| How to Make Banana Pancakes Posted: 22 Jan 2021 04:00 PM PST Have you ever woken up on a lazy Sunday morning craving something sweet and delicious? With banana pancakes, there's no need to wait until dessert to enjoy this treat of a meal. You can pick out your recipe based on how much time you have and what ingredients you like the best (or what you can find in your kitchen cabinets). Your friends and family will be licking their plates clean when you serve up these delicious pancakes for breakfast or brunch. [Edit]Ingredients [Edit]3-Ingredient Banana Pancakes (Flourless) - 1 large banana
- 2 large eggs
- 1/8 tsp (0.625 g) of baking powder
- a pinch of ground cinnamon
[Edit]5-Ingredient Banana Pancakes - 2 bananas
- 2 large eggs
- of vanilla extract
- 1/2 cup (64 g) of quick-cook oats
- 1 tsp (2.4 g) of cinnamon
[Edit]Vegan Banana Pancakes - 1.5 cups (354 g) of oats or oat flour
- 1/2 tsp (4.2 g) of baking soda
- 1/8 tsp (0.625 g) of salt
- 1/4 cup (32 g) of chopped walnuts
- 1 banana
- of vanilla extract
- of maple syrup
- of plant-based milk
[Edit]Paleo Pancakes - 1 ripe banana
- 1 large egg
- 2.5 tsp (12.5 g) of coconut flour
- a pinch of baking powder
- a pinch of cinnamon
[Edit]Healthy Whole Wheat Banana Pancakes - 1 cup (201 g) of whole wheat flour
- 1 tbsp (14 g) of baking powder
- 1/2 tsp (2 g) of cinnamon
- 1/4 tsp (1.4 g) of salt
- of oat milk
- 1 mashed banana
- 1 large egg
- of maple syrup
- of vanilla extract
[Edit]3-Ingredient Banana Pancakes (Flourless) - Mash 1 large ripe banana in a bowl. You're going to need a pretty ripe banana for this recipe, so grab one that's right on the edge of overripe. Peel it and stuff it into a large bowl, then use a fork to mash it until the banana is in large chunks.[1]
- If you have a potato masher, you can try that instead.
- The larger the chunks, the more texture your pancake batter will have.
- Add in eggs, baking powder, and cinnamon. In the same bowl, add 2 large eggs, 1/8 tsp (0.625 g) of baking powder, and a pinch of ground cinnamon. Use a spoon to combine all of your ingredients together until they form a runny batter with a few banana chunks.[2]
- Baking powder is an essential ingredient here—it's what makes the batter feel like pancakes instead of an omelette.
- The absence of flour means that these pancakes are gluten-free.
- Heat 2 tsp (8.4 g) of butter in a skillet. Drop your pats of butter into a skillet and turn your stove top on high heat. Wait until the butter melts, then pick your skillet up and tilt it back and forth to spread the butter out.[3]
- If the butter starts to brown, turn down the heat just slightly.
- Spoon the batter onto the skillet, then cook it for 2 to 3 minutes. You can decide how large or how small you'd like your pancakes to be. Pour the batter directly onto the heat of the skillet, then let one side cook for about 2 minutes.[4]
- To portion out your pancakes evenly, use a measuring cup to scoop the batter.
- Flip the pancake when the batter starts to bubble. Grab a spatula and slide it underneath your pancake. In one swift motion, flip the pancake over to cook the other side. When both sides are golden brown, use your spatula to take the pancake off the skillet and put it on a plate to cool.[5]
- Make the rest of your pancakes using up your batter. Now you can continue on with the rest of your banana pancakes! Make enough to feed the whole family, and save some for later by freezing the fresh pancakes to thaw out later.[6]
- If your skillet gets dry, add some more butter.
[Edit]5-Ingredient Banana Pancakes - Mash 2 bananas in a large bowl. Grab some ripe bananas that feel soft and ready to eat. Peel them, then put them in a large bowl. Grab a fork and start mashing the bananas until they're mostly smooth with only a few chunks left.[7]
- If you don't want to deal with mashing, you can also put all of your ingredients in the blender and mix them up that way.
