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How to Survive Black Friday

Posted: 24 Nov 2016 04:00 PM PST

Named for the day stores and retailers start "getting in the black" (turning a profit),[1] Black Friday is the day following Thanksgiving. It is notorious for frustratingly long lines, thick crowds, and limited quantities of discount merchandise. But despite this, it's a highly anticipated occasion as shoppers hunt for amazing bargains and hope they'll get incredibly low prices for more expensive items. Here are some suggestions for surviving Black Friday.

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  1. Know what you want before heading out. If you don't have any idea of what you want, seriously question your purpose in heading out into the crowds. Without a plan, it will be tempting to spend money you don't necessarily have on items you don't necessarily need and the experience will be fraught with exhaustion, impulse buying, and possibly even guilt. It is a lot better to have a plan in mind, or else you could be using this day more constructively to take a rest or see a movie!
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    • If you're shopping for gifts, write a list of all the people you're planning on buying gifts for. This way, you can keep track of who receives what, creating an organized method for your shopping and helps you to avoid duplicating gifts or missing out on anyone. Decide which person is the recipient of which item.
    • If you're buying things for yourself or for the household, again write a list. If you're after clothes, specify what types of clothes rather than thinking "Oh anything that looks reasonably priced". If you want a pair of jeans, new pajamas and a stack of new socks, write these things down. Anything else is peripheral. Same goes for household items: avoid wandering along in the hope of adding "stuff" to your kitchen or other areas of the house. Think about what is actually missing, broken, or outdated that could do with adding or upgrading to your household rather than buying gadgets you're not even sure what to do with!
    • Plan your budget. If things are tight, a budget is essential. Even if they're not tight, a budget will help to rein in impulse buys and can curb the temptation to buy things just because you think someone else "might like it". Decide how much money you have spare, and stick to that amount.
  2. Plan your shopping attack with the precision of a general planning a battle. Not only is the budget and list important, but so are the methods you plan to adopt when going in for the bargain. Timing is everything with limited bargains, so the first thing to keep in mind is hour at which you intend to turn up. The earlier, the better, if you have your eye on items that you know will sell out fast. If you're super keen, you might like to camp out - read How to Camp Out for Black Friday for more details on how to do this.
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    • Find your bargains. Collect all newspaper ads, circulars, and coupon packets mentioning Black Friday discounts. Know what is on sale, who is selling it, and during what period those items are on sale – some stores have Black Friday sales going on all day, but others keep them going for only a few hours.
    • Develop a plan of attack by drawing up a map of places to visit in a particular order. It is good to know what stores you need to hit first, preferably the one with the most important items or gifts on your list. Be sure to clearly mark those stores having sales on only at certain times, along with the time marked clearly.
    • Organize your transportation. Remember that the parking lots will often be congested and parking rage can start early on. Are there other solutions than taking the car? Perhaps you can be dropped off and picked up later. Or take public transportation? Or stay with a friend who lives near the stores, and ferry your purchases back there before returning for more shopping?
  3. Think laterally. It's a good idea to think about what alternative items you might substitute for items you're seeking that have already sold out. The chances that you won't always get the items you've planned to buy are fairly high, especially with popular items. Look through the catalogs for alternate, and less popular, items, including gift alternatives if you're gift shopping.
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  4. Take along anything you need to help you. While it's important not to be carrying too much, things you will probably benefit from include: a watch so that you know the time, a cell phone to keep in touch with family members and friends also hitting the shops, and bags to carry your purchases in. Even if the stores provide bags, it is a good idea to bring along your own, stronger bags, especially if you plan on carrying the purchases around for a bit before putting them in the car or elsewhere.
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    • Be sure to bring along your money! Do a double check before leaving the house to ensure that you have the relevant cards, cash, and vouchers you want to bring along.
    • Check that you have your discount coupons and specials catalogs.
    • Most importantly of all, be sure to bring along your list and a pen or pencil. Find a safe and easy place to keep it so that you can pull it out frequently to follow it and check things off.
  5. Ensure that you have plenty of sustenance. Plan meals and snacks into your shopping expedition. It can be too easy to forget food amid the rush for bargains but not eating for energy will leave you feeling tired and irritable, and more liable to blowing up at your fellow customers as they snatch the last limited bargain from under your nose.
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    • Visit your favorite food spots to fill up on water, juices, and healthy snacks such as salads, sandwiches and rolls, steamed vegetables and roasted meats. Given that this is the day after Thanksgiving, go easy on the fast foods and try to avoid them if you can.
    • Fatty and sugary foods will cause you to feel a temporary high and then a big crash, which will spoil your shopping experience.
  6. Plan breaks. Rushing around all the time will wear out even the most ardent shopper. As well as ensuring you're eating properly during the day out, be sure to factor in some breaks for a breather and to regain your sense of humor so that you avoid Black Friday turning into Black Mood Friday!
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  7. Hit the shops! You've done the planning and you have your map. Head forth with confidence.
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    • Avoid sleeping in. The early bird definitely gets the worm on this day. Most people are up and out of the house before dawn. Most stores open much earlier than usual. Don't think you can sleep until 11:00 and still be able to find those Manolos for 50 percent less – they'll be gone before 7 am!
    • Have your game face on and look determined and confident. You can't be a wuss and think that you have a fighting chance amongst the bargain shoppers on this day; assert yourself politely if someone barges in and takes your place in line. But be careful – some people will elbow, kick, pinch, anything it takes to get that last limited bargain, so choose your battles wisely – this is only shopping after all, not a do-or-die life choice. If you don't like people's behavior, don't push your luck because bargains aren't worth bruises.
    • Do not leave your basket unattended. When you see an item you want, keep a tight hold on it; leaving it in an unattended basket will be too much temptation for some and things will "disappear" the moment your back's turned.
    • If you can, try to avoid the layaway lines. You'll find yourself in one the entire day and miss out all the good stuff in other stores. Plus, everyone's heard more than a few horror stories where items were missing or hard to find when time came to pickup your layaway order. If it can't be avoided this shopping season, this is something to keep in mind for next year.
  8. Keep your sanity intact. Do a reality check now and then if you feel yourself getting hot under the collar. This is shopping, folks, just shopping. It is consumerism at its best (or worst depending on your viewpoint), and while participating in it in an orderly and considered way can reap you benefits, behaving like it's a race to the death is neither civil nor sensible. If you feel upset, exhausted, angry with your fellow shoppers, or as if you're about to physically or verbally lash out, your body is telling you it's time to go home. Bother the bargains – look after yourself and your family first.
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    • If the whole idea of shopping maniacally during sales really bothers you, participate in Buy Nothing Day instead. It's not without reason that it's celebrated on the same day when the manic panic of Black Friday shopping takes over a large proportion of the population!

