How to End a Family Fight Posted: 23 May 2021 05:00 PM PDT Seeing people in your family fight can be really tough. Whether you're involved or not, you might be feeling sad, angry, or even ashamed when your loved ones yell and scream at each other. There are a few techniques you can use to have a calm, civilized discussion with your family about your issues. If you need extra help, consider calling in a mental health professional for guidance. [Edit]Keep your cool. - It's easy to get fired up when your family is fighting. If you feel like you might yell or explode instead of talking calmly, take a walk around the block to calm down first. No matter who you're talking to, doing it in a calm manner will go much better than yelling or screaming.[1]
- You can also try breathing deeply or counting to 10 anytime you feel yourself getting stressed.
- Getting physical is never a good idea either. Try punching your pillow or hitting a baseball a few times to work out some of your aggression before you talk with your family members.
[Edit]Call a family meeting. - It will be much easier to talk to everyone at the same time. See if there's a good time and day that works for everyone in your family to get together. Then, you can all meet up and talk about your issues.[2]
- If you're younger, try asking your parents to call a family meeting and invite all your siblings.
- If the problem is with your extended family, consider asking them to talk over video chat or on the phone.
[Edit]Listen to everyone. - Give everyone in the family a chance to speak. That way, everyone feels like they get a say in what's going on. Don't interrupt, even if it seems like someone is lying or being dramatic—when it's your turn to talk, you can bring up the stuff that's bothering you.[3]
- Letting everyone talk can be tough, especially if they're saying things that make you mad. However, if you let everyone else talk, they'll hear what you have to say, too.
[Edit]Maintain neutral body language. - Rolling your eyes and sighing says a lot about what you think. As you listen to other people talk, try to keep your face neutral and don't let your emotions show. When you talk, keep your tone of voice light and try not to yell or lash out in anger.[4]
- Have you ever seen someone roll their eyes while you were talking before? It can make you even more angry than you already were! Keep the peace by checking your body language throughout the conversation.
[Edit]Communicate your needs. - Name what you're feeling and how you'd like to fix it. Express what's going on with you so your family knows how to move forward. If anyone tries to interrupt, calmly remind them that you let them talk, so they need to do the same for you.[5]
- For example, you could say something like, "When you yell at me about not doing my chores but don't yell at my sister, it makes me feel hurt. I feel like we aren't getting the same treatment around the house, which is unfair."
[Edit]Use "I" language. - Center the problems around how you're feeling. Instead of blaming your family members or calling them out, try to use "I" statements as much as possible. This can help people feel less defensive and more able to work through issues with you.[6]
- For example, instead of saying, "You yell at me too much," you could say, "When you yell at me, I feel afraid."
- Or, instead of saying, "You never listen to me," you could say, "When you talk over me, it makes me feel like I don't have a say in what the family does."
[Edit]Try not to take sides. - If you're not directly involved in the fight, keep your position neutral. Picking sides between parents, siblings, or extended family members will only make the problem worse. Listen to what everyone has to say, and try to offer unbiased advice.[7]
- It can be tough not to take sides, especially if you actually think one person is in the right. If you're an adult in the household, consider calling in an outside mediator, like a mental health professional.
[Edit]Come up with a resolution. - It's time to express what you need in the future. Try to come up with something that everyone in the family is okay with. If you can't come up with a perfect solution, pick something that everyone can compromise on, even if it's a little bit inconvenient.[8]
- For example, if you and your siblings fight over the bathroom in the morning, consider setting a bathroom schedule with allotted time limits.
- If you're not directly involved in the fight, you might not be able to come up with a resolution, and that's okay. Encourage your other family members to come up with something that everyone can be happy with.
[Edit]Leave the area if things get heated. - Family fights can turn ugly pretty quickly. If anyone starts to yell, scream, or get physical with each other, take that as your cue to get out of there. Let everyone know that you can reconvene when they all agree to be civil and polite with each other.[9]
- If you're a kid and you feel like you're in danger, talk to a trusted adult, like a teacher or a guidance counselor. They can help you figure out what to do next.
[Edit]Talk with a mental health professional if you need to. - Sometimes, you and your family can't come up with a resolution. If you're an adult in the household, consider talking to a family therapist. They can help you work through your issues in a calm, civilized manner to reach a solution that works for everyone.[10]
- You can also talk to a therapist one on one to come up with ways to work through family issues. This is a great option if your family is opposed to therapy or you don't live in the same area as them.