- Mix in the eggs, vanilla, oats, and cinnamon. In the same bowl, add 2 large eggs, of vanilla extract, 1/2 cup (64 g) of quick-cook oats, and 1 tsp (2.4 g) of cinnamon. Use a spoon to mix all of these together until you get a runny pancake batter.[8]
- If you're using a blender, your batter will be smoother without as many chunks.
- To make this recipe a little less healthy and a lot more delicious, add in 1 cup (201 g) of chocolate chips.
- Heat some butter in a skillet. Grab a small pat of butter and place it in the center of a skillet. Turn your stove top onto high heat, then let the butter melt and spread around the pan.[9]
- Using butter ensures your pancakes won't stick to the skillet, and it also adds a little bit of flavor to the outside of your pancakes.
- Scoop out your pancake batter onto the skillet. You can decide how big or how small you want each pancake to be. Using a spoon or a measuring cup, pour your batter into the center of the skillet and let your pancake cook.[10]
- If your skillet is big enough, you can cook multiple pancakes at once.
- Let the pancake cook for 2 to 3 minutes, then flip it. When you see the batter on top start to bubble, grab your spatula and slide it underneath your pancake. In one motion, flip the pancake over onto the other side, then let it cook for 2 to 3 more minutes.[11]
- If your pancake is cooking too fast, turn the heat down. The goal is to get both sides to an even, golden brown.
- Garnish your pancakes with some yummy toppings. When your pancakes are finished, plate them up and drizzle them with some maple syrup or powdered sugar. You can also add some chopped nuts, like walnuts or cashews, for a crunchy texture![12]
- If you have any bananas left over, you can slice them up and add them on top.
[Edit]Vegan Banana Pancakes - Blend 1.5 cups (354 g) of oats in a blender. If you don't have oat flour already, you can make some at home in just a few minutes. Pour your oats into a blender or a food processor, then pulse it until the oats are dry and powdery.[13]
- You can also use all purpose flour instead of oat flour. This is just to make the pancakes plant-based.
- Combine the oat flour with baking soda, salt, and walnuts. In a large bowl, pour your oat flour (or all purpose flour), 1/2 tsp (4.2 g) of baking soda, 1/8 tsp (0.625 g) of salt, and 1/4 cup (32 g) of chopped walnuts. Stir the ingredients together just slightly to combine them all.[14]
- The chopped walnuts are optional, but they do add a nice crunchy texture to the batter.
- Add the mashed banana, vanilla, maple syrup, and plant-based milk. In a large bowl, mash up 1 ripe banana with a fork. Add this to your dry ingredients along with of vanilla extract, of maple syrup, and of plant-based milk (almond is fine).[15]
- You can use sweetened or unsweetened milk depending on your preference.
- Adding maple syrup to the pancake batter itself adds a hint of sweetness and keeps the batter sticky.
- Spray canola oil on a nonstick skillet. Put your skillet on the stove top and spray it with canola oil or cooking oil. Turn the stove top to medium heat and allow your pan to heat up for about 5 minutes before you start cooking.[16]
- If your skillet is nonstick, you might be able to get away with not spraying it with oil.
- Spoon pancake batter onto the skillet, then let it cook for 2 minutes. You can make your pancakes as large or as small as you'd like to. Use a spoon or a measuring cup to add some batter to the pan, then cook one side until it's golden brown.[17]
- If your pancake is cooking too fast, turn the heat down a little bit.
- Flip your pancake and let it cook for another 2 minutes. Grab your spatula and slide it underneath your pancake. In one fluid motion, flip the pancake onto the other side to cook the raw batter for another 2 minutes.[18]
- When your pancakes are done, top them with maple syrup and fresh fruit.
