| How to Avoid Texting Your Ex Posted: 15 Jan 2018 04:00 PM PST Are you worried about caving in and texting to your ex? You may not have superhuman willpower, but there are some steps you can take to make sure that doesn't happen. Minimize your chances of pressing "send" by asking someone else to talk you out of it. Getting some distance from your ex--literally and figuratively--and keeping yourself busy can also help you avoid texting them. EditChanging Your Phone Habits Post-Breakup - Delete your ex's number. Erase your ex's number from your phone completely and you'll be less likely to send a text. If you try, you'll scan your contacts, not see their name, and instantly be reminded that texting them is a no-no.[1]
- You can also try putting the person's number on your phone's block list, especially if there's a chance they may reach out to you.
- Call or text someone else. When the urge strikes to text your ex, reach out to a friend or family member instead. Let this person know what's going on and have them distract you from the impulse.[2]
- Say something like, "Today would be our anniversary, so I'm tempted to text. Convince me to change my mind, please!"
- Let your friends know that you may need their help with this while you recover from the breakup. For example, you can say, "I often want to text my ex. Can you help me when I'm feeling tempted?"
- You and your friends might even devise a code word that you can text them when you're upset. For example, you might text them "ex alert" or a certain emoji.
- Give your phone to someone else. If you're feeling particularly weak at any given time, surrender your phone completely. Hand it over to a friend or family member until the urge fades.[3]
- Install a breakup app. Thanks to technology, you can call in reinforcements to help you stop texting your ex. Scroll through your smart phone's app store to check out the available breakup apps. Download the app and use it until the urge to text your ex fades.[4]
- Certain apps, like Ex Lover Blocker, are designed to limit your ability to reach out to your ex by calling your friends whenever you try to make contact.
- Power off your phone in the evenings. You might find that you are able to keep thoughts of your ex at bay during the days when you're otherwise busy. However, you might be tempted to reach out at night when you're bored or lonely. If this is the case, shut off your phone for a few hours each night and spend time doing nourishing self-care activities instead.[5]
- Watch your favorite movie, study, read a book, or paint your nails to occupy yourself each evening instead of using your phone.
- Let friends and family know of others ways they can reach you if they need to, such as through email or instant messaging on your computer.
EditLimiting Thoughts of Your Ex - Unfollow your ex on social media. Get distance from your ex by unfriending or unfollowing them on all your social media accounts. Doing this will help you think about them less because you won't have to see updates about their life on your news feed.[6]
- In some cases, like on Facebook, you don't have to delete them as a friend entirely, but "unfollow" their feed instead.
- Avoid triggers. Gather all the movies, clothes, photos, and other mementos of your relationship. Trash or pack them away until you're emotionally ready to deal with them. Also, steer clear of songs, TV shows or other situations that might make you feel nostalgic.[7]
- Avoid taking any walks down memory lane for the time being. Doing so may only bring up old feelings that leave you itching to contact your ex.
- Put money in a jar when the desire strikes. There's no better way to break a bad habit than having to pay out of pocket whenever it happens. Each time you think about texting your ex, put a set sum of money in a jar. Donate the money to a friend or a good cause.[8]
- Over time, you'll notice yourself wanting to text them less and less because you naturally don't want to lose money.
- Stay away from your ex's hangouts. If you're still running into your ex every now and then, you might give in to the temptation to text them. Don't frequent any of their usual stomping grounds until you've fully moved on.[9]
- Try to avoid seeing your ex as much as possible.
- If you can't help seeing them, keep the encounter short and sweet--never stop moving. For instance, say "Hi" while continuing to walk in the opposite direction.
- Skip the alcohol. Drinking alcohol loosens your inhibitions, so try to avoid alcoholic beverages for a while. If you go to a bar or restaurant, stick to seltzer water or soda.[10]
- That way, you won't have to worry about giving into temptation and possibly texting or even hooking up with your ex in a drunken haze.
- There's also an app that can help you cut down on drunk-texting called Drunk Mode. You input contacts that are blocked for a specific amount of time. To disable the app prematurely, you'll have to successfully answer a series of math equations.[11]
- Remind yourself why it's over. Make a list of why things ended with your ex. Each time you feel tempted to text them, pull out the list. Reading it should remind you why texting them isn't such a good idea.[12]
- For instance, maybe this person cheated on you. When you feel weak, remember that betrayal so you don't contact them.
