose how to direct the conversation.[11]
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    • End the complaints before they start. When your co-worker approaches, immediately say something positive.
    • For example, you could say, "Hey, Betty! I heard you ran a 5k this weekend. Good job!" By starting the conversation on a positive note, you might be able to head off complaints.
    • If the other person starts to complain, you can end the conversation. Say, "Wow, that sounds frustrating. But I'm on a deadline, so I'm going to have to get back to work right now."

EditKeeping a Positive Attitude

  1. Remove the negativity from your life. Other people's problems can be emotionally draining. If you feel that being around someone is negatively affecting your life, consider removing yourself from the situation. Be mindful of the amount of time that you spend with negative people.[12]
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    • You can't always completely cut people out of your life. For example, the person who complains a lot might be a family member.
    • You can, however, take the pressure off of yourself to attend every gathering. If Uncle Greg really stresses you out, it's okay to take a pass on the next family gathering. Just plead a prior commitment.
    • If you have a friend who is really draining your energy, you might want to limit your time together. You can try saying, "John, I'm focusing on making some changes in my life and I'm going to have to stop meeting you for dinner each Tuesday."
  2. Practice positive thinking. Keeping a positive attitude can make a major difference in your life. Remember, you can't control how other people behave. But you can choose how to react.[13]
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    • Make a conscious effort to remain positive. For example, the next time you are listening to complaints, try thinking to yourself, "Wow, my life seems pretty great in comparison."
    • Positive thinking doesn't mean that you have to ignore problems. It just means that you can choose to focus on finding solutions and other, more positive issues.
    • Positive thinking can help reduce your stress. This can benefit your physical and mental health.
  3. Commit to self-care. Remaining positive can help you feel better able to cope with constant complaints. In order to keep a positive attitude, you need to take care of yourself. Make sure to make self-care a priority.[14]
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    • Self-care means making sure that you are meeting both your physical and emotional needs. Take time to check in with yourself each day.
    • Ask yourself, "How am I doing? Do I need a break?" If the answer is yes, then take one.
    • A simple five minute walk around the block can do wonders for your mental health. Or you can try taking a relaxing bubble bath.
  4. Reduce your stress. If you reduce your overall stress level, you will be better able to cope with people who complain often. Try to find ways to ease your tension. There are many steps you can take to do this.[15]
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    • Eat a healthy diet. Fast food can feel good in the moment, but a lot of sugars and fats can actually worsen your mood. Try to eat more fresh fruits and vegetables.
    • Get moving. Physical exercise is a proven mood booster. Aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity most days of the week.
    • Rest up. If you are tired, you will find complaints more aggravating. Try to get at least seven to nine hours of sleep each night to help reduce your stress levels.


EditTips

  • Address the situation honestly. Let the person who is complaining know how you feel.
  • Remove yourself from the situation.
  • Mentally prepare yourself to cope with the person who complains all of the time.

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