[Edit]Paleo Pancakes - Mash 1 ripe banana in a large bowl. Grab a banana that's ripe enough to eat, then peel it and put it in a large bowl. Use a fork or a potato masher to mash up the banana enough until it's in large chunks.[19]
- If you prefer a smoother batter, use a blender instead.
- Combine the egg, coconut flour, baking powder, and cinnamon. In the same bowl, put 1 large egg, 2.5 tsp (12.5 g) of coconut flour, a pinch of baking powder, and a pinch of cinnamon. Stir your ingredients together until they form a watery batter.[20]
- The egg and the banana will both provide enough moisture to make your batter thick and creamy.
- You can substitute almond flour for coconut flour if you'd like to.
- Grease a skillet with coconut oil. Grab a large skillet and rub some coconut oil on it to grease it up. Place your skillet on a stove top on medium heat and let it warm up for about 5 minutes.[21]
- Spoon the batter onto the skillet and cook it for 2 minutes. Grab a large spoon and use it to transfer some of the batter onto the center of your skillet. Let one side cook for about 2 minutes or until the batter starts bubbling.[22]
- For more measurement control, use a measuring cup instead.
- Flip the pancake, then serve them up while they're still warm. Grab your spatula and slide it underneath the pancake, then flip it over in one quick motion. Let the other side cook for about 2 minutes, then serve your pancakes while they're still warm.[23]
- You can top your pancakes with fresh fruit or maple syrup.
[Edit]Healthy Whole Wheat Banana Pancakes - Add flour, baking powder, cinnamon, and salt in a large bowl. Pour 1 cup (201 g) of whole wheat flour, 1 tbsp (14 g) of baking powder, 1/2 tsp (2 g) of cinnamon, and 1/4 tsp (1.4 g) of salt into a bowl. Use a whisk or a fork to stir the dry ingredients together.[24]
- You can find whole wheat flour at most grocery stores in the baking aisle.
- Combine the milk, banana, egg, maple syrup, and vanilla in a small bowl. Pour of oat milk, 1 mashed banana, 1 large egg, of maple syrup, and of vanilla extract into a small bowl. Use a fork or a whisk to mix up your ingredients until they're fully combined.[25]
- You can use honey instead of maple syrup if you have that on hand.
- Stir the wet ingredients into the dry ingredients. Pour your small bowl into your large bowl and stir the mixtures together. Keep going until they're just combined, but try not to overstir, as that could make your pancakes too cakey.[26]
- The batter might be a little lumpy with banana chunks, but that's okay.
- Grease a skillet with butter or coconut oil. Grab a large skillet and drop a pat of butter or some coconut oil in the center. Turn your stove top on medium heat and let your pan heat up for about 5 minutes.[27]
- Coconut oil is a low-fat option if you'd like to stick to a healthy version.
- Scoop the batter out onto a hot skillet. Use a measuring cup or a large spoon to add some batter to the center of the skillet. You can decide how large or how small to make your pancakes here, so get creative![28]
- Cook each pancake for 2 to 3 minutes on both sides. When the batter on top starts to bubble, grab your spatula and flip the pancake over onto the other side. Take the pancake off the heat when both sides are golden brown and dig in while they're still warm.[29]
- Top your pancakes with maple syrup and chopped walnuts for a crunchy treat.
- Mashing the bananas up and swiftly mixing around the batter will help enrich the flavour to the pancakes.
- Try mixing in other ingredients like nuts or chocolate chips.
[Edit]Things You'll Need - Bowl
- Spoon
- Measuring cup
- Cooking spray
- Griddle or pan
- Knife
- Fork
- Spatula
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| How to Convert a Percentage into a 4.0 Grade Point Average Posted: 22 Jan 2021 08:00 AM PST It can be a bit tricky to and convert a grade or a group of grades in the form of a percentages into a 4.0 GPA. Here are some simple methods to clarify how a percentage may be accurately converted into a GPA, based on a 4.0 scale. [Edit]Conversion Help [Edit]Converting One Percentage into a 4.0 GPA - Know the formula for converting a percentage into a 4.0 GPA. Let's use x to represent the percentage. The formula to use when converting a percentage into a GPA (with a scale of 4.0) is (x/20) - 1 = GPA.