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  • Have an open eye on things because you might find great deals and cool things without even planning it
  • Avoid socializing. So, you see someone in the store that you haven't seen since high school. It's great to see them and you want to brag about how great your life is now that you got the braces off and lost twenty pounds. Suffice to say, now isn't the time to do that. You have a job to do, and things to buy. Stop quickly and get the phone number; save it for after the sales, or even offer to catch up in a couple of hours by politely explaining that your bargain is about to expire!
  • Try to save a little a month just for this day.
  • Have someone who isn't going to the Black Friday sales drop you off to save time instead of looking for a parking space!
  • Decide what you want to get the night before. Know what you want before entering the store because there is no time when you get there to try to make up your mind. By the time you do, everything will be gone.
  • Check out the newspapers or online to check out the best deals and the opening times of stores.

EditThings You'll Need

  • Shopping list
  • Money (cash, credit/debit cards, store credit/gift cards, etc.)
  • A partner who can watch your basket if you need to do something else for a little while (optional, but helpful!)

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How to Measure a Dog's Pulse

Posted: 24 Nov 2016 08:00 AM PST

Knowing whether your dog's heart is beating as it should can be very important if you believe your dog may be hurt or sick. When you take your dog to the vet, she or he will listen to your dog's heart using a stethoscope. However, there are other ways to measure a dog's pulse rate that you can use at home. All you need is a stopwatch and your hand.

