| How to Improve Your Social Life in College Posted: 15 Sep 2021 05:00 PM PDT Going to college is such an exciting point in your life and you have the opportunity to make a ton of new friends. Even though everyone might feel like a stranger at first, there are so many opportunities to socialize and connect with your peers. If you've ever wondered how you can be a social butterfly on campus, look no further. We've put together a list of some of the best ways to meet new people and build relationships no matter where you're going to school! [Edit]Spend your free time on campus. - You're more likely to meet people in a shared public space. Rather than leaving straight from class and going back to your dorm, stick around on campus for a little while instead. Go to the dining hall to have a meal, pick up something to drink from a cafe, or find a study spot at the student center. Putting yourself out there on campus gives you a lot of opportunities to say hi to new people and potentially meet some new friends.[1]
- When people walk by, smile and say hi to them. You never know if they want to sit down and have a conversation.
- You could also mention something in your shared surroundings. For example, you could ask for a drink recommendation at the campus cafe.
[Edit]Go to university events. - Your university plans so many fun social events so students can hang out. Check your emails from your university or go on their website to check the event calendar. You may also find events listed on a bulletin board sponsored by student groups and community events. You can usually find events like guest speakers, concerts, or game nights you can attend to meet students that have similar interests as you.[2] Try to find a few events that you're interested in so you can schedule them in![3]
- See when your university's sports teams have games so you can go cheer them on.
- Some universities may also offer off-campus events, such as day trips to a different city.
- You're bound to find a club for people with the same interests as you. Look around your campus for fliers or browse the university website to see what clubs your school has. You'll find a good mix of academics, student politics, and general interest groups that are available.[4] Go to one of their scheduled meetings so you can hang out and meet some new people.[5]
- For example, if you're into writing and publishing, you may try to join the school paper or a creative writing club.
- Stay connected with the club through social media groups or pages.[6]
- Check your campus calendar to see if they have an involvement fair. Usually around the start of the school year, clubs will set up booths so you can learn more about them and sign up for their email list.
[Edit]Play an intramural sport. - Stay fit and bond with a team if you're an active person.[7] If there's a sport you've always wanted to try, see what's available at your school's intramural office. Sign up for a team and spend time together when you play your weekly games. You don't have to be the best player or be super competitive as long as you're having fun with your team![8]
- Intramurals usually cycle between sports every few weeks so you'll have multiple options throughout the semester.
[Edit]Get involved with Greek life. - A fraternity or sorority is great for making life-long connections. Fraternities and sororities are groups of your peers that put on a lot of social activities and events on campus. While they usually have a fee to join, you'll be able to spend time building relationships with the other members, attend formals and themed events, and develop friendships that could last a lifetime.[9]
- Being in a fraternity or sorority also looks really good on a resume since it shows employers that you're able to follow through with all of the work and services involved in Greek life.[10]
[Edit]Find a job on campus. - Meet a lot of students while you earn some spending money. Even though working may seem like it cuts into your social life, you can actually get to know a lot of other people while you're working. See if there are any opportunities on-campus to work so you can interact with other students and work with your peers.[11] Make a point to talk with everyone you come in contact with to open up and be more personable with your peers.[12]
- For example, if you work in the dining hall, you get to meet everyone who comes through to get food.
- Not every job will allow you to meet other people, like if you're doing custodial work. Look over the job description to see if there's potential to socialize.
- Make sure you can balance your work and academics so you can do well at both.
[Edit]Hang out with your roommate. - Try to get along so you can grow closer to them. If you're assigned someone to live with at the start of the year, take a chance to get to know them.[13] Schedule some times where you can hang out together in your room to watch a movie, play a video game, or study. Ask them about what they like to do in their free time so you can learn more about them. Hopefully, you can get along so you're able to meet their friends too.[14]
- Some universities let you choose your roommate when you move in, so choose someone you'll get along with if you know someone else at your school.
- Don't feel pressured to be friends with your roommate if you don't click very well. There are a lot of other people you can connect with on campus instead.
[Edit]Talk to your peers in your residence hall. - Your shared living spaces are perfect for meeting and hanging out. When you're in your dorm room, leave your door open to invite other people to pop in. Say hi as you pass them in the halls and let them know what room you're in so they're more likely to stop by. If there are common areas, like a kitchen or lounge, spend some time out there so you're more likely to talk with the other people you live with.[15]
- Be sure to attend any orientations that your resident advisor sets up since they could do some icebreakers so you can meet the other people on your floor. They may also have meetings and activities throughout the semester, so try to attend each one.
[Edit]Reach out to students in your class. - Build your network with people studying the same subject as you. While you're in class, keep an eye out for people that you think you'll get along with based on what they're wearing, what they mention in class, or just on your intuition. Sit next to the people you're interested in and introduce yourself when you have a chance. If there's a group project in your class, see if they want to work together so you can socialize with them even more.[16]
- Show that you're open and approachable by being attentive in class and actively participating in the discussion.