- Plug the percentage into the formula and solve. Let's say you have an 89% in Geology. Just plug it into the formula to get the following:
- 89/20 - 1 =
- 4.45 - 1 = 3.45.
- The GPA equivalent of 89% is 3.45.
- Use the same formula if the percentage is higher than 100%. The process will be the same even if your percentage is higher than 100%. Let's say you got a whopping 108% in Algebra. Here's what happens when you plug it in:
- 108/20 - 1 =
- 5.4 - 1 = 4.4
- The GPA equivalent of 108% is 4.4.
- Consider using a scale instead. This may be useful depending on what you are calculating your GPA for. If you are calculating one grade at a time to see how they will add up for your high school GPA, then you may not have to follow this exact formula because all grades will fall within a range anyway. For example, if your grade falls within the range of 83-86, then depending on your high school, then you will have a B, or a 3.0, whether it falls on the higher or lower part of the range or not.[1]
- Check out your school's GPA system to figure out how to do this; some high schools have a slightly different range for what makes an A- vs. an A, a B vs. a B+, and so on.
[Edit]Converting Multiple Grades into a 4.0 GPA - Assign a numerical score to your each of your grades. Each grade that you get at the end of a class has a number equivalent on the 4.0 scale. Find a number equivalent for each grade that you get. Each school's numeral scores may vary slightly, so look into the GPA system at your school. Here is what the typical scoring system looks like:
- A = 4
- A- = 3.7
- B+ = 3.3
- B = 3
- B- = 2.7
- C+ = 2.3
- C = 2.0
- C- = 1.7
- D+ = 1.3
- D = 1
- D- = .7
- F = 0
- Add up all of your numerical scores. Add up the numerical scores assigned to each of your grades. For the sake of example, say you took English (C+), History (B), Math (B+), Chemistry (C+), Physical Education (A-), and Art (A-). That would mean you'd have: 2.3 + 3 + 3.3 + 2.3 + 3.7 + 3.7 = 18.3.[2]
- Divide your number by the number of classes you took. This is another way of saying that you will have to find the average numerical score. This will give you your final GPA score on a 4.0 scale.[3]
- In our example, we added up our numbers to get 18.3. Since we took six classes, we have to divide 18.3 by six. 18.3 ÷ 6 = 3.05 (or 3.1).
[Edit]Calculating Weighted GPA - Understand weighted GPA. Weighted GPA is the idea that some harder classes, like honors or AP, should be weighted to reflect an extra degree of difficulty. So, instead of the traditional 4.0 grade scale, a weighted scale can go as high as 5.0, reflecting a harder course load. The idea is that getting a "C" in AP Algebra is just as hard as getting a "B" in regular Algebra.
- Assign a numerical score to each of your grades. This time, use the same table as above, except add 1 point to each grade that you got in an honors or AP class.[4] Here is what the scaling system usually looks like:
- A = 5
- A- = 4.7
- B+ = 4.3
- B = 4
- B- = 3.7
- C+ = 3.3
- C = 3.0
- C- = 2.7
- D+ = 2.3
- D = 2
- D- = 1.7
- F = 1
- Add up all your numerical scores. Add up the numerical scores assigned to each of your grades. For the sake of example, say you took AP English (C), Honors History (B), Math (B), AP Chemistry (C+), Music Theory (B-), and Honors Art (A-). That would mean you'd have: 3 + 4 + 3 + 3.3 + 2.7 + 4.7 = 20.7.
- Divide your number by the number of classes you took. Again, you're just finding the average score. This will give you your final GPA score on a 5.0 scale. Note that you can only receive a 5.0 GPA if all of your classes are honors or AP and you receive an "A" in each class. Many students are required to take classes without extra degrees of difficulty, such as gym.