- If you're a kid, don't feel like you have to end every family fight. The bulk of the responsibility should be on the adults in your life, not you.
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How to Fold an Origami Peacock Posted: 23 May 2021 09:00 AM PDT The peacock is a beautiful, feathery bird that looks elegant and regal—and its origami counterpart is much the same. Folding an origami peacock might take a bit of practice, but it's a great project if you're just starting out or if you've got some practice under your belt. If you want to add a delicate origami peacock to your collection, grab your origami paper and get started! [Edit]Start with a rectangular sheet of paper. - Most origami paper is square, but you'll need a rectangle. You can either cut a sheet of square paper in half, or you can purchase rectangular origami paper. The dimensions don't matter too much—just note that the smaller your sheet of paper is, the smaller your peacock will be in the end.[1]
- Pick any color paper that you'd like! Blue is a popular choice for peacocks, but you could go for red, pink, green, yellow, or any color of the rainbow.
[Edit]Fold the paper in half lengthwise. - The goal is just to make a crease in the center. Set your paper out on a flat surface, then fold it in half. Use your fingers to press down on the crease, then unfold the paper again before moving on.[2]
[Edit]Fold the left and right edges inwards twice. - It will kind of look like a paper airplane. Fold the left corner in toward the center, then fold the right corner in to match. Press the creases down with your fingers, then fold both corners in again.[3]
- You'll end up with a triangle-shaped paper that has a sharp point on one end.
[Edit]Fold the paper in half widthwise. - Flip the paper over so the folded parts touch the table. Then, bring the flat end of the triangle upward to meet the pointed end. Press down on the crease to make the fold stick.[4]
- It might help to push down on the crease with your fingernail.
[Edit]Fold the flat half of the paper backwards, then crease it. - You're creating the first fan fold in your peacock's tail. Grab the flat part of the triangle and fold it back, but leave about of paper on top of the pointed part. Press the crease down to really cement it into the paper and start the tail.[5]
[Edit]Fold the back half of the triangle in a fan shape. - Time for more fan folds! Alternate between folding forward and backward, making horizontal folds up the tail. When you reach the top, press all your folds down one more time to really cement them into the paper before letting go.[6]
[Edit]Crease the tip of the triangle downward. - It's time to create the peacock's beak. Grab the very tip of the pointed part and fold it down just slightly, enough to make a small beak at the head of your animal. Press the crease down to keep it in place and make a bird-like mouth.[7]
- It won't look quite right at this step, so don't worry—you still have more to do!
[Edit]Flip the paper over and fold the tip backwards. - Mark the head and neck of the peacock with this fold. Flip your paper so that the beak is facing you. Fold the pointed part of the triangle down about halfway so the head just touches the base of the tail. Press the crease down to differentiate between the body and the neck.[8]
- This fold will also help your peacock stand up on its own.
[Edit]Fold the entire paper in half lengthwise. - Really make those feathers fan out. Pick up your piece of paper and press down in the center of the tail with your thumb. Fold the entire peacock (body, tail, and head) in half around your finger, then press the fold together.[9]
- When the peacock springs back, you'll be able to see the animal more clearly.
[Edit]Spread the feathers out in the back of the peacock. - Now you're done! Spend a few minutes making sure the tail in the back stands up straight and tall. Set your peacock down on the table and watch it stand up on its own to admire your creation.[10]
- If your peacock isn't standing up, try folding the paper in half again to really crease that last fold.
- Every time you make a fold, press down really hard to indent the crease in the paper.
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How to Treat Razor Burn Posted: 23 May 2021 01:00 AM PDT Razor burn appears as a red, itchy rash. Sometimes, it can cause a burning or stinging sensation. While it's often caused by the way you shave or the razor you use, some folks are simply more prone to razor burn than others. The good news is that razor burn typically heals on its own after a few days of taking it easy, and there are plenty of options when it comes to soothing your pain while you wait! [Edit]Wait it out - Most of the time, the best treatment is just waiting it out. Razor burn usually heals on its own in a few days. While there's nothing wrong with taking steps to soothe your skin if it's causing you pain, there aren't any super effective ways to make it heal faster. On top of that, putting things on your skin when it's already damaged could slow down the healing process. If you're in pain, feel free to treat your symptoms, but don't poke at your skin or put things on it if you don't need to.[1]
- If you have razor burn somewhere other than your face, wear loose-fitting clothing to avoid irritating your skin for a few days.