- Start a study group with a few of your classmates so you can help each other learn the material better and spend time together outside of the classroom.[17]
[Edit]Invite people to spend time one-on-one. - Plan a fun activity or hangout so you can deepen your friendships.[18] As you get to know the people you live with and your classmates, see if they want to get together outside of school. Ask if they want to go to a movie, hit up the mall, or hang out at a concert. Since a lot of other people get nervous asking to be friends, taking that first step shows you really want to connect with them.[19]
- For example, you could say something like, "Hey Adam, do you want to go grab a coffee after class today?"
[Edit]Schedule time to socialize. - Balance your time to see friends and focus on classwork. Even though you should make time to relax and hang out, make sure you leave enough time for your studies. Slot some time every day to focus on your schoolwork and study so you don't fall behind in class. When you're positive that you have enough time to complete all your work, give yourself some extra time to see your friends.[20]
- Stay connected with your old friends from back home too. Plan phone calls or talk in a group message so you don't lose any other friendships.
- We know college can feel like a scary and lonely time, but remember you're not alone! Other people might be feeling the same way you are, so just take the first step and start a conversation with them![21]
- If you're just starting college and need to attend a freshmen orientation, try to chat with some of the other students there so you start making friends early on.[22]
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| How to Lead With Integrity Posted: 15 Sep 2021 09:00 AM PDT Integrity has become a buzzword, but what does it really mean? You have integrity when your actions and words are in line with your values. Simply put, you talk the talk and walk the walk! This is crucial when you're trying to lead—whether it's a team of co-workers, fellow classmates, or your children. By developing self-awareness and treating others with respect, you'll be on your way to effective leadership. [Edit]Develop a code of conduct and live by it. - Every directive you issue or action you take should reflect your standards. Try to do this as soon as you start leading so everyone's on the same page. For instance, if you tell them that initiative is very important to you, you might expect them to complete independent projects on a regular basis.[1]
- Remember, integrity is the alignment of your actions with your values or moral beliefs.
- Hold yourself accountable, too! For example, you might say to your team that telling the truth is important, but if they see you lie to get a promotion, they won't trust you or feel like following your rules.
[Edit]Keep your word. - Make good on your promises so people know they can rely on you. If you offer to do something or give a reward, follow through on it. You may not mean to break your word—it can be really easy to put things off or forget. Make a point of fulfilling your promises in a timely fashion so you build trust with your team.[2]
- You want your team to believe and have confidence in you. They'll be more likely to complete their jobs and come to you if they need your help or feedback.
[Edit]Take responsibility. - Do everything that's asked of you and be responsible for your team. You're probably accountable to higher-ups so you're responsible for getting your own projects done. Finish every job you're given to the best of your ability. You'll also be held responsible for your team's work, which is why you should encourage them to do their best.[3]
- Not sure what your boss would want you to do? Don't be afraid to ask so you know exactly what's required of you. If you can't ask, take the initiative to do the job as best you can.
[Edit]Be selfless. - Put the team or other people's needs before your own. Instead of asking yourself if something will benefit you, ask yourself if someone needs the help or if you can help your group accomplish something. Being selfish won't inspire others to follow your lead, but showing consideration can encourage others to step up and help out.[4]
- Think of it this way, if you've inspired people to reciprocate and help you out, then great! It's just a bonus.
[Edit]Accept feedback. - People want to be appreciated and feel like they're contributing. Listening is a simple, but super effective way to show great leadership. You might learn a better way to do something and your team will feel valued.[5]
- To foster an atmosphere of open communication, have people work collaboratively. You never know what will spark new ideas or projects.
- Be prepared to accept criticism without taking it personally. For instance, if someone tells you that they find you intimidating, think of ways you can relate to them that will put them at ease. It might mean spending a little more time small talk with them.
[Edit]Admit your mistakes. - Be honest with people so you can rebuild trust. We all know that people make mistakes and that goes for leaders, too. Show your team that you're a person who's trying to do better when you mess up. Point out that you've made a mistake and let them know that you're trying to fix things. They'll have more respect for you going forward.[6]
- This is so much better than denying or being unable to admit fault. People don't want to work with someone who won't take personal responsibility.
- For instance, you might say, "I know we were supposed to get a shipment today, but I didn't order it in time. I'm sorry I messed things up, but I'm going to go get the supplies that we have to have to get through today."
[Edit]Be humble. - It's hard to maintain integrity if you don't respect others. Remind yourself that just because you're the leader, it doesn't mean that you're better than the people you're leading. Instead, find something that you value in each person and remember to treat them with respect.[7]
- If you're humble and respectful to your staff, team, or children, they'll try to earn your respect.
[Edit]Recognize accomplishments. - A great leader raises up their team so they're inspired. Don't take credit for yourself. Instead, point out when people under your leadership excel. You'll also earn their respect if you acknowledge their contributions instead of claiming them for yourself.[8]
- Be specific with your praise. Instead of saying, "Good job, team," say, "Alex, I appreciate how many hours you spent on this project. Jaimie, you were so helpful at rounding up donors."