- In our example, we added up our numbers to get 20.7. Since we took six classes, we have to divide 20.7 by six. 20.7 ÷ 6 = 3.45 (or 3.5).
[Edit]Calculating transcript or research only courses For those with only a B.Sc. Transcript or Research M.Sc. (no courses taken), use this method. - Multiply the course Credit Hours by the letter grade equivalent (see below) to get the Quality Points.
- For example: (3 Credit Hours * 4.5 (A+))
- Total the credit hours in your last 2 years of study or in the last 60 Credit Hours (see above).
- Divide the total Quality Points by the total Credit Hours.
- Product: Credit Hours * letter grades)) / (Total Credit Hours); or
- (Quality Points) / (Total Credit Hours)
- Finished. This is your GPA.
- Calculated GPA /4.0 = X / 4.5
- If you would like, use a calculator to make the equation quicker and easier to solve.
- If your GPA isn't what you want it, or just isn't good at all, try to improve! Try to figure out what you need to reach your goal!
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| How to Accept an Apology Posted: 22 Jan 2021 12:00 AM PST Accepting an apology can be tough, especially if the person apologizing really hurt you. Maybe the apology isn't sincere enough, maybe you need more time to think about it, or maybe you just don't have the right words to express your feelings. However, once you make up your mind to accept the person's apology, you can say so with your words and then work on forgiveness by yourself. If the apology seems genuine and sincere, for your own sake, try to accept the apology and then act on that acceptance by practicing forgiveness. [Edit]Assessing the Apology - Pay attention to the phrasing of the apology. Note if they use "I" statements, such as "I realize now what I did was wrong and I regret what I did." This shows that the person is taking responsibility for their actions, a key part of an effective apology.[1] Also, listen to their tone of voice and their body language. Most people maintain eye contact and use a sincere tone of voice when they are apologizing. Avoidance of eye contact, or a flat or sarcastic tone, may signal that a person isn't being serious.[2]
- An authentic apology should be direct and heartfelt. For example: "I realize now that what I did was wrong and I regret it. I apologize for my actions and hope you can find a way to forgive me."
- Keep in mind that body languag can vary based on a person's background and disability. For example, someone with social anxiety might avoid eye contact while being sincere. However, apathy speaks all languages, so a person who is ho-hum about saying sorry will be evident.[3]
- Beware the "fauxpology" or non-apology. This can include such phrases as: "I am sorry you were offended by that"; "I'm sorry you feel that way"; "I didn't intend that"; "Mistakes were made but we can move on now", etc.[4] These types of "apology" are a form of distancing the person who is apologizing from the act that caused harm and shows an unwillingness to take responsibility.
- Watch for any passive aggressive phrasing in the apology. This may be a sign the apology is not genuine. If someone doesn't really want to apologize, they may be quick to point out how you were wrong, or blame you for most or all of what happened. This type of phrasing could be a sign that the apology is not heartfelt and is really a way for the person to pass responsibility or blame for what happened onto you or to not have to deal with the consequences of their actions.[5]
- For example, a passive aggressive apology might be: "Well, I asked you to go to the party with me, but you refused. I went alone and lied to you about it. If you'd said yes in the first place, I wouldn't have had to lie. Sorry."
- In the above example, this person may not be giving you an authentic apology and may just be leaning on a bad habit of using an insincere apology to get out of a sticky situation.
- Rely on your gut instinct. For all the analysis you can do on a person's intentions, often your gut instinct can be a good gauge of whether or not to trust and accept the person's apology. Take a moment to consider the apology and listen to your gut feelings about the person and their apology. Ask yourself:[6]
- Is your gut telling you the person is being honest and sincere?
- Did they ask for forgiveness and promise to not repeat the behavior? These are two key elements that are essential to a sincere apology. (The other key element discussed above is acceptance of responsibility and not blame-shifting.)
- Do you have any feelings of doubt or confusion around the person? If the apology creates in you a sense of "fear, obligation, guilt" (FOG for short or emotional blackmail), then it isn't an apology but rather a manipulation tactic designed to keep you under their control and to stop you from questioning their actions.[7]
- Does the apology to you sound sincere?
