| How to Approach a Girl in a Group at a Bar Posted: 13 Sep 2021 05:00 PM PDT Approaching a girl who catches your eye at a bar can be intimidating, especially if she looks busy having a great night with a bunch of friends. Of course, you don't want to let that make you miss an opportunity to meet someone who might end up becoming someone special in your life. Anytime you approach a woman, be polite and respectful if she doesn't seem interested in talking to you. More importantly, don't listen to any of the "pickup" advice online—it can steer you in the wrong direction. This list will give you some ideas for how to approach a girl in a group in a healthy, respectful way. [Edit]Make eye contact with her. - This lets her know you might be interested in talking to her. Glance over at the girl and try to make eye contact before you approach her.[1] Don't stare or hold eye contact for too long or it can come across as creepy. Just glance over, make eye contact, maybe flash a little smile, and go back to talking to your friends.[2]
- If you make eye contact and the girl looks uncomfortable or turns her back to you, those are probably signs that she's not interested in talking to you.
[Edit]Walk over and say hi to everyone. - A simple hello is much better than cheesy lines or superficial compliments. Walk up to the group, say "hi," and introduce yourself. Make sure you're saying hello to the whole group and not just zeroing in on the girl you're interested in. Saying hi to everyone may help you make a good impression.[3]
- For example, say something like "Hi ladies, my name is Josh, how's your night going?"
- Always approach a girl from the front so she can see you coming. Coming up from behind is creepy and threatening.
[Edit]Engage everyone in conversation. - You want to win the favor of the whole group, not just the girl you're into. Make sure to keep talking to different people in the group or the group as a whole. If you hyper-focus on just the one girl, her friends might not approve and won't accept you into the group.[4]
- For instance, you could ask everyone to introduce themselves instead of focusing on 1 person.
[Edit]Practice respectful body language. - Show that you're interested without being aggressive. Stand close enough to the group so you look interested and open to a conversation, but not so close that you're violating their personal space. Keep your palms open and your head raised so you look relaxed and approachable, too.[5]
- Try not to cross your arms when you approach—this can make you look closed off.
[Edit]Be confident, not cocky. - There's a fine line between being confident and coming across as a you-know-what. If you're feeling it, you can work an appropriate joke or a nice, non-superficial compliment into the conversation.[6] Just be you and try your best to let your normal personality shine without trying too hard to impress the girl.[7]
- There's no "rule" for how to show confidence. If you're normally a pretty funny person, you might try to make the girl and her friends laugh. Just stay away from topics like politics, religion, etc.
- If you're a naturally more reserved person, you can show confidence simply by carrying on a conversation with the girl.[8]
[Edit]Invite a friend over to the group. - Having a friend there can take some of the pressure off you. They can talk with the girl's friends while you focus on having a conversation with the girl who caught your eye. If your approach seems to be going well, as in the girls aren't ignoring you and seem interested in talking, wave at one of your friends and motion them over to join you and the gang.[9]
- Say something to the group when you do this, like: "Hey you guys should really meet my friend Ben, he's right over there." Then give Ben the signal to come on over!
[Edit]Direct your attention to the girl. - Try to flirt with her in subtle, charming ways. Flash her a smile and continue maintaining eye contact as you talk. Also, try taking up a little more space throughout the conversation—according to some researchers, this is an effective, nonverbal way to flirt.[10] Offering a compliment is another classic option you can try.[11]
- You might say, "You look absolutely stunning tonight" or "I feel so lucky that I was able to bump into you tonight."
[Edit]Ask if you can buy her a drink. - That way, it's clear which girl you're interested in. Politely ask if you can buy her next drink. If she says no, leave it at that and don't push the matter. It's normal for girls to be apprehensive of receiving drinks from strangers because, unfortunately, there are a lot of dirtbags out there who might slip something in their drinks at a bar.[12]
- Try saying something like: "Hey, what are you drinking, a margarita? Can I buy your next round?"