- This may seem obvious, but don't shave your razor-burned skin while it's healing. That means you may need to let that five-o'clock-shadow grow out a bit.
[Edit]Hydrocortisone cream - Rub a small dollop of hydrocortisone cream into your skin. Any over-the-counter hydrocortisone cream or ointment should help reduce any symptoms you're experiencing. Whenever you feel any pain or irritation, squirt a coin-sized dollop of cream on to your skin and work it in gently with your fingertips.[2] Hydrocortisone is a steroid that will minimize any pain or itching you're experiencing. It will also soothe any inflammation if your skin has had an especially dramatic response to the razor.[3]
- Don't use topical treatments or moisturizers on open wounds. You can use them in small amounts on your face, but avoid putting them close to your eyes, nose, or mouth. Do not put anything on your genitals, either.
[Edit]Moisturizer - Using an alcohol-free moisturizer will help if your skin dries out. Razor-burned skin tends to hurt when it gets dry. If you notice that your skin is especially dry whenever it hurts, grab any unscented skin moisturizer and work a small dollop into your skin. This will keep your skin soft and comfortable while it heals from the razor burn.[4]
[Edit]Oatmeal bath - An oatmeal bath is a great way to soothe skin while relaxing! Oats naturally moisturize skin, and an oatmeal bath is a great way to reduce any symptoms you're experiencing as a result of the razor burn. Oats contain glucans, which are naturally soothing and relaxing for your skin. This is a great way to get some self-care in while treating your irritated skin![5]
[Edit]Exfoliate - Chemical exfoliation will remove dead skin that may be irritating you. Grab the gentlest chemical exfoliant you have.[6] Follow the instructions on the product to apply the cream, scrub, or mask to your affected skin. Leave it on for the period of time listed on the instructions, and then wash it off. This will get rid of any dead skin cells, which may be irritating your razor burn and making it itch or hurt.[7]
- Chemical exfoliants will help so long as they include one of the following ingredients: lactic acid, salicylic acid, retinol, and vitamin A.[8]
- Shaving is actually a form of physical exfoliation since it involves rubbing something against your skin. In this sense, if your skin is irritated because you shaved, adding more physical exfoliation is probably not going to help anything. Chemical exfoliation should be fine, though.[9]
[Edit]Glycolic acid - Any product with glycolic acid in it will help your skin. Glycolic acid is found in a variety of creams, lotions, toners, and moisturizers. Using these products before or after shaving will dramatically minimize any razor-related issues you run into. Glycolic acid is scientifically proven to prevent razor bumps, minimize irritation, and soothe your skin, so it's a safe bet that it'll help your razor burn.[10]
[Edit]Witch hazel - Use an astringent with witch hazel in it to relax your skin naturally. Witch hazel is a plant extract with soothing properties, and it's a good option if you want an organic treatment solution for your irritated skin. Swing by your local pharmacy and look for an astringent with no alcohol in it. Whenever your skin starts to bother you, work a small dollop of the astringent into your skin with a cotton ball.[11]
- Alcohol is an especially bad option for razor burn because it'll dry your skin out. The dryer your razor-burned skin is, the more it will itch and burn.
[Edit]Heat and clean skin - Apply some heat and wash the skin to prevent razor burn. You're less likely to get razor burn if you shave when your skin is clean and warm. Try shaving after you've taken a warm shower or cleaned your skin with a warm washcloth. This will make it a lot easier for the razor blade to glide through your hair without irritating your skin.[12]
- Don't skip shaving cream or gel, either. If you don't use them, you're much more likely to irritate your skin.[13]
[Edit]Replacement razor - If you're running into razor burn repeatedly, get a new razor. Razor burn is typically caused by the razor tugging or damaging your hair while it cuts through it. When this happens over and over again, it's usually a sign that your razor needs to be replaced, since a dull razor will be much likely to struggle to slice through your hair.[14]
- Replace your razor blade after 5-7 shaves to ensure that you aren't using a dull razor.[15]
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