- Consider if you are ready to accept the person's apology. Before you accept the apology, you may want to consider the context around the apology and how well you know the person. For example:[8]
- If the person apologizing is a close friend or family member who already has a history of bad behavior, ask yourself if they're using apologies to try to avoid facing consequences. Prior bad behavior with promises to change that didn't eventuate can reveal a tendency to use apologizing as a crutch to evade taking responsibility for their actions.
- If a family member or partner is apologizing to you for something out of character and rare, you may be more amenable to accepting their apology.
- Is this person an habitual apologizer? In this case, it can be difficult to know when an apology is genuine because of their habit of excessively saying sorry can immunize you against their genuine apologies.[9] To move beyond their "I'm sorry," check they've taken responsibility, shown regret, asked for forgiveness and have promised to not do it again.
- Give yourself time or have a longer conversation if you need to. People make mistakes or hurt others for a variety of reasons. It's important that you are willing to move past the person's mistake, especially if they offer a sincere apology. If you are still questioning whether or not you believe the person's apologetic tone, you may want to have a longer conversation with them about your concerns.[10]
- This may be a better approach than accepting an apology you do not believe is sincere and remaining resentful or upset, despite appearing to be okay with the situation. It also allows you to express clearly what it is exactly that has hurt you and to identify the harm they've caused that you'd like them to address.
[Edit]Accepting the Apology - Thank the person for the apology. Start by telling the person you appreciate their apology and their willingness to make amends. This could be a simple, "Thank you for apologizing" or "I appreciate your apology, thank you."[11]
- Listen sincerely. It is both right and normal to expect a sincere apology but there is also a responsibility to genuinely listen to the apology. This means not interrupting, not criticizing and not starting an argument during or about the apology.
- Avoid brushing off the person's apology by saying "It's fine" or "It's nothing". This can hurt their feelings by making their apology seem unimportant and leave the situation unresolved. It can also give them a sense you are feeling hostile toward them, which can fester and prevent true resolution of the matter. If you need time to digest things still, make that clear, such as saying: "Thanks, I appreciate your apology. I am hurting still and just need time before I can feel that it's okay to trust this won't happen again."[12]
- Be willing to show gratitude to the person for getting up the courage to apologize and admit their mistake.
- Explain that your feelings were/remain hurt. Once you thank the person for their apology, it is valuable to make it clear that your feelings were/remain hurt and be specific about how the person has hurt you. This will indicate that you are being honest about your emotions and you are not being casual or flippant about the situation. You may say: "Thank you for apologizing. I was really hurt when you lied to me" or "I appreciate your apology, thank you. It hurt my feelings when you yelled at me in front of my parents."[13]
- Be clear and direct about how you felt when the person behaved badly, but don't use a passive aggressive tone and avoid criticizing them. Be as sincere and honest as they were when they apologized.
- Say "I understand" rather than "it's okay". Finish the acceptance by saying you understand why the person did what they did and that you are willing to accept their apology and move forward. You may say: "I understand why you felt the need to lie and I accept your apology".[14]
- Phrases like "it's okay" or "let's forget it" won't make it clear if you accepted the apology. It may also come across as flippant, belittling and disrespectful, especially if the person was serious about their apology. Try to remember that it takes a lot of courage for anyone to admit they're wrong about something and treat their attempt as genuine until proven otherwise.
- Reply to an apology text with clear, concise language. Getting an apology over text isn't as good as getting one in person, but it's the next best thing. If you do get an apology from someone via text message, you can follow the same steps as a normal acceptance, but make sure to spell it out clearly so the person knows how you're feeling. Don't let them off the hook just because they're not in the room with you, and make sure they know how much they hurt you.[15]
- For example, you could type out, "Thanks for your apology, I needed to hear that. I was really hurt the other day when you were ignoring me in class, but I understand what you were going through and how bad your day was."