EditMoving on after Heartbreak - Hang out with friends more often. The more time you spend alone, the more likely you are to want to reach out to your ex. So, occupy your time with your closest pals who are guaranteed to take your mind off your ex.[13]
- Go out to lunch or dinner with your buddies. Or, plan a low-key movie night with a few friends at home.
- If you need some alone time to process the breakup, that's okay. Take the time you need. At the same time, don't isolate yourself completely. You can achieve a balance that works for you.
- Pursue a hobby. Sharpen your current talents or get started with a new passion to keep yourself distracted. Try playing a sport or a musical instrument. Or, express yourself creatively by writing, painting, sculpting, or crafting.[14]
- Join a club. Meet new people and take on new responsibilities by participating in a club or organization relating to your school, work, or hobbies. Filling your calendar with constructive activities will make you forget about texting your ex for a while.[15]
- Can't locate an interesting club? Find Meetups in your area for people with similar interests.
- Learn a new skill. Try your hand at something totally new. This will not only help you forget about reaching out to your ex, but it also helps you build new memories that don't include this person. Think about a skill you've always wanted to learn and get started.[16]
- Take a class in a foreign language, cooking, or wood crafting.
- Learn your new skill by participating in a group course, getting one-on-one mentoring, reading books, or watching YouTube tutorials.
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| How to Choose a Yoga Class Posted: 15 Jan 2018 08:00 AM PST Yoga is an exciting, challenging, and beautiful form of exercise and meditation. Whether you are new or experienced, when looking for a new studio and class, it is important to find one that both fits your experience level and helps you achieve your physical or spiritual goals. Read on for some tips on finding a yoga class that will fit best with your skill level, personality, and fitness goals. [1] EditExploring Different Types of Yoga - Try out Iyengar yoga for an introduction to yoga. This type of yoga focuses on precise alignment in postures, and as such is suitable for beginners who are learning the basics of yoga positions. For a more challenging alternative, Anusara yoga is also focused on alignment, but uses props to help find proper alignment in poses.
- Burn calories with Vinyasa yoga. There is a reason this is one of the most popular forms of yoga in the US. Especially if you enjoy running and other high-intensity exercise activities, you will enjoy its fast-paced and rhythmic atmosphere. Classes can vary from instructor to region, and often incorporate music and chanting, so it's a creative, interesting way to enjoy yoga-- and get a workout.[2]
- Try Bikram yoga if you have mastered the basics. This is an extremely popular form of hot yoga. Bikram yoga classes are based on a set, 26 pose routine, and are taught in temperatures of [3]. This is a good option for you have tried more conventional forms of yoga and are looking to take on the next challenge. The combination of heat and routine difficulty can be very strenuous, so make sure to hydrate.
- Deepen your spirituality with Kundalini yoga. If you are looking to explore the spiritual side of the ancient art of yoga, Kundalini yoga is focused on meditation and spiritual energy, and emphasizes breathing and chanting over exercising.
- Test your limits with Ashtanga yoga. This is one of the most vigorous of yoga classes. It builds stamina, strength and flexibility. [4] Ashtanga yoga classes run through a predetermined series of poses so if you like both challenge and routine, Ashtanga might be the style for you.
EditFinding a Studio - Research yoga studios. Use online communities, internet searches, or apps like Lymber [5] to find yoga studios near your home or work that teach a style of yoga you are interested in. Finding a studio that is easy to access, affordable, and welcoming will help ease your transition into your new yoga class.
- Though most studios will offer basic beginner's courses, you may find that some studios will focus on meditation and philosophy, while others will focus on physical benefits of yoga, like calorie-burning and muscle toning. [6] Keep your goals in mind as you search.
- Walk around the studio. Ideally, it should be large, airy, clean, and quiet, in order to minimize distractions and increase your focus. You should feel welcomed, comfortable and at ease in the studio space.
- Inquire about trial classes. Many studios offer trial classes or periods in which you can join a class at little or no cost, so take advantage of these offers to try out the studio in a class setting, as well as to observe and speak with instructors. If you feel pressured or rushed at any time, or if the room is crowded or unsanitary, then it might be time to move on with your search. [7]
- Speak with instructors. A good studio will take care to employ qualified and passionate yoga instructors. Ask questions about the studio instructors' qualifications. How long have they been practicing? Where were they certified? How long were there certification programs?
- If professional certification is especially important to you, particularly if you are searching to take your practice and knowledge to the next level, you may search for studios that employ instructors that are Registered Yoga Teachers (RYTs). [8]
EditChoosing a Class - Choose a class that matches your skill level. If you are a beginner, many studios have promotions for beginner workshops or classes. These provide helpful introductions to yoga poses, vocabulary, and background.