[Edit]Hold others accountable. - Address behaviors that go against your values. At some point, you'll probably encounter behavior that you don't approve of. Don't ignore it since this would show others that you accept the behavior, but don't fly off the handle either! Pull the person aside and talk with them. Tell them that their behavior was not acceptable. There's no need to get personal—stay polite and professional so they know to correct their behavior going forward.[9]
- For instance, if you saw an employee giving discounts to their friends, let them know that it's against your policy and if they continue doing it, you'll have to end the discount. You might explain that it's a benefit for people who work at the company.
- If you're encountering the same misbehavior from several people, it might be worth it to have a meeting or send out a notice reminding everyone of the values you're trying to enforce.
[Edit]Listen to diverse viewpoints. - You want people with different viewpoints who will challenge you. If you lead people who are just like you and who are afraid to speak up when they have concerns, you may not make the best decisions. Instead, work with people who offer a unique perspective or viewpoint so you become a more effective leader.[10]
- For instance, if you don't feel comfortable with people of a different race, working closely with them can help you become more sensitive and aware of others.
[Edit]Manage personal stress. - No one wants to snap at someone in anger! If you're parenting, teaching, or leading a team, you'll probably deal with frustrating situations on a regular basis. To prevent yourself from saying something you'll regret or overreacting, try a stress-management technique that helps you calmly deal with the situation. Here are a few that work for some people:[11]
- Meditation
- Reciting positive mantras
- Deep breathing
- Stretching or yoga
- Need some real-life inspiration? Study people who are known for their integrity. These might be humanitarians, business people, world leaders, or religious figures, for instance.
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| How to Craft Candles in Minecraft Posted: 15 Sep 2021 01:00 AM PDT Candles are a new lightsource added in the 1.17 update that are crafted using string and honeycomb. They are used as an alternate source of light and can be used to spruce up uneaten cakes. [Edit]Gathering Materials - Find at least 1 string. Each candle needs 1 piece of string to craft. String can be obtained by: killing spiders, striders, and cats; or by breaking cobwebs or the tripwires that naturally generate in jungle temples. String can also be found in chests in dungeons, desert temples, pillager outposts, woodland mansions, and bastions.[1]
- Get 2 iron ingots. Iron ingots are primarily obtained by mining iron ore and smelting either the ore block or the raw iron that comes from it. Iron ore can be found from Y-levels 0-63 in all biomes.[2] Iron ingots may also be found in chests in mineshafts, dungeons, buried treasure, desert temples, jungle temples, shipwrecks, pillager outposts, villages, woodland mansions, strongholds, end cities, nether fortresses, and bastions.[3]
- Craft a pair of shears. Open a crafting table or your inventory and place the 2 iron ingots diagonally next to each other.
- Find a bee nest. Bee nests can generate in plains, sunflower plains, flower forests, forests, wooded hills, birch forests, and birch forest variants.[4] Look for bees flying around in these biomes and follow them back to their nest.
- Craft a campfire. Campfires are used to make the bees non-aggressive so you won't be attacked for harvesting honeycomb. To make a campfire, you'll need 3 sticks, a piece of coal or charcoal, 3 logs, and a crafting table. Open a crafting table and place the 3 logs in each slot in the bottom row, then put the coal or charcoal in the middle of the middle row. Place a stick on either side of the coal/charcoal and put the final stick above the coal/charcoal.
- Place the campfire below the bee nest. It doesn't have to be directly below the nest, but the smoke has to be able to reach the nest. Make sure there are no blocks covering it that prevent smoke from coming through.
- Wait for the bees to fill the nest. The bees that live in the nest will come out during the day to get pollen from nearby flowers. They will then go into the nest and gradually fill it up with honey. You'll know the nest is full and ready to harvest when you see yellow honey coming out.
- Use the shears on the nest. Once the nest is full, hold the shears in your hand and use them on the nest. This will give you 3 honeycombs.
[Edit]Crafting and Using Candles - Craft a candle. Open a crafting table or your inventory and place the honeycomb and string in the crafting grid. Make sure the string is directly above the honeycomb.
- Dye candles. You can make different colored dyes by placing flowers, cocoa beans, lapis lazuli, bonemeal, beetroot, and ink sacs in a crafting space. You can also get dyes by smelting cacti or sea pickles, or by combining different dyes in a crafting table. To dye candles, place a candle and dye in a crafting space. You'll need 1 dye for each candle you want to color.
- Use candles as a lightsource. Unlike torches or other light sources, candles aren't lit up when placed, you'll need to use a flint and steel or fire charge to light them. A flint and steel can be crafted using flint, which is obtained by mining gravel, and an iron ingot, which is obtained by smelting iron ore or raw iron. Once you have a flint and steel, place up to 4 similar colored candles on a solid block and use the flint and steel on them.
- A single lit candle emits a light level of 3, and each candle placed and lit on the same block increases the light level by 3, leading to a maximum light level of 12.[5]
- Candles can be extinguished using water or by interacting with them again. You can also throw water bottles on candles to extinguish them.
- Place candles on a cake. If you hold a candle in your hand and use it on an uneaten cake, the candle will be placed on the cake.[6] You can then use a flint and steel on the cake to light the candle.
- If you eat or destroy the cake, the candle will be dropped.
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