- You can also offer to buy her friends some drinks, too. If they say yes, ask what they want to drink. If they say no, well, you saved some money![13]
[Edit]Try to break away from the group. - If the conversation is going well, break away with the girl to talk 1-on-1. If the bar has activities, like a pool table, darts, or another bar game, ask her if she wants to play with you. Or, if the bar is too loud and you're having a hard time hearing each other, ask if she wants to go to a quieter part of the bar with you and talk.[14]
- For example, you might say something like: "Hey, do you like pool? I just noticed there's a table over there, want to play a match with me?"
- Or, you could say something like: "Hey I really want to keep talking to you but it's hard to hear you right here by the bar, want to go sit at that table over there with me for a bit?"
[Edit]Leave if the interaction feels forced. - It's hard interacting with a group of girls, and sometimes an exit is the best option. If the conversation turns awkward or, even worse, there's just awkward silence, wish the group of girls a good night and leave. If the girl is interested in you, she'll probably look for a way to come talk to you later.[15]
- Remember that not everyone goes out to a bar to meet potential love interests. They might be having a reunion between close friends, celebrating something special, or consoling a friend over a breakup, for example.
- If at any point during the interaction the girl says "no" to something, respect that. If someone says "no," it means "no," plain and simple.
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| How to When Do You Put on Concealer Posted: 13 Sep 2021 09:00 AM PDT Are you confused about when to put on concealer, and what products you should apply before and after? Are you just getting started building a makeup routine, or have a feeling you've been doing it wrong all along? We've got the answers for you, so read on to learn all about using concealer! [Edit]Do you apply concealer before or after foundation? - Most makeup artists say to apply foundation first. Foundation is meant to form the base for your look—it evens out your skin and reduces any blemishes or discoloration—so it makes sense to start with it. If you apply concealer first, you might just end up smearing it away from the spots you originally applied it to when you add on foundation![1]
- You can go in with concealer first if you have really dark circles or look tired. After that, you'll still want to apply foundation and if necessary, even another light layer of concealer.
[Edit]Can you wear concealer without foundation? - Yes, if you're going for a more natural, no-makeup look. If you don't have too many spots to cover up and don't want to do a full face of makeup, you can just apply concealer to the spots where you need some extra coverage. This can help your face feel lighter and cut down your makeup routine time.[2]
[Edit]Should concealer be lighter or darker than foundation? - Both, to account for sun exposure and different usages! Daily sun exposure causes your skin tone to shift slightly on a regular basis, so having two shades of concealer handy helps you account for this. Another reason to make sure you have both lighter and darker concealer is that different shades are used for different effects.[3]
- For instance, use a slightly lighter shade for under eye circles or as a highlight for contouring.
[Edit]How do you apply concealer? - Use your fingers to dab or pat concealer on the spots where you need it. Start under your eyes, then around your nose, mouth, and the center of your forehead—these places tend to have more discoloration. Use gentle tapping or stippling motions, rather than smearing or rubbing, to blending your concealer into your skin. Resist the urge to use too much concealer, since this may cause your look to become cakey and less natural.[4]
- If you have more acne-prone skin or other skin conditions, you can cover your whole face with concealer if you need it.
- If needed, you can use a concealer brush or sponge for extra blending.
- Make sure to set your concealer with powder over your entire face after to keep it in place.
[Edit]Do you put on moisturizer before applying makeup? - Yes—use a moisturizer to hydrate your skin so you have a clean canvas. Starting with a clean face before applying any other makeup is important for smoothing out product application. It also keeps your makeup in place with minimal creasing or smudging.[5]
- Apply moisturizer after exfoliating—like after you've washed your face or used a cleanser.
[Edit]Do you need primer before makeup? - Not necessarily—it depends on factors like skin type and the kind of foundation. If you have more sensitive and oily skin, for instance, primer could cause irritation and breakouts. You could also choose to skip primer if you don't need your makeup to last the whole day. Since some functions of moisturizer and primer overlap (both create a barrier to prevent foundation from clogging your pores), you might be able to get away with just using a moisturizer to prepare your skin—but it depends on your desired look.[6]
- Some types of moisturizers are better substitutes for primer than others; others are even designed specifically to double up as primers!
- Some foundations can actually work better without primer, while others might rely on primer to last longer.