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EditFinding the Dog's Pulse

  1. Position the dog for easy access. Depending where you will be feeling for a pulse, you will want your dog to either stand up or lie on it's side.[1]
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  2. Find the femoral artery. The most reliable place to take a dog's pulse is its femoral artery. [2] This artery is located in the dog's groin area. To find a pulse in this area, put your fingers over the depression where the dog's back leg the leg meets its belly, and press gently.[3]
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    • If you can't find a pulse right away, move your fingers around in the area until you feel it.[4]
    • Your dog can be standing or lying on it's side while you feel for a pulse in this area.
  3. Feel for a pulse in the dog's chest. If you can't locate the femoral artery, or your dog isn't cooperating, you can also often find a pulse by feeling the dog's chest. While your dog is standing up, face your dog and place your hand over the rib cage.
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    • You should be able to feel a pulse just below the dog's elbow joint.[5]
    • Another approach is to place your hand of the dogs left side, just behind the front leg. A pulse can often be felt in this way as well.[6]
  4. Find a pulse on the back feet. Finally, if you don't have success with either of these approaches, you can sometimes feel a pulse near a dog's back feet. Feel the dog's foot with your fingertips, halfway between the toes and the ankle/wrist joint.[7]
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    • This is called the "pedal pulse."

EditCalculating the Dog's Pulse

  1. Set a stopwatch for 15 seconds. Heart rates are measured in beats per minute (BPM). However, it is easy to lose count when you are trying to take a pulse for a full 60 seconds. Instead, a set a stopwatch for 15 seconds.[8]
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    • You can use a watch with a second hand or the stopwatch function on your phone.
  2. Count the beats. Start the stopwatch, place your fingers on the area you've chosen to feel for a pulse, and count the beats of the dog's heart until the the time is up.
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    • Use your fingers only. If you use your thumb, you may end up feeling your own pulse, especially if you press too hard.[9] This can seriously throw off your count.
  3. Multiply by four. To convert your measure to BPM, all you have to do is multiply by four.[10] Four times 15 seconds is 60 seconds, or one minute.
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  4. Determine if the pulse is normal. Knowing your dog's heartrate is only helpful if you know what it should be. The bigger the dog, the slower its pulse will be. Generally, the following is considered normal:[11]
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    • For dogs under 20 pounds: 70-180 bpm.
    • For dogs over 20 pounds: 60-140 bpm.
    • For puppies up to six weeks old: up to 220 bpm.
    • Note that for some dogs, their pulse may quicken when they inhale and slow when they exhale. This is a normal condition called sinus arrhythmia.[12]
  5. Seek veterinary help. If your dog's pulse is above or below the healthy range for it's weight, or is weak or irregular, seek the attention of a veterinarian as soon as possible. This can be a sign of serious health issues.
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    • A fast heart rate might just indicate your dog is anxious. A persistently fast pulse, however, could indicate your dog is suffering from blood loss, dehydration, fever and heatstroke.[13]
    • A slow heart rate could indicate your dog is in shock or is suffering from heart disease.[14]
    • A slow pulse could also be a sign of sinus bradycardia, which is caused by slower-than-normal firing of the sinoatrial node of the nervous system. While this condition is often benign, it can also be related to neurological or respiratory disease, and can also be brought on by hypothermia.[15]
    • Heart issues should be considered a medical emergency. If your regular vet is not available to see your dog right away, search online for an emergency veterinary facility near you. This goes double if your dog is injured or has other obvious symptoms.[16]

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  • Keep in mind that if your dog is dehydrated, depressed, or has low blood pressure, its pulse may be harder to find.[17] If you have concerns about your dog's health and can't locate a pulse, it is best to see a veterinarian as soon as you can.

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  • If your dog's pulse is weak, highly irregular, or not within the ranges described here, this can be a sign of serious health problems. See a vet immediately.[18]

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How to Become a More Thankful Person

Posted: 24 Nov 2016 12:00 AM PST

In the business of day-to-day life, we often forget to stop and be grateful for the present moment. Being grateful is important, however, and has many mental and physical benefits. Research shows people who consistently express gratitude tend to have stronger immune systems, lower blood pressure, higher levels of positive emotions, and feel less lonely overall.[1] If you want to work on being more grateful, try shifting your focus throughout the day. Work on practicing mindfulness, which can help you appreciate the present moment. You should also find a balance, allowing yourself to feel grateful without ignoring problems or negative emotions.