- It is especially important for beginners to be in a small class where the instructor can see you and make sure you are practicing safely.
- Studios label their class levels in different ways. A beginner's class in one studio may be a Level 1 class at another. Make sure you read level and class descriptions carefully and follow the advice given before attending a class.
- Be open to diverse yoga experiences. If you are more advanced, don't be afraid to try a type of yoga you haven't before. Experiment with a meditative or heat form of yoga, or go back to the basics with a beginner's class to brush up on your form, deep breathing, and posture.
- Try out different instructors. Some people prefer a teacher who helps them move into poses with hands-on adjustments. Other people enjoy taking classes with a teacher who observes and only gives verbal instructions. Everyone has different tastes, but to maximize your learning experience, your instructor should be approachable, inspiring, and radiate positive energy. [9]
- Always inform your yoga teacher about any injuries or physical problems you are experiencing. An experienced teacher will be able to modify poses so that they are safe and appropriate for your body.
- If you are a beginner in a course not targeted for beginners, inform the instructor or assistant beforehand so they can keep an eye out for potential mistakes and prevent possible injuries.
- Stay hydrated! Yoga can be a very intensive form of exercise, so it is important you keep your body in good condition.
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| How to Appreciate Martin Luther King, Jr. Posted: 15 Jan 2018 12:00 AM PST Martin Luther King, Jr. (January 15, 1929 – April 4, 1968) is one of America's most influential civil rights leaders who dedicated his life to helping others and fighting for racial equality. On Martin Luther King Day (the third Monday of each January), it is appropriate to take some time to reflect on the many important contributions he made to society that continue to benefit citizens of the United States to this day, and that also influence many people around the world. Note: Martin Luther King, Jr. Day is a national holiday created in 1983 to honor Dr. King and his many accomplishments. In 1994, King Day of Service was initiated to transform the federal holiday honoring Dr. King into a national day of community service grounded in his teachings of nonviolence and social justice.[1] - Learn about Martin Luther King's life. Begin with Wikipedia's entry on Martin Luther King at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Luther_King,_Jr. However, don't limit yourself to that small entry. Borrow some biographies from the library or purchase some. In addition, watch documentaries online or borrow DVDs.
- Watch King or other documentary about the civil rights leader. King is available on DVD from the History Channel. It originally aired 01/18/2009, which was two days after what would have been Dr. King's eightieth birthday.
- Cable channels will carry a lot of content on King at the time of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
- Study the history of what life for African-Americans was like before Martin Luther King and the Civil Rights Movement. Segregation was intensely demoralizing and the lower wages for African-Americans made life increasingly more difficult and restrictive, including: access to housing, clothing, shopping and education.
- Read the Jim Crow Laws and commentary related to them.[2]
- See narratives of what it was like.
- Read about the history of segregation in your local library.
- Revisit the momentous events of 1955. This was the year of the Montgomery Bus Boycott.[3] In a nutshell, the boycott began when a woman named Rosa Parks was arrested for refusing to give up her seat on the bus to a White male passenger. Martin Luther King was elected to lead the boycott primarily because he was new in town and had not been corrupted. This was his first work as a civil rights activist, and he was incredibly successful.
- The bus in which Rosa Parks was sitting when she was arrested is on display at the Henry Ford Museum in Dearborn, Michigan. Plan a visit to see the museum display.
- Immerse yourself in the power and persuasiveness of King's writing and oration. An incredible orator, King has written some of the finest words in history, which continue to be quoted to this day.
 - Read a Letter from a Birmingham Jail,[4] an open letter of approximately 7,000 words from Martin Luther King to his fellow clergymen of Alabama who criticized his participation in the civil rights movement in 1963. The letter contains many of King's most quotable quotes such as: "Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere".
- Listen to his most famous speech, "I Have A Dream", at http://www.americanrhetoric.com/speeches/mlkihaveadream.htm (less than 1,700 words). This speech is regarded as one of America's finest examples of oration, delivered on the occasion of the 1964 March on Washington on August 24. Try to memorize it if you can; its power is something you can draw on in times of need.
- Read King's acceptance speech on the occasion of the award of the Nobel Peace Prize in Oslo, December 10, 1964. It is at: http://nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/peace/laureates/1964/king-acceptance.html. Martin Luther King, Jr. is the youngest man ever to be awarded the Nobel peace prize, at the age of 35.