- Moisturizer isn't always the perfect substitute for primer, which might have additional effects like mattifying and color correction.
- If you keep your concealer clean and well-sealed, it can last up to a year and half before it needs replacement. You should also replace your concealer if it changes color or begins to smell.[7]
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| How to Reduce Your Greenhouse Gas Emissions Posted: 13 Sep 2021 01:00 AM PDT Are you worried about your impact on the environment? As you juggle work, family, and personal time, it can be hard to keep track of your carbon footprint, or how many greenhouse gas emissions you typically release into the environment.[1] Don't worry. We've put together a list of some easy, helpful ways you can reduce these emissions, while possibly saving some money in the process. [Edit]Audit your home's energy use. - Ask your utility company if they can send you a "report card" of your energy usage. Then, look over your report really carefully. This audit can help you figure out what your household is doing well, and how you can improve in the future.[2]
- If you have the time and resources, you can hire a professional auditor to inspect your home and offer energy-saving advice.[3]
[Edit]Recycle regularly. - Memorize what can and can't be recycled around your home. Paper, tin cans, and steel typically can be recycled, as can many plastics.[4] Check the bottom of your plastic containers for the triangular recycling symbol with a number in the center. Then, hop on your state or region's website and see which numbers are recyclable in your area.[5]
- Feel free to send any broken electronics to your local electronics store. If your electronics are still in good condition, give them a new home.
- Don't put regular waste in your recycling bin, like garden hoses, syringes, or broken glass. Instead, toss these items in the trash.
- Ask your kids to help, too! Let them know what can get tossed in the trash and what can go in the recycling bin.[6]
[Edit]Compost your waste. - Food waste can create methane when left in landfills. To stop this from happening, set up a composting system for your household instead.[7] Compost breaks these food scraps into safe, eco-friendly waste that you can reuse in your home garden.[8]
[Edit]Shut off your lights and electronics. - Turning off unneeded electricity is an easy, helpful way to lower your carbon footprint. Before you leave your home, switch off any lights and unnecessary appliances.[9] While you're at it, turn off any other electronics, like TVs and computers.[10]
- Power strips and surge protectors are a handy way to shut off multiple electronics at once.
- You could also unplug your electronics completely when you aren't using them.
- If you have kids at home, encourage them to unplug their video game consoles and other electronics once they're done using them.[11]
[Edit]Install LED lightbulbs. - Traditional, incandescent lightbulbs use a lot of energy.[12] LED lights are a little pricier, but they use a lot less energy and can last over 20 times longer than a traditional bulb.[13]
- Some environmental advocates recommend switching to compact fluorescent lamp (CFL) bulbs. While CFL bulbs are better than incandescent lights, they still aren't as energy-efficient as LED bulbs.
[Edit]Set up solar lights. - Solar lights are powered by sunlight instead of fossil fuels.[14] Place these lights in a bright, sunny area, so your lights can stay illuminated during the night.[15]
- Solar lights operate best when their batteries can soak up 8 hours of sunlight a day, but they can still work in less sunny areas.
- You can buy solar lights at home improvement stores, or at online marketplaces.
[Edit]Raise or lower your thermostat. - Adjusting your thermostat during cold and warm weather can lower your emissions. When it's really hot outside, turn your thermostat up higher than you normally would. Similarly, lower the thermostat by during the winter months. Believe it or not, these small adjustments can make a big impact on your carbon footprint.[16]
[Edit]Lower your water heater temperature. - Set your heater to instead of . This small change can make a big difference in your carbon footprint—and chances are, you won't even notice a change in your baths and showers. Besides just saving energy, lowering your water heater will also save you money on your bill.[17]
[Edit]Do your laundry with cold water. - Cold water creates less emissions than warm or hot water. If you do around 2 loads of wash each week on a cold water setting, you can actually reduce your annual carbon dioxide emissions by up to .[18]
[Edit]Switch to a low-flow showerhead. - Low-flow showerheads lower your carbon dioxide emissions.[19] Stop by your local home improvement store and see what kinds of models are available. Once you make the switch, you might save up to of carbon dioxide overall.[20]
- Taking short showers is another great way to lower your carbon footprint.