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EditBeing Grateful Throughout the Day

  1. Give thanks each morning. If you want to work on being a more thankful person, work on setting the tone for gratitude when you wake up. Pause before getting out of bed and take a moment to be thankful for the ability to live another day.[2]
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    • Instead of dreading the coming day, view it through a lens of gratitude. If you have to go to work, be grateful you have a job. If you typically dislike waking up in the morning, try to be grateful for your warm bed and good night's rest instead of groaning about getting out of bed.[3]
    • Take stock of all you have to be thankful for before hopping out of bed. Who do you have that cares about you? What do you have to look forward to today, even small joys and pleasures? This will set the tone for gratitude for the remainder of the day.[4]
    • Take a few moments to look at the big picture as well. You may not have the best apartment in the world, but you have a roof over your head. Your job may not be part of your 10 year plan, but you have money coming in and a sense of purpose each day.
  2. Be on the lookout for positives. If you want to be more grateful, you'll have to work on consciously embracing the good in each day. Place more focus on happy moments than setbacks or inconveniences. This can help you become a more thankful person.
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    • Make a mental list of every pleasure you encounter. You'll be surprised how much you've been missing. Did you get to listen to a song you love on your iPod on your morning commute? Did a co-worker compliment your outfit? Did the office smell good that morning because someone was brewing fresh coffee?[5]
    • Later, examine why these things were important to you. If you want, you could write them down on scrap paper shortly after they occur. Title the event something like, "Heard Great Song on my iPod." How did this moment make you feel? How do you feel remembering it? If you experience negative emotions later during the day, try to return to those small positives and remember the feeling.[6]
  3. Express your gratitude. Expressing your appreciation can make yourself and others more aware of it. Try to talk about your sense of gratitude throughout the day.
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    • Expressing gratitude does not have to be a big, sweeping gesture. Send someone a quick text message to thank them for listening to you talk over a problem the other night. Leave a note in your office's kitchen thanking Jenny for always remembering to bring in fresh coffee grounds. Write down positive statements on post-it notes and leave them in public places.[7]
    • Do not censor yourself. Oftentimes, people worry about coming off as too positive or happy-go-lucky. However, you'll feel happier and less stressed if you express gratitude for the little things, even if they feel silly. If you're genuinely grateful that half a cup of coffee was left in the office coffee pot in the morning, say so.[8]
  4. Practice mentally subtracting relationships. A good exercise to help with gratitude is imaging your life without a loved one. While this might sound sad, this activity can actually help foster positive feelings of thankfulness. It forces you to consider the benefits of your relationship with another person.
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    • Take a moment and think of an important relationship in your life. This could be a friend, a significant other, or any other person you value. Get a piece of paper and pen or pencil and write down that person's name.[9]
    • How did you meet this person? Consider circumstances that would have prevented you from meeting this person. For example, maybe you never went to that party in your dorm sophomore year. Maybe you never took that part-time job at the ice cream shop the summer after graduating high school. Write down any events, decisions, or circumstances that could have occurred to prevent you from meeting this person.[10]
    • How would your life have been different had you not met this person? Think about big changes as well as small ones. Think of all the various happy memories and benefits that have come from knowing this person. Imagine how your life might have been different without all these moments.[11]
    • Remind yourself that you did meet this person. Therefore, you did experience all the joys, benefits, and happy moments you've been mentally subtracting. Feel thankful that this person is in your life.[12]
  5. Relish small pleasures. Linger over small pleasures and try to savor the aftertaste. Take five seconds to close your eyes and remember the smell of coffee as you sit down to your desk. Smile as you remember your co-worker's compliment. Don't just observe the good. Work actively to embrace it.[13]
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    • Take mental photographs of things that make you happy. Submit things to memory, like the beautiful view of downtown you see from your office window.[14]
    • Congratulate yourself, even for tiny accomplishments. Appreciate that you got out of bed this morning without hitting snooze or that you arrived to the office 5 minutes early.[15]
    • Try to appreciate beautiful moments completely. Tune out your consciousness when you encounter a moment that's enjoyable. For example, when you drink your morning cup of coffee just focus on the coffee, its taste, its warmth. Try to prevent your mind from wandering to the coming day and all that you have to do. Just remain in the present and relish the moment.[16]
  6. Keep the brevity of life in mind. It sounds strange, but being aware of death can actually help with feeling thankful. The fact that death will happen to everyone is the single biggest reminder that you should be grateful for the moment. When you're feeling frustrated, think of death and take this as a reminder that you should try to appreciate and treasure every moment.[17]
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  7. Be thankful for your body and its movements. Your body is something you may take for granted. Many people focus on their frustrations with their body's limitations. You may, for example, want to lose weight, gain muscle, or improve your proficiency at a physical talk like running. Instead of lamenting your body's limitations, try to embrace its strengths.
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    • Appreciate how your body moves when you exercise. Good health, and the freedom to work out, is something people often take for granted. Even if you can't run a mile as quickly as you want to ideally, be grateful you're able to run. Be thankful that you have the resources and ability to care for your body and mind through regular exercise.[18]
    • Even be thankful for simple movements. Be grateful for each step as you walk to the bus stop. Pay attention to the beating of your heart and rising and falling of your breath. When doing so, be grateful that your body still functions as it should.[19]
  8. Write it down. Journaling your gratitude can help greatly. By writing the information down, it becomes visible to you. You'll be able to review all that you have to be grateful for.
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    • Be as specific as possible when recording your gratitude. Do not say, "I'm thankful for my mom." Instead, consider why you're thankful for your mom. For example, "I'm thankful that my mom called to check in today because she knew I was sick with the flu last weekend."[20]
    • Try to list a few things and go in depth. Instead of challenging yourself to remember 10 moments you're grateful for, list a smaller number but go into detail. Record what happened, how it made you feel, why you appreciated it, and how your day would have been different without this moment or person.[21]
    • Keep up journaling regularly. Aim to make a habit of journaling your gratitude 1 to 3 times a week. If it helps, make a schedule for yourself. For example, you could commit to journaling Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.[22]
    • You can also share this experience with others. Consider asking a friend if she wants to start exchanging texts each night before bed in which the two of you list what you're grateful for that day.[23]