- See also the "List of Works" below under "Tips" for more reading suggestions.
- Continue following the history trail of King's contributions. Read about the March on Washington,[5] the largest protest demonstration in U.S. history. Trace its political effects, such as the Civil Rights Act of 1964,[6] and the Voting Rights Act of 1965, legislation which successfully ended segregation in America.
- Read the citations which accompanied the Medal of Freedom,[7] the government's highest civilian award, bestowed posthumously by President Carter on July 7, 1977. Also read the citations accompanying the Congressional Gold Medal,[8] bestowed in 2003 to both King and his wife for "their countless contributions to the nation as leaders of the civil rights movement."
- Visit key places in King's history. When you get the opportunity, plan a trip to the various places of significance, including:
 - Georgia: The Martin Luther King, Jr., National Historic Site in Atlanta, Georgia.[9] The historic site is part of the National Park Service and was established in 1980 to commemorate the life and work of Martin Luther King. Places to visit here include: the Visitor Center, Ebenezer Baptist Church, The King Center (Freedom Hall), Fire Station No. 6, Dr. King's Birth Home and the restored Birth Home Block.
- Dallas, TX: The Juanita Craft House where King went to discuss the civil rights movement.
- Alabama: Sixteenth Street Baptist Church, Montgomery (King spoke at the funeral of girls killed by the Ku Klux Clan), the Dexter Avenue Baptist Church and Parsonage where King lived for six years and Selma, the beginning of the Selma to Montgomery march in 1965.
- Washington, DC: The Lincoln Memorial, the site of the famous "I Have A Dream" speech. If you live in Washington DC, or can travel there for King's birthday, there are many events held at this time, including Martin Luther King, Jr Day of Service, Smithsonian festival, plays or musicals, etc., and laying of a wreath at the Lincoln Memorial.
- Memphis, TN: The Mason Temple Church of God in Christ, the location of King's "Mountaintop" speech, April 3, 1968 and The Lorraine Hotel in Memphis, where King was assassinated on April 4, 1968. The hotel now no longer exists and is is now the site of an extensive National Civil Rights Museum.
- Celebrate Martin Luther King, Jr. Day with your community. There are lots of ways to celebrate the day but it's great to get together with others to celebrate. Here are some suggestions:
- March on the night of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day holding candles. Join a march organized in your city, town or area.
- Attend a local church service or memorial held in honor of King.
- Go and see locally organized displays, film festivals, plays and other performance events being put on in honor of this day.
- March in a peace parade.
- Turn car headlights on at noon.
- Have children write, draw, photograph, scrapbook, digitalize, etc. what the day means to them. Display their results online (share with others through social media) or somewhere else public such as at school, in your yard or windows, etc.
- Works by Martin Luther King, Jr.:
- Stride toward freedom; the Montgomery story (1958)
- The Measure of a Man (1959)
- Strength to Love (1963)
- Why We Can't Wait (1964)
- Where do we go from here: Chaos or community? (1967)
- The Trumpet of Conscience (1968)
- A Testament of Hope : The Essential Writings and Speeches of Martin Luther King, Jr. (1986)
- The Autobiography of Martin Luther King, Jr. (1998) edited by Clayborne Carson.
- Consider how MLK's actions and beliefs affect US citizens today; for example, when African-American servicemen returned from fighting in World War II to homes full of persecution, they could have taken up arms, and the United States could potentially have had a second Civil War. If it hadn't been for Martin Luther King and his embrace of nonviolence, the Civil Rights would very likely have been led by Malcolm X of the Nation of Islam; who initially wanted a violent approach to overcoming racial injustice. Many people would have died and perhaps the United States would be a very different country today.[10]
- Martin Luther King, Jr. was unfaithful to his wife. Some find this particularly bad behavior for a clergyman.
- Martin Luther King, Jr. did not support the war in Vietnam at a time when it still had considerable political support; see Beyond Vietnam - A Time To Break Silence.[11] This was a speech delivered by Martin Luther King, Jr. April 4, 1967, at a meeting of Clergy and Laity Concerned at Riverside Church in New York City.
- Martin Luther King, Jr. was critical of both the Democratic and Republican parties in the United States, but was undecided between Adlai Stevenson or Dwight D. Eisenhower in 1956, and wrote in a letter: "In the past I always voted the Democratic ticket". He was also a supporter in the ideals of democratic socialism, and voted for John F. Kennedy in the 1960 U.S. presidential election.
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