[Edit]Get less at the grocery store. - Only buy what you need when you go food shopping. Plan ahead for the coming days and weeks, so you have a rough idea of how much food you'll need. Then, check your refrigerator to see which ingredients you already have on hand, so you don't buy something extra by mistake. Reducing your food waste is a great way to lower your carbon footprint overall—plus, you'll save money in the process![21]
- Don't throw out your extra ingredients if you end up buying too much. Instead, freeze them for a later meal.
- In the United States, the average household actually wastes about 40% of their food.
[Edit]Try out a plant-based diet. - Meat-based diets aren't great for the environment. Cows, which make up the red meat industry, create a lot of methane emissions. Instead, think about making the switch to a vegetarian or pescatarian diet. If you really want to lower your carbon footprint, give the vegan diet a try.[22]
- A pescatarian diet is where you cut out meat, but still eat fish and seafood.[23]
[Edit]Buy sustainable or recycled clothing. - Believe it or not, clothing is a big source of waste. Unfortunately, a lot of clothing manufacturers don't make high-quality, sustainable clothing. As you shop for new clothes, look for a fair trade logo on the garment, or stop by vintage or secondhand shops. If you have a lot of unwanted clothes, donate or repurpose them instead of tossing them out.[24]
- Shopping for clothes sustainably can help lower your carbon footprint overall.
[Edit]Drive your car less. - Biking, walking, and using public transit are great alternatives to driving. Unfortunately, cars are responsible for a lot of greenhouse emissions. If you can, look for ways you can travel on foot or by bike.[25] Grabbing a ride on a train or even carpooling with friends are other great ways to reduce your carbon footprint.[26]
- If you're on the market for a new car, consider switching to a hybrid or electric vehicle. If you live in the US, look for "SmartWay" vehicles, which are endorsed by the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA).[27]
[Edit]Maintain your car. - The way you drive your car can increase or decrease your carbon footprint. When you hit the brakes or gas pedal really quickly, you end up wasting fuel and decreasing your car's mileage. Instead, do your best to drive carefully and within the speed limit. Additionally, get your car inspected regularly—this can help boost both your mileage and fuel economy.[28]
[Edit]Fly less often. - Air travel creates a lot of greenhouse gas emissions. If you fly pretty frequently, look for nonstop flights instead of routes with a lot of layovers, as jets create more emissions when they're taking off and touching down. While you're at it, purchase an economy ticket instead of flying business class, which is more environmentally friendly.[29]
- A small economy seat only makes up a fraction of an airplane's total emissions, while a first-class seat makes up a larger percentage.
[Edit]Invest in energy-efficient appliances. - Shop for appliances with an Energy Star label. The Energy Star label helps you identify the most energy-efficient appliances on the market. All kinds of appliances, like air conditioners, water heaters, freezers, furnaces, and refrigerators, can come with this label. While they're a bit pricier up front, Energy Star appliances will actually save you money in the long run.[30]
[Edit]Contact your government representative. - Invite your kids to design a postcard, drawing, or letter. Explain the basics of climate change to your children, and what the government can do to help. Then, let your kids unleash their creativity through postcards, sketches, and handwritten notes, where they can ask the government to address climate change in the community. Mail everything to your local mayor or government representative. Even if you don't hear back, remind your kiddos that they're making a difference![31]
- You could invite your kids to draw a picture of the Earth, or sketch pictures of nature and wildlife.
- Vote for government officials who support green policies.[32]
- Bring reusable shopping bags with you whenever you head to the store.[33]
- Consider switching your home to a renewable energy source, like solar or wind energy.[34]
- If you have the option, watch movies on a smart TV instead of a game console, as smart TVs use a lot less energy.[35]
- Plant a tree in your backyard. Once it's fully-grown, a tree can soak up to 1 ton of carbon dioxide in its lifespan.[36]
[Edit]Warnings - Don't set your refrigerator or freezer lower than you need to. The United States Department of Energy suggests leaving your refrigerator between , and your freezer around .[37]
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