EditPracticing Mindfulness

  1. Be aware of your surroundings. Practicing mindfulness can be a great way to be a more thankful person. It forces you to be aware of the present moment, allowing you to be more grateful of yourself and your surroundings. The first step to practicing mindfulness is making a conscious effort to be more aware throughout the day.
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    • Notice each moment. Pay attention to the sights, sounds, smells, noises, and other aspects of each moment of the day. Try to tune in to day-to-day moments that often seem to go by without notice, such as waiting for a bus or downtime in the office.[24]
    • Recognize your thoughts and emotions. Allow them to pass through without the need to define and analyze them. Simply allow yourself to feel what you are feeling without judgement or criticism.[25]
    • Pay attention to the physical sensations of your body. How does the shirt you're wearing feel against your skin? How does your body feel sitting in a desk at school or a chair in your office? How do your fingers feel as you type something on a keyboard?[26]
  2. Walk mindfully. Walking is an activity people often take for granted. If you want to be more thankful throughout the day, try focusing on walking and the motion of your body. Try to truly embrace the experience of walking.
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    • Pay attention to how your body in movement. How do your feet feel as they touch the ground? How do your socks or shoes feel against your feet? Is there any wind against your face? How does your skin feel? How does your breathing change when you walk? Your heartbeat?[27]
    • Pay attention to what's going on around you at the moment. What's the weather like as you walk to the bus stop? What does it smell like outside? Inside? What colors and shapes do you see? Do you see other people? What are they wearing, doing, saying?[28]
    • Look for the positives as you walk. Make a mental note of every small beauty or pleasure you encounter, like a nice smell or scene. Do not just let these things slip past. Pause each time you encounter something enjoyable and allow yourself to fully experience the moment of pleasure. Try to ignore other thoughts or worries and just allow yourself to experience the moment fully.[29]
  3. Eat mindfully. Food is one of the biggest things people take for granted. If you have a busy schedule especially, eating becomes a quick act of necessity. Eating mindfully means creating more of a ritual around eating and striving to appreciate your food.
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    • When you eat a meal fast, or while doing other things, you're less likely to feel nourished. When you eat, just eat. Do not try to eat while working, watching television, reading, or engaging in any other activities. Eat at a table instead of at your office desk or in front of the television set.[30]
    • When you eat, pay attention to eating. Pay attention to the flavor and texture of food. Listen to the sound of crunching and chewing. If your mind wanders to something else while you're eating, try to return your focus to your food.[31]
    • Don't just pay attention to the sensations of your food. Pay attention to your body's sensations. When you feel hungry, where do hunger pains occur? How do you know when you're feeling full? What does it feel like to be half full? Three quarters full? Try to listen to your body and pay attention to its needs.[32]
  4. Focus on the breath. Mindfulness is also about paying attention to your breath. Breathing is a vital bodily function that we often do not notice throughout the day. Start making a conscious effort to focus on your own breathing.
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    • Breathing is a natural process that follows a certain rhythm. Therefore, when our minds wander and stressful thoughts occur, focusing on the breath can help us stay calm. It can also allow us to return to the present moment and appreciate it.[33]
    • If you find yourself plagued with negative thoughts pause for a moment and appreciate the fact you're breathing. Pay attention to how your breath rises and falls. See how deeply you are breathing. Close your eyes for a few minutes and just treasure your breath and the moment.
  5. Practice loving kindness meditation. Loving-kindness meditation is a form of meditation in which expressing gratitude and good will towards yourself and others is key. It's a great way of practicing mindfulness as well as being a more thankful person.
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    • Find a comfortable place to sit. Close your eyes and imagine what you wish for your life. Think of three or four phrases that sum up your core desires. For example, you might come up with something like, "May I be happy in my pursuits. May I have good health. May I be calm and patient throughout the day."[34]
    • Say this prayer for yourself. Then, direct it outwards. Direct it towards someone you are thankful for in your life. For example, "May my mother be happy in her pursuits. May my mother have good health..."[35]
    • From there, direct it towards someone you feel neutral about, like a co-worker you do not know particularly well. Repeat the mantra using their name.[36]
    • Then, direct the mantra to someone you have animosity towards, like a family member who has hurt you or a co-worker who belittles you. This can help you let go of some of your anger and resentment. You may also feel empowered by sending good thoughts to someone even if that person treats you poorly.[37]
    • Lastly, direct the mantra towards a more universal goal. For example, "May all living things be happy in their pursuits. May all living things have good health. May all living things be calm and patient throughout the day."[38]