- You can also request to talk to the person face to face or via video chat instead of texting about it.
[Edit]Putting Your Acceptance into Action - Try to get back to normal. You've accepted someone's apology—now what? Things might feel a little awkward at first, and you both might get a little uncomfortable. However, if you can push through that and change the topic of conversation or move on from it, you can begin to accept the person back into your life and get your relationship back on track.[16]
- Things might not feel normal right away, and you might still need some time after the person has apologized. Expect a little bit of a rough patch following the apology.
- You can even address the awkwardness (if there is any) by saying something like, "Well, that's over now. Should we get back to business as usual?" Or, "Okay, let's stop being so serious now."
- Work on forgiveness by practicing self-soothing. Although you accepted someone's apology, it might be harder to get over than you thought. When you think about the bad thing that happened to you, you might feel anxious, sad, or stressed all over again, which is totally normal. If you are working toward forgiveness, you can do some self-soothing methods, like deep breathing, meditation, or other self-care methods that relax you. That way, you can ease the pain of what happened and work on feeling better about the person you are forgiving.[17]
- Forgiveness doesn't happen immediately, and it may never happen at all. Be open to forgiveness, but don't expect it overnight.
- Suggest spending quality time with the person. Another way to put your forgiveness into action is to show the person that you are actively striving to accept their apology by setting the restart button. Suggest spending quality time together to show the person you still enjoy their company and want to continue to be friends. If you need to, remind them that you are working on forgiveness but that while pain is still fresh, ask that they don't try to act like things are normal again; after all, both of you are now trying for a new normal and that this is about healing after the harm.[18]
- Plan an activity where you both have to work together, like playing a sport, going on a day hike, doing a community class together, etc. This could show that you're willing to rebuild trust and renew friendship.
- Suggest doing something that you both enjoyed in the past as a way to show you're willing to move past any negativity and focus on the positive times instead.
- Be prepared if any issues or problems arise between you and the person again. While you should commit yourself to trying to fully trust the person again, especially if they give you a heartfelt apology and you accept it, you should also be on the look out for warning signs. These could be small moments that indicate the person may make the same mistake again or may be falling back into bad habits that could lead to an issue and the need for another apology. Try to steer the person away from making another mistake or hurting you again like they did before.[19]
- For example, if the person is starting to show up late for your dates again, mention it, as they may not be aware of it. Remind them that you find it hurtful when they do this. This may help encourage them to work harder.
[Edit]Dealing with Tough Situations - End the relationship if you can't move on. Forgiving someone is one thing, but forgetting is another. Even if you forgave someone, you might not be able to move on from what they've done. In that case, you should end the relationship for the benefit of both of you. Healthy relationships can't thrive if there's resentment on either end.[20]
- You can say something like, "I accepted your apology the other day, but I'm just not sure I can move on from what you did. I'm sorry, but I think we're going to have to split."
- Or, "Your friendship means a lot to me, but I'm still thinking about what happened last month. I don't think I'll be able to move on, and I need to take some time for myself."
- Be wary of people who continue their bad behavior. Giving someone a second chance is fine. But a third one? Or a fourth? There comes a time when someone is only apologizing because they know you'll accept it and they can walk all over you. If your friend or partner continues to do something bad and then apologize for it, they may not be apologizing for the right reasons. Eventually, you may have to end the relationship if they don't correct their behavior.[21]
- The best apology is done with actions, not words. If someone continues to do something that they know will hurt you, they aren't actually sorry about it.
- Agree with someone who over-apologizes. If there is someone in your life who won't stop apologizing, it's probably because they feel really guilty. However, hearing "I'm sorry" 20 times in a row can be grating, and it might make you feel worse than what they did before. To get the person to stop apologizing, try agreeing with them. Instead of saying "It's okay, it's fine," try "You know what? You're right. You did hurt my feelings, and I'm glad you're apologizing."[22]
- Usually, this will be enough to snap them out of it and it might make you both feel better.
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