EditFinding the Balance

  1. Be willing to address problems. While gratitude is important for a happy life, some people use it as an excuse to ignore large problems. Finding the balance with thankfulness means being able to acknowledge problems while still being grateful for what you have.
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    • Thankfulness can allow you to disengage with small annoyances. However, not all problems are minor. If you're facing serious obstacles, it's good to focus your energy on the positives you have in life. This can provide temporary relief. Just keep in mind this relief is only temporary and you still have to take active steps to address your problems.[39]
    • It may sound strange, but be thankful for negative emotions. Things like stress, anger, and sadness do serve a purpose. If you're angry about the way your brother acts when he's drinking, this might motivate you to talk to him about his relationship with alcohol. If you're stressed about the payments you owe on your credit card, this might encourage you to try to stick to a monthly budget. Negative emotions can be productive as they often serve as a warning. Try to be grateful for things like stress, anger, and sadness and react to these emotions in productive ways.[40]
  2. Do not confuse gratitude with indebtedness. You can be grateful for someone in your life without feeling you owe that person anything. Gratitude also does not equate to indebtedness. People sometimes confuse the two in a way that causes personal problems.
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    #*If someone helped you in the past, it's okay to be grateful to that person. However, just because your brother helped you out of a financial crunch two years ago does not give him license to insult you at this year's Thanksgiving. It's important to be grateful, but don't view gratitude as a debt that needs to be paid off.[41]#*You can be grateful for bad situations. In fact, it can be healthy to look for silver linings in bad moments. For example, you can be thankful your partner cheated on you as if gave you the opportunity to realize you deserve better. However, do not take that realization as a sign you owe your partner something. Allow yourself to learn the lesson and then move forward.
  1. Express gratitude in moderation. While it's great to take stock of what you have to thankful for, there's such a thing as overdoing it. Try to express gratitude, but do so in moderation to avoid burning out.
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    • One study on gratitude journaling compared the happiness levels of participants who journaled about gratitude once per week to those who journaled three times per week. The group that journaled less reported a higher overall level of happiness after six weeks.[42]
    • This may be because if you spend too much time looking for things to be grateful for, you may run out of ideas. This could lead to you questioning whether your life is as good as you thought it was. Therefore, it might be best to write down one thing per day you're thankful for or make a big list at the end of the week. This will prevent fatigue.[43]
  2. Acknowledge your own successes. If you have a big success, it's great to thank those who helped you along the way. No one is successful solely because of their own tenacity and drive. However, don't overdo it. You should be thankful for your own drive and ambition and willing to acknowledge and appreciate how you played a role in your own success story